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Your response to someone asking if you were gay?

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  1. puppy1000

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    What do you say if you are not quite out yet... and some ignorant people ask you this question in a rude and insulting way?
     
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    None of your business!
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    Are you straight? (in the same tone)
     
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    ask them
    "Why does it matter to you?"
    "Why should I tell you? I don't even know you."
     
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    I tell em 'I'm bisexual, got a problem with that? Cause if you do, I could care less'
     
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    Ask them if they woke up on the wrong side of bed today?
     
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    So you do care at least a little? :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: Saying you don't give a crap is "I couldn't care less."
    /pedantic

    I would probably say "Sort of." Hehe
     
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    I used to say they're crazy and that it doesn't concern them. Of course now I don't really mind at all.
     
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    I usually just walked away or questioned why it mattered to them.
     
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    Yep. Are you straight?
     
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    :confused: So have I been the only one to pull the crazy card? I've had people ask me but I usually just answer them randomly sometime like I know where you sleep. They usually leave me alone after that.
     
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    What if you were not simply able to walk away, like it was class or your partner for a project or a new roommate? Ignoring works but I would feel really uncomfortable
     
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    Hmm well if i couldn't walk away I would just ask them why they even care?
     
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    Usually, I just say something like "Why thank you." Since I'm percieved as a lesbian and all... Ahem.

    But as far as anyone accusing you of being gay goes, if staying in the closet's imperative, could say no (don't be defensive- that'll be a red flag) or just ask why it matters if you are or not.
     
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    That's a hard one, if you answer yes you'll more than likely be seen in a different light. But if you answer no, how are you going to feel living in a false light? I believe most of us have faced this challenge. Do what you see fit to do, look inside yourself long enough and you'll find the answer.
     
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    Shhh! No one supposed to catch the hint that I care a lil. :lol: xD jkjk though yeah I do care a little bit because I do care about people's opinions of me.
     
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    If I've known them for a while or at least talked to them, then I just tell them "Yes." But if they just ask me out of the blue and I don't know them, I just don't answer. I've had some girls in my college classes just ask me without even saying hello to me and I just ignore them. None of their business. I don't ask who their banging :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    "Soooo gay."
    "Yes, what´s it to you?"
    "What if I was?"


    Depending on the person and situation, but mocking them is about my first natural reaction when people are rude.
     
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    If they're asking for purposes of gay bashing, anything but "No, fuck off" will be interpreted as "Yes".

    It's a shitty situation to be in. It's none of their business and of course saying no is a lie. In the past I'd reply "Are you?", knowing i already had a gay label that wasn't going anywhere.

    If that clearly isn't their intent, I'll just say yes.
     
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    If I know them and consider them a friend I say 'yes'
    Random guy: ' Why you interested' in a sarcastic voice. This basically throws 'are you gay back at them and they back down.
    Random female: Usually gets something similar to one of the above depending on what I think their motive is
     
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    If the person is being rude/insulting I'll say back in a confused tone "Are you attempting to come onto me?". If they're asking me with that 'I see you as a guy in drag' tone I'll say "Yes, I am a lesbian who likes women very much. Why?" and then chuck out the previous 'coming onto me' line. And if they're stubborn enough to keep pressing the issue I'll ask why they're so eager to get me into my pants. Then I'll say something like "Well, you are coming across as awfully aggressive about what I do in my bedroom. I'm just saying being that interested in my sexuality tends to make a person wonder...". They'll usually walk away all huffy by that point.