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Condoguyhfx · 1st Jun 2008, 04:39 PM

Would love to start a forum for guys over 40 and the challenges that we face given that fact we are considered to be past our prime in the gay world. (snicker).

Seriously though, would love to hear from guys over 40.

**Lexington** · 1st Jun 2008, 04:45 PM

Welcome to EC!

I'm close - 38.

You might try over at our "sister site". That one has a lot more folks over the age of 21...and over the age of 40, as well.

Lex

beckyg · 1st Jun 2008, 07:40 PM

Maybe we could have a section here for the other 35 crowd. Hmmm....some people just don't like all the "stuff" that comes with our "sister site" although some do!

1st Jun 2008, 07:46 PM

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Originally Posted by beckyg

Maybe we could have a section here for the other 35 crowd. Hmmm....some people just don't like all the "stuff" that comes with our "sister site" although some do!

Good idea, however I won't wait 20 years for being able to watch that section

**Lexington** · 1st Jun 2008, 08:09 PM

Trust me - if it's a 40+ section, or even a 35+ section, I'm gonna doubt there'll be a "show me your stuff" page.

Lex

jason1111 · 2nd Jun 2008, 05:08 PM

I'm 36 and would wonder what its like to hear from people my own age.

sexyalex · 2nd Jun 2008, 06:51 PM

wow!

a senior citizens club...on EC!

beckyg · 2nd Jun 2008, 07:17 PM

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Originally Posted by sexyalex

wow!

a senior citizens club...on EC!

Alex....

I believe a senior citizen is somebody over the age of at least 60!

s5m1 · 2nd Jun 2008, 08:42 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sexyalex

wow!

a senior citizens club...on EC!

Is it time for your diaper change yet, Alex?

**Lexington** · 2nd Jun 2008, 08:56 PM

>>>a senior citizens club...on EC!

Yeah, alex, whoda thunk it? People with driver's licenses and pubic hair!

Lex

LorenzG1950 · 3rd Jun 2008, 05:06 AM

The idea for a section that deals with “older” folks is pretty good as long as it doesn’t get too restrictive. Ideally, it would be a forum for inter-generational issues and questions. On the other hand, I’d hate to post something in the “over 40” section when the brilliant advice could come from a 15-year-old who might never look in the “oldie” section.

I’m more interested in the topic than the age of the author. As far as exchanging information with older gays

, PM works quite well without boring the rest of EC.

Just my thoughts

.

If there were a separate section, I would certainly contribute as time permits.

And thanks, Becky, for giving me 2 more years before I join the "seniors"

.

Bromptonrocks · 3rd Jun 2008, 05:24 AM

Sign me up, now!

I agree somewhat with Lorenz. There is some brilliant advice around from the younger members.

However, we don't have to restrict access to anyone so long as everyone realises it's primarily for those of a "certain age".

No harm in seeing if it takes off?

3rd Jun 2008, 05:34 AM

I feel left out

lol

3rd Jun 2008, 05:43 AM

I'll get the oxygen tanks ready

panda · 3rd Jun 2008, 07:49 AM

I'm interested in which brand of "Depends"(That's Adult Diapers) works the best .

Paul_UK · 3rd Jun 2008, 09:01 AM

Personally I am strongly against anything that suggests we are segregating specific groups of EC members.

If we started having separate sections for lesbians, bisexuals, transexuals etc people would soon complain. Or sections for people of different races or countries. Having a section for a specific age-range is just the same. It is an arbitrary and completely unnecessary division IMO.

We are already a minority group in society, and I am unhappy about anything that suggests we are dividing ourselves into further minorities.

panda · 3rd Jun 2008, 09:23 AM

Agreed Paul. I consider myself an honoured guest in EC. Being an "Old Guy".I derive a great deal of spirit from the youth in EC.
At times I wistfully muse about the " If only I had.....at that age " line of thinking.
There's no need for special sections.
The existence of EC as it stands has helped me a lot and now and then I'm able to give a bit back,as well as having fun.
Thank you EC.

**Jim1454** · 3rd Jun 2008, 12:40 PM

Condoguyhfx - there really isn't a need to have a separate section for older guys. There probably aren't enough of us to warrant it.

In addition, because there are so few, I notice posts / threads from the 'older' members and always make a point of reading and responding to them. It isn't necessary to have a separate section.

PMs also work quite well - as I communicate with many of the people that have posted here through PM as well as through the forum.

Finally, I'd agree that everyone - regardless of age - can have worthwhile suggestions on almost any topic. I like to offer my wisdom (gained with time) to some of younger members, and I appreciate hearing their perspectives on things.

Besides - who said anything about us being past our prime at 40? At age 37 I'm in a new relationship with my partner, and I feel rather 'ageless'. My age is totally irrelevant.

As the late James Brown exclaimed: I feel good!

1st Jun 2008, 04:39 PM	#1
Condoguyhfx Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Halifax Age: 47 Posts: 10 Join Date: Jun 2008	Over 40 Would love to start a forum for guys over 40 and the challenges that we face given that fact we are considered to be past our prime in the gay world. (snicker). Seriously though, would love to hear from guys over 40.

