Hate being pitied?

Yes, you're not alone. You just wear your fake smile and say "Yea, awesome too here, we should meet sometime " and never see them again. If you don't like being pittied don't share your personal problems with random happy people.

 

Being pitied is awful.

 

I hate it and I've been pitied a lot in the past due to a serious car accident and losses of family members. I don't pity anyone now, and I don't do it on purpose. I just don't feel any pity. That doesn't mean that I'm a bad person, though. I like the idea of solidarity and I'm there if someone needs help. I just... don't know, I feel and act as equal to them.
For me, pity is something between compassion and disgust. I can show compassion but not pity. Don't ask me how, if you feel it, you just do it. Nobody has ever tell me not to pity them.

 

Yeah, I hate it. It seems to be the death of respect, or anyone thinking you competent.

 

I can't think of when I was pitied, I'm the type to bottle up everything and silently brood. It really irritates me when people pity others though, as if they think pity helps anyone.

 

Pity is like "You're helpless and don't worth as much as me but you didn't choose it, poor you. you need me because you can't achieve anything"
Compassion is like "you're worthy and, if you want my help, i'll offer it because i believe in you and what you can be, and i believe we're equal".
I really can't describe it well, especially in english.
I agree with you totally.

 

Yeah. Certainly don't mind a little insight or as Anatasia put it, some compassion.

But man. Pity. Get that shit all the time when I mention I'm transgender online. It's the worst. There's a difference between (again, as Anatasia put it), emphasizing with someone's issues and turning the conversation into a pity party about the issue. You cease being a person and just become "poor pathetic transgender I must pity".

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Edited for preferred name

 

Call me Anastasia please, I'm going to put it in my signature xD

 

Dont mind it at all actually. I dont hide my emotions from anyone, nor do I lie about them. I think thats bullshit; pity me Idgaf.

 

They can also misconstrue your intentions, like talking about your problems to raise awareness, but they think you do it just to gain pity. It's why i don't talk about life before college, hardly ever, but i this is common for anyone who has suffered. The terminally ill for example often try to hide it because people will act differently.

 

I absolutely hate being pitied. I don't tell very many people about my past because I worry that they'll see me differently and want to treat me differently as well. I wouldn't care if I only had a short amount of time to live; I do not want pity! I want to be treated like I've always been treated. I know people like to show empathy, and that's fine. But don't overdo it and treat me like I'm some fragile bag of glass. ._.

 

I talked to a priest today. He was trying to sound compassionate but it came off as pity. The priest: "You have an especially heavy cross to bear being gay and disabled. You should offer your suffering to God." I'm thinking; "Here, God. You can have my suffering. I don't want it any more."

 

Ugh I hate when people pity me. It's degrading.. It's almost as if they look down on you from their pedestal of money and happiness.

EDIT: That's not to say I don't abuse that sometimes :3 I've been known to work things off of people's pity sometimes lol

 

Yup, I find it to be very annoying.

 

I've noticed (at least to me) that its the people who have everything going for them who pity you, but when life falls apart for them, they want nothing more than to have people feel sorry for them.

My friend who is a relationship tells me things like, "Oh you'll find someone as great as my boyfriend one day!" or things like "I'm so sorry for you, but one day things will get better. I mean they did for me! Its not impossible for you."

Look sweetie, my life is fine. I hate when people pity me like I need them to feel sorry for me. People have been doing that to me all throughout my life, and I just got tired of it. You want to pity me? Make sure you're perfect, and stay that way.

 

I think empathy is much more constructive than pity. I'd like people to try to look at things from my perspective and to take my background into consideration in their interactions with me - but I agree with all of you that pity is just annoying.