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Why do daft guys find lesbians hot and daft girls find gay guys hot ?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Beware Of You, Sep 27, 2013.

  1. Beware Of You

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    Some shallow guys seem to find two girls together as some hot thing which is well objectifying lesbians , and the same can be said about those girls who want a "gay best friend" its like we are some object that exists to satisfy shallow girls
     
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    Stereotype alert...

    I've never understood the fascination some str8 guys have with girl-on-girl action...mff 3way action I can sort of understand, in the twisted sense of "oh i'm so much of a stud I can satisfy two girls at once", and forbid there would be two guys and two girls, that would be, like, gay or something...

    On the flipside I can see two main reasons for the str8 girl fascination with the gbf.
    One is that some gay male friends can be seen as non-threatening or non-committal to some females. Non-threatening in many ways including "won't get me pregnant". The other is based on a portion of the gay male population who has the fabulous fashion gene, and some females assume we're all gifted with some supernatural sense of fashion. Same females who think that just because their hairstylist is gay they look better.

    At 6am probably makes more sense in my head than on keyboard....
     
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    I find it amusing when people see things like that. Because then I start to ask them questions like "Oh, what about two men?" and "Oh, well then why are two girls better?" At that point they either get really nervous or really retarded. Either way is amusing to me :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes:
     
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    Straight guys sometimes like lesbians because lesbian action = twice the girls. The inverse is sometimes true for straight girls. Friendship-wise, they may also like gay people of the opposite gender because, as Awesomeyodais said, there's no "threat" of romantic feelings developing.
     
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    Hmm, I have to ask this: most of my male friends are gay and I find man+man sex hot, so that makes me automatically shallow? Or did I misunderstand?
     
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    I don't think it does, SilverSnow, unless you hang out with them to fulfill fantasies about male/male sex and want them to, ah, perform for you and so on. Otherwise? Just a girl with gay friends. :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm with them because they are my friends who just happens to be gay, there is no "hidden issues" in it :slight_smile:
     
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    straight guys like the thought of lesbian porn cause they are attracted to the people in video the same way gay guys are attracted to guys having sex and lesbian are also attracted to two women together , what i dont understand is the straight girls i know would rather have a threesome with someone from each gender than two guys ,
     
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    OP, I understand neither - straight guys watching lesbian porn and straight women wanting gay male best friends.

    For me, lesbian porn projects into real life and signifies that if one was in a relationship with a woman who wanted to indulge, then it would have to be an open one. Those don't rock my world. I prefer being single than being in an open relationship. Maybe I think too much.

    I know very few women who like gay guys as their best friends, but I do know a few. I won't elaborate since I'll get called on it for profiling. I'll say that, in college, it really seemed to be linked to the major. All of the straight pretty girls I knew who were interested in boys had NO time for gay guys, as they were dating several guys, and figuring out who to slot into their schedules. I think that the woman who is straight, does not date or avoids it, and collects gay male friends has intimacy issues. I don't know what they're all about, but that's the read I get.
     
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    I'm attracted to girls and so the idea of two of them being together is quite naturally something I find alluring. I don't know what's shallow or objectifying about that unless I were to expand this into something like only seeing lesbians as sex objects or something else ridiculous, but of course I don't do that. So no. It's neither daft nor shallow in it's rawest form, it's merely sexual attraction.
     
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    Or maybe we just tend to get along with gay guys? They aren't like pokemon to be collected, but I tend to easily befriend gay men. About half of my best friends are gay men. I don't think it's fair to suggest I'm shallow or broken because of who my friends are.

    The tone of this thread is just nasty.
     
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    I can definitely understand why straight guys like to see two girls doing "stuff". Girls finding two guys making out 'hot' is probably less common, though that might be because of social pressure. I personally find that two girls kissing, for example, is more accepted than two guys doing the same.

    Girls like gay guys because... well... we are FABULOUS. Kidding aside, I think most of those girls find it interesting how we are guys but are not likely going to hit on them, thus being safe like said above, and how we also like guys (common interests). Aside from that I think most girls feel a whole lot more fabulous with a ~fabulous~ gay guy by their side. Like "oh look at me I have a gay bff".

    Of course this is not always the case, but in most of these friendships most of these things do play a role. Since I came out to my best girl friend, we've gotten a lot closer because we have another shared interest and everything that comes along with that - and when other people say they don't mind that I'm gay, she'll make it clear that she DOES mind, because she likes the fact that I'm gay. Our friendship has always been great and close, but it's like our friendship has been upgraded since I came out.
     
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    I'm not sure we can generalize, since the subjective reasons for someone finding two people of the same sex hot are probably as numerous as the number of people who find it so in the first place. Now, consciously seeking out gay men and women solely to reap certain "benefits", whether they be real or perceived, is what I would consider shallow, since the friends are being valued as a commodity before individual.

    I find sex in general hot, whether between man-woman, woman-woman, man-man, etc. but learned long ago not to take pornography at face value. I'd rather read an erotic novel or dramatic movie with characters I can relate to any day of the week. Some people are limited in their creative capacity, and only see genitals or gender, but that's never been an issue for me -- it's two human beings connecting and pleasuring one another, something that anyone should be able to understand and see value in.
     
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    A lot of threads run that risk. I'm sorry if my assessment came off that way. As for the women, I was referring to women who I believe are Kinsey 0/1 types and, in a way, can be a little belittling to some of the men they know. One way this manifests itself is when they tell you of a friend, as in "Oh, Brian is my best friend. He's gay. I feel like I can tell him everything." I could do without the gratuitous second sentence. It's this situation I was addressing specifically.

    If a woman is lesbian or bisexual, and gets on with gay men quite well, that would put a very different spin on the situation. I just don't like the condescending and patronizing attitude of some straight women.

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    Yes, I'd agree, having had nice long fingernails jabbed into my forearm, along with a squirm, at a general release PG-rated movie when two mainstream male movie stars kissed. And this was in a major urban center. Go figure.
     
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    I can't say why straight guys seem to think they have a chance with gay girls, but I can honestly say, as a guy attracted to women, that gay girls having sex turns me on. Why, I don't know.
     
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    Hmm... Thing is that I'm a lesbian and most of my female friends are straight. They don't worry about me getting feelings for them. Or is the fact that I'm a girl different?
     
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    Ya know I have heard the M/M and the F/F and most of the GW (F/F gay)that I know do not want anything to with a man short of as a friendship and as I have heard them say let them bang their heads together for all they care. and most straight GW that I know think its gross of two men together let alone two women. But the one that puzzles me the most is some men that want a trans woman that has the never region equipment that works. they don't want a CD they want a trans first that is young and has to be passable. the only thing that I can think is that they are looking for a excuse not to admit that they are gay, Beside being a closet pervert. by that I mean a 50+ wanting a 18 - 25 yr old now as I see that its bordering on them beside being gay but also almost a pedo. but that is how I see it. it seams like the better percentage of between the sexes the men are the ones that have a broader mind on what they find expectable to fill their fantasy's.
     
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    It doesn't make a difference. I know gay guys who have plenty of straight male friends and the question of these gay guys hitting on them is never posed. They have no problem with them. In fact, the girls in my year are more homophobic than the guys and there are some who've publicly stated their disdain for lesbians.
     
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    They just find that kind of stuff attractive.
    What's not to get, and how does it make them 'daft'?