1st Jun 2008, 04:45 PM	#2
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,370 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Over 40 Welcome to EC! I'm close - 38. You might try over at our "sister site". That one has a lot more folks over the age of 21...and over the age of 40, as well. Lex

1st Jun 2008, 07:40 PM	#3
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Over 40 Maybe we could have a section here for the other 35 crowd. Hmmm....some people just don't like all the "stuff" that comes with our "sister site" although some do! __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

1st Jun 2008, 08:09 PM	#5
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,370 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Over 40 Trust me - if it's a 40+ section, or even a 35+ section, I'm gonna doubt there'll be a "show me your stuff" page. Lex

2nd Jun 2008, 05:08 PM	#6
jason1111 Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: I live outside of Toronto Age: 40 Posts: 54 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Over 40 I'm 36 and would wonder what its like to hear from people my own age.

2nd Jun 2008, 06:51 PM	#7
sexyalex Fame Monster copy No.2 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to anyone sexy Out Status: only my friends know. Location: Kingston Age: 20 Posts: 1,410 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Over 40 wow! a senior citizens club...on EC! __________________ I know that we are young and I know that you may love me, but I just can't be with you like this anymore. Alejandro.

2nd Jun 2008, 08:56 PM	#10
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,370 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Over 40 >>>a senior citizens club...on EC! Yeah, alex, whoda thunk it? People with driver's licenses and pubic hair! Lex

3rd Jun 2008, 05:06 AM	#11
LorenzG1950 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Far out Location: Mannheim, Germany Age: 62 Posts: 488 Join Date: Mar 2006	Re: Over 40 The idea for a section that deals with “older” folks is pretty good as long as it doesn’t get too restrictive. Ideally, it would be a forum for inter-generational issues and questions. On the other hand, I’d hate to post something in the “over 40” section when the brilliant advice could come from a 15-year-old who might never look in the “oldie” section. I’m more interested in the topic than the age of the author. As far as exchanging information with older gays , PM works quite well without boring the rest of EC. Just my thoughts . If there were a separate section, I would certainly contribute as time permits. And thanks, Becky, for giving me 2 more years before I join the "seniors" . __________________ Lorenz "Why can't they have gay people in the army? Personally, I think they are just afraid of a thousand guys with M16s going, "Who'd you call a faggot?" Jon Stewart

3rd Jun 2008, 05:24 AM	#12
Bromptonrocks Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 1 family member only. Location: UK Age: 52 Posts: 2,211 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Over 40 Sign me up, now! I agree somewhat with Lorenz. There is some brilliant advice around from the younger members. However, we don't have to restrict access to anyone so long as everyone realises it's primarily for those of a "certain age". No harm in seeing if it takes off?

3rd Jun 2008, 05:34 AM	#13
JSG Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Over 40 I feel left out lol

3rd Jun 2008, 05:43 AM	#14
Defender Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Over 40 I'll get the oxygen tanks ready

3rd Jun 2008, 07:49 AM	#15
panda EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Toronto,Canada Age: 67 Posts: 4,653 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Over 40 I'm interested in which brand of "Depends"(That's Adult Diapers) works the best .

3rd Jun 2008, 09:01 AM	#16
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,155 Join Date: Nov 2004	Re: Over 40 Personally I am strongly against anything that suggests we are segregating specific groups of EC members. If we started having separate sections for lesbians, bisexuals, transexuals etc people would soon complain. Or sections for people of different races or countries. Having a section for a specific age-range is just the same. It is an arbitrary and completely unnecessary division IMO. We are already a minority group in society, and I am unhappy about anything that suggests we are dividing ourselves into further minorities. __________________ Paul

3rd Jun 2008, 09:23 AM	#17
panda EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Toronto,Canada Age: 67 Posts: 4,653 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Over 40 Agreed Paul. I consider myself an honoured guest in EC. Being an "Old Guy".I derive a great deal of spirit from the youth in EC. At times I wistfully muse about the " If only I had.....at that age " line of thinking. There's no need for special sections. The existence of EC as it stands has helped me a lot and now and then I'm able to give a bit back,as well as having fun. Thank you EC.

3rd Jun 2008, 12:40 PM	#18
Jim1454 EC 'Dad' EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 41 Posts: 7,435 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Over 40 Condoguyhfx - there really isn't a need to have a separate section for older guys. There probably aren't enough of us to warrant it. In addition, because there are so few, I notice posts / threads from the 'older' members and always make a point of reading and responding to them. It isn't necessary to have a separate section. PMs also work quite well - as I communicate with many of the people that have posted here through PM as well as through the forum. Finally, I'd agree that everyone - regardless of age - can have worthwhile suggestions on almost any topic. I like to offer my wisdom (gained with time) to some of younger members, and I appreciate hearing their perspectives on things. Besides - who said anything about us being past our prime at 40? At age 37 I'm in a new relationship with my partner, and I feel rather 'ageless'. My age is totally irrelevant. As the late James Brown exclaimed: I feel good! __________________ Jim "It is never too late to be what you might have been."