do you wish you came out earlier?

I don't regret not being out at high school... coming out at college would have been okay but wouldn't have made much of a difference... but I really wish I'd come out earlier at university. Like, at the start of my first year preferably. I feel that I may have missed out on some experiences because of it. But I guess I just need to make sure I can have those experiences before I finish. Better late than never!

 

I came out to one friend telling her I thought I was a lesbian, when I was 13 and her reaction was enough to scare me from telling people for a long time. She said it was "gross" and "nasty" and to "get away from her". I should have not cared, but the problem is at that age my self esteem was quite fragile.

 

I definitely do. I've known about myself for as long as I can remember, but I never had the courage to say I was gay until I was 17. I knew my sister was gay since I was 12...I dunno why I didn't tell her earlier. I guess I was convinced I couldn't handle being gay, and I'd just live my life alone...and then seeing her with her gf made me realize what I would be missing out on.

 

I do and I don't. Things are working out okay, so I guess it's not bad that I've come out now. But maybe if I had done it earlier I would have had an easier time :/

 

If wish I had joined the LGBT society when I went to university. I might have had the opportunity to meet other gay people and maybe even have relationships. That seems almost impossible to do out here in 'real life' and when your focus is on work, etc.

 

I was out in middle school, so that's whatever. But, I do wish I was more vocal about being trans* when I was a kid and maybe then (highly doubt it) that my family would have done something.

 

I don't know if I wish I'd come out earlier, but I DO wish that when I told my best friend in Seventh Grade that I thought the boy with the locker across from mine was cute and he responded by asking me if I was a you-know-what I'd told him to fuck off and not let people like him dictate my life. So it's not that I wish I'd been out younger, but more that I wish I'd been open with myself when I was a lot younger.

[For the record, we stopped being friends after eighth grade]

 

I wish I had come out in my twenties. It's hard to stay out all night clubbing when you're thirty-five.

 

I've been thinking of this lately and I am pretty sure I wouldn't have been able to handle it when I was in school, hell I can barely handle it now some days lol.

 

Absolutely. I came out when I was 14, and I desperately wish I came out to everyone when I was 12.

 

Yeah, I really wish I had come out earlier instead of waiting until I was 19. I know that's pretty young to begin with, but I could have made so many more friends and I might have even had a boyfriend by now had I been out by my freshman year of college.

 

I simply wish I wasn't so scared. My fear of being who I truly was saw me miss out on some awesome experiences.

 

Yeah, I wish I had come out to everyone when I knew, 15. Less secret-keeping. But I wasn't ready for others to know yet.

 

I didn't come out until I was 28. I do wish I had come out when I was 20 or so, and enjoyed being gay in college. I also wish I had moved away to go to college. If I had done that it is likely that I would have come out.

C'est la vie

 

Yes, I wish I would have done it earlier. Bravery is something you should act and not learn with years. I came when I was like 24 or 25 years old and it was just because I let the world make feel ashamed of how I was. But nor anymore!! I am a left handed person, so from the very beginning I was being spotted for being different, I embraced it and thought "screw the world, I am going to be me and if you can't accept it then that's your problem".
Hugs!!!

 

I wish I could have just slapped myself and accepted I was gay and would just be happy with who I was. That would have solved A LOT of my problems growing up. And being more open I think would have been better than hiding who I was to everyone, including myself.

 

I wish we didn't have to "come out" and could just start dating whoever and no one would care.

 

Absolutely. Spot on. :eusa_danc:eusa_clap

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Absolutely. Spot on. :eusa_danc:eusa_clap

 

Although it might not have been possible with the people I was hanging out with at the time, I wish I had come out at 18 and done a few other things differently.

I don't think there would have been anything spectacular about being out in high school. It would have been nice to be honest with myself at that time so I could have at least found some gay friends and do a bit of experimenting, even if I was in closet.