Do you think fantasies can show your sexuality?

Yes. if our dreams, fantatsies and thoughts don't determined who we are, then what does?

 

Who you masturbate to, or have erotic or romantic dreams about, is often a decent indicator of one's sexuality.

 

I disagree with the two posted above me for many factual reasons; many people who claim to be straight people have occasional dreams/fantasies that would be contradictory towards their orientation and has been proven in a United States poll overall, WHAT REALLY MATTERS most importantly is HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT THESE FANTASIES. Do they turn you on? off? Indifferent? Meh? Only one of those can answer your question.

- Sources: I entered EC questioning these things myself and have learned from fellow users on my first post from the get go that they were merely meaningless in the end

 

I had a few dreams with lads from school in them . as for err playing with my self:icon_redf be lying if I said no .

 

Yep. If you otherwise consider yourself straight and yet fantasize about your same sex, I've got news for you. ride:

 

My answer is similar to unknown's. Some people will have thoughts or images that appear without warning and start to panic and question if they aren't straight. This is completely natural. However, it's questions like how often? Do you like it? What exactly did you think or dream about?

So I think while sometimes it does point you in a certain direction don't completely take it as the truth.

 

Yup, I had guy dreams and thoughts long before I really never hit puberty, and even after in my denial phase, thank God that's over.

 

I don't think they're a particularly reliable indicator. I've heard of straight people who have mostly same-sex fantasies, and gay people who have mostly different-sex fantasies. It's not uncommon for people of all orientations to enjoy fantasies of things that they would never want in real life (e.g. rape).

However, that doesn't mean fantasies should be completely ignored, for they can point you in the correct direction. As with everything else, they need to be considered within the greater context of your experiences.

 

I don't really know on this one. As above- sometimes fantasies can be contradictory to your predominant orientation, and also they're exactly that: fantasies. Which means it isn't necessarily within the bounds of your real life behaviour.

Also from my experience, I'd add that fantasies can sometimes be pretty abstract (e.g. fantasising about a same-sex member but one who doesn't have an identity/face), which does make things less than straightforward.

Overall, I'd say you could make a case for your orientation based on your fantasies, but it isn't a solid, definite indicator.

 

When I was little, I used to have fantasies about kissing the guy actors in the movies I watched and I have no idea what gay was back then.

So I can agree with that.

 

I would say if the same sex is all you primarily fantasize about and enjoy it, you can be pretty sure you're not straight. And if you go out of your way to masturbate to the same sex, then yeah, that's a pretty reliable indicator. It was for me at least...

 

I have a very vivid imagination and always fantasize when I masturbate. If I can't visualize an erotic sex act while wanking I have trouble getting aroused. And it's ALWAYS about sex with men so the answer to this one is easy. I've even tried to fantasize about women and it just doesn't work. I like looking at women and find them attractive but have no desire to have sex with them.
One more thing: My fantasies aren't always strictly about sex. I often visualize myself in an affectionate lasting relationship with lots of cuddling and shared good times.

 

I've never been with a guy or even come close to being with a guy. So if I didn't have fantasies to fall back on, I probably wouldn't have figured out that I was gay.

 

That is an interesting question. I've wondered this myself. My fantasies (like eyes closed in bed) often gravitate towards men where as if I'm just wanting to look at pictures I look at women. I think fantasies have a tendency to show what you might be repressing as you feel safer thinking about something than you do having a hard drive full of pictures of what you like.

 

Yes, I remember I had my first gay fantasy when I was 13. It scared me to be honest

 

No, it's not always a good indicator. The gender of the people in the fantasy doesn't always have much to do with the fantasy itself. While you can't completely ignore them as a factor in your sexuality, I've known aces with giant pr0n stashes and straight women who like yuri.The kind of pr0nz you f*p to isn't a good way to tell if you are gay/bi or not. Besides, a lot of humans have some bi tendencies. It's our culture that causes people to have to be in the closet. :icon_sad:

 

Yes definitely. It's usually a major part of your sexuality in my experience. You only fantasise what you like or lust after, after all.

And also if your masturbating to something such as gay porn like me . That's a fantasy since your loving what your doing. X

 

I've had some (disturbing) dreams about getting with female friends of mine, so I hope not.