How do you act when someone suspects you're gay?

I tell them, mainly

 

I usually try to befriend them, smile, give them plenty of eye contact, show interest in what they have to say. I usually stay away from getting too "touchy-feely" until we know each other a bit better. Any physical contact is something to be very careful about - testing the waters with small gestures is good to get a feel for how comfortable the other is.

But in all honesty, if I'm interested in someone, and I think there is a possibility they may reciprocate, I'll just ask them to a movie or something like that.

For same-sex relationships, there's of course the added complexity of figuring out their orientation. Usually eyes are a dead giveaway. If another man has any interest in you... he'll let you know in his eyes. The obvious ones will just look up and down and check you out, less obvious ones will look directly at you, and the shy ones will always try to avoid eye contact because for those split seconds they do look at you, they get very flustered.

Don't rely too much on stereotypes like mannerisms, because they aren't always spot on. Think of them more as supplemental evidence of one's orientation rather than a direct indication.

 

Fortunately, the people that I've genuinely crushed on have always professed their feelings to me first. I can initiate physical contact, but I shut down when it comes to verbally expressing my feelings.

 

If someone suspects I am gay and they ask the question, how I reply depends on how and why they ask. If they're just being mongrels, I don't really answer the question or even better, I reply; "Why, do you want some?"

If they are not being mean spirited, I just say that I'm not. It's the honest answer for me.

 

Nowadays I usually confirm their suspicions.

 

Depends on the person. If it's a person that I've just met, I'll just tell them nope. It's not a lie because I'm figuring out where I stand and I can't really answer the question with any certainty, nor do I feel the need to confide to a relative stranger that I'm questioning.

My friends have never asked me this question before. I suppose if they would ask me now could give them a bit of an explanation. Dunno about that for now though.

 

No one ever suspects I'm gay -.-

 

Same here, despite my new-found freedom to act and dress as I please...doesn't bother me anyway. I tell those who need to know.

 

I act normally. Usually if they're really curious about my sexuality they'll ask questions like, "Do you have a girlfriend? Why not? You're just deciding you don't want one? Tell me why you don't want one!"

They usually try to push it out of me. I almost never tell them straight up because if they want this, they're gonna have to work for it.

 

Nobody thinks I'm gay at all :|

 

No one has ever "Suspected" I was gay [or Bi for that matter] so much as accused. So usually my responses have been along the lines of "No, fuck off!" >><<

 

I'm just kinda like "Umm, duh?". I don't try to hide who I am, anymore.

 

I'm usually straightforward about it, but last weekend I was at a party with some friends who I'm not out to, and there was this man who got all offensive saying he would never wear the red trousers I was wearing and that I was probably going to rim someone when I went home. He asked if I was gay and I denied. It really annoyed me though, if it wasn't for my friends I might have lost my temper.

I came out to my friends afterwards though, so I guess the fella helped me in a way.

 

Just me? Just me.

 

:roflmao:

 

No one thinks I'm gay either :/ and if I suspect that someone is gay and try to flirt they think I am just having a laugh and not being serious because no one thinks I'm gay *facepalm*

 

Man, if only wasn't so fearful of being me when I was in my late teens and early 20's for I was asked out by so many fellas of my age group at the time. Well, asked out on dates and asked for just sex. I must have been glowing with gayness.

 

Uhh...I...umm...

*Backs away slowly*

 

Too few people accuse me of being gay. If anything I have been boldly asked by too many gay men if I am straight.

I take straight acting to the nth power - or so it seems.....

(sigh) this might be why I spend so much time single....