Gay guys: Are you more comfortable around women?

More comfotable around other guys

 

I definitely was when I was in primary school. In fact, I'm pretty sure some of my classmates suspected I was gay from that many years before I worked it out. Since then I've been pretty equally comfortable with girls and guys though. I certainly wouldn't fit in with the jocks that you've been describing, but perhaps I've just been lucky enough to attend a high school where not all guys are like that. And at college and university, I've almost exclusively been friends with nerds so...

But yeah, I think I probably have similar numbers of guy and girl friends at the moment.

 

definitely not

 

This question has so many variables.

If the group is all women(more than 2-3), then no.
If the group is all straight men and homophobic, then yes.
If the group is all gay men or accepting men, then no.
If the group is mixed and the males are peacocking, then yes.
If the group is mixed and lgbt or accepting, then no.

For me it comes down to the conversations and if I can anticipate what might be said. I've been in groups of all women and I don't enjoy myself at all. If its just one or two girl friends then I'm usually fine.

I don't like group settings where any of the people are trying to show off or have to 1up someone or pick on others. Or when a friend acts totally different towards me because others are around. I'm the one that calls people out and tells them to stfu because no one is interested in that. I also will just leave or never involve myself in any social setting that makes me uncomfortable or upset.

TLDR: No, I prefer the company of my male friends.

 

I dont mind really .

 

I guess it's just as equal as my attractions now that i think of it. Hmm things are starting to come together lol

 

I think it's more about the personality of the people. I hate the straight guy/douchebag/low iq kinda type, but really I don't have trouble talking to those who are less like that, those who don't feel a need to constantly assert themselves like many of these guys I mentioned earlier do. Then again I do kinda get along a lot better with girls. But there are those kind of girls I just can't stand as well, like the overly pretentious "pretty" girls, if you know what I mean.

 

Mixed bag. I mean, granted, most of my close friends are female. Tends to be because either I knew them before I came out or we're fellow writers. Frankly, tends to be a female majority in the writing field (at least as far as critique group representation goes).

Not as comfortable around straight men. I dunno, unless they're an ally (or happen to be trans*), not much to go off of. Other queer men- get along just fine, easier than I tend to do lately with women.

 

I'm not comfortable around women at all. I prefer to be around men.

 

Looking back over time, I'd have to say I'm more comfortable around men. When I was a kid, I played (not like that) with other boys from school and in the neighborhood. I opened up to having women friends late in high school and in early college when I was having a rough time upstairs. I then went back to having a larger share of male friends. Many of the women I was friends with are no longer friends, except for a few who are sincere friends, don't trespass boundaries, and are respectful. The rest faded, because there was sometimes a mean spirited exchanges, a conflict of interests, or because they got married and our lives pulled us apart. It's a lot easier for me to hang around guys. My only suggestion is don't befriend a guy you're also attracted to. I've never done it.

 

id say im more comfortable around guys, girls are something else

 

This thread is interesting in a way. Some gay guys, who are, for lack of a better descriptor, Kinsey 6s, even in their teens or 20s, have already established patterns of having almost exclusively male friends or exclusively female friends. I've often wondered why that is.

 

I always have been. Men, or at least str8 men, intimidate the HELL out of me...using the men's restroom is the most terrifying experience ever, so basically unless there's a family bathroom, I just hold it :\

I just get along better with girls in general. Especially gay girls, OMG why do more people not realize that gay boy + gay girl = friendship made in heaven? Same community, same interests, and ZERO sexual attraction on either end

Soo, yeaah, almost all my friends are girls. The only boy friend I would want in my life would be a BOYfriend, and grrr I want that baad, haha. I would have gay guy friends, tho, probably if I knew more but then it might get awkward for the same reasons str8 people don't have a lot of opposite sex friends..

 

I suppose I'm more comfortable around women, just based on the sole fact that I tend to get along with them better and make friends with them easier. But that being said, my relationships with men last much longer than they do with women and I'm much often more emotionally invested. I think my relationships with my family (which is mostly comprised of women) probably affected my relationships with non-family female friends.

I should also mention that in general, I'm extremely awkward around anybody, regardless of gender.

 

I've always felt more comfortable around girls. I feel weird around guys. :dry: I just get along better with girls.

 

I don´t know what to do with or say to girls, unless they are into cars and act like a guy, basicly.
So, more comfortable around other men.

 

Well, yes and no. I am usually more comfortable around women, but I don't understand them and sometimes I don't want to deal with the drama.

I am also comfortable around guys that aren't my type. There's no attraction and no shyness. If the guy is my type and cute, I turn into a shy, clumsy mess.

 

I think women appreciate some of my humor more than men do. More men like it than women, but some women get it better than some men. I do it around both though.