Fluid Sexuality

It has been suggested that biologically we all fall somewhere in the homo to hetero continuum even if we do not act on it.

Statistically, I could only find for the U.S. And it appears than it is more common in men. Based on my own experience, I know more men who are than woman.

 

I don't believe in sexual fluidity. You're either straight, gay, bi, or asexual. I have heard, however, that bisexuality is more common in woman.

 

I would not be surprised if that many men found other men attractive, but do not admit it.

I think men are generally more quiet about it, perhaps from fear of judgement. From what I have observed, women tend to do it in front of an audience, while men do it behind closed doors. I have dated a couple of men who admitted to being bisexual but they kept it very private.
I have problem meeting women for this reason, because it is hard to tell if a girl is just having fun or actually is into women, you know?

 

I guess I do not understand :icon_redf

Do you mean men being more than attracted to other men, in an romantic way, not just appreciating their attraction?

 

I personally believe any fluidity that might exist is purely within the bisexual spectrum.

Some bisexuals feel strongly towards one sex one day, then the other sex some other days.

I also personally believe that anyone who identifies as straight or gay but who feels 'fluidity' is really just bisexual.

 

I can actually attest to being fluid in the most remote form possible.

When I was working on a certain video, I knew I was gay. Or I'd accepted the fact that, for the most part, I was homosexual. However, part of me required to look at another certain video that had the main girl from Gurren Lagann. For the first time ever, I was having a total boner over her, and I couldn't get it down.

I haven't had an experience like that since, but I'm probably not going to go the rest of my life without a few more of those.

 

What would this mean for those of us who have switched labels several times in life? Some would argue that we're confused, in-denial, or closeted, but for those who truly believe they were this or that at one time, these explanations don't do any justice. In the end, it's more about how a person chooses to label themselves... even within the straight, gay, bi, and asexual communities, there's too much diversity to say one person's homosexuality is the same as the next's.

As far as comparing bisexuality in men and women... my personal opinion is that society first should drop its ridiculous double standards between the two before we even attempt to go there. If men are too afraid of judgment to label themselves as bisexual, it'll be tough to get a more accurate read. No help that there are gay and straight men who insist, "Bisexuality doesn't exist in men, only women" so there's that extra pressure to "pick a side".

Though, we're only talking cismen and women. If you look at the trans community, for example, there are some very interesting expressions of sexuality, with a lot more diversity in the equation. I've known of people who have made complete 180s after transitioning, for example.

Yeah, at first I thought it was just policing against bisexuals from the heterosexual community, but was surprised to see there are gays who will also insist someone who labels as such but shows fluidity is actually bisexual.

 

I believe that some people can have false attractions. That is what happens to girls that think they are bi in puberty, but end up straight when they become adults. A lot of times when I feel anxious or just very horny I experience false attractions. They aren't the same as real attractions. They have made me very confused in the past. I think I'm a lesbian, but I'll probably wait until I'm more sure of myself before I tell people. I have come out as bi in the past, but I don't want to date guys.

 

I don't think most people's sexuality is fluid, but I won't also deny that its possible. Saying everyone is fluid is a bit like saying everyone is bisexual - its not true, and it pisses people off.

 

It's debatable. The idea is that, using percentages to be accurate than Kinsey numbers, people who identify as solely gay or straight can only actually be 98-99% gay or straight. I don't know whether that's true. I identify as Kinsey 6, but could the right girl come along? I seriously, seriously doubt it but you never know until it happens.

 

OK, so this thread is dead but I'm going to post anyway...

I think that sexuality is fluid because when I was younger I was only attracted to guys. I think I always had the potential for bisexuality, and it was only until 15+ that I felt attraction to girls. This attraction has increased as I've gotten older.

If I didn't think sexuality was fluid, then I'd have a hard time trying to fit in my same-sex attractions with my being 'straight'.

 

I find more women are fluid.

I have several "straight" friends who have had sex with a woman, more than once, but are "straight" as far as relationships go. They have no...desire to be with a woman, but have had sex for the sake of sex with another woman. Just for pleasure.

However I know men, who have had emotional attachments to men, but can't have sex with them. they can't "get it up" for a guy.

I think biologically speaking, women have more fluidity when it comes to sexual desire. But this is just my opinion from what I've seen and heard.