Gay Relationships v. Straight Relationships - How Different Are They?

tbh i think every relationship is very different and with all but one relation ship with a guy i very nearly married i have found my encounters ( only one or two could really be considered relationships) with women easier and more natural emotionally i found i was more nervous when i first got involved with a girl but at the same time it was easier to confront and deal with those nerves as i felt a lot less vulnerable i find also i feel less pressurized and more at ease and able to just chill with other women tbh i find myself becoming more and more homo romantic id say on sexual attraction im still around 50/50 - if you are more specific on what worries you maybe i can better help

 

They are pretty much the same, actually. Having been married to a male and now to a female. I find some of the same marriage issues the same. However, I also have found that gay relationships are more equal and with a woman, I have to be careful to not say things that hurt her, things that does not hurt a male the same. Males tend to be more logic based and it is harder to make your feelings known to them, but with a female, many things get read into, because this is what women do. It has been easier to split the running of the house and she talks to me before big purchases, instead of just going out to buy that huge flat screen tv. She does not stare at other women that are hot, because she knows this hurts. She also will do things before hand and before I ask, and with my ex, I had to ask for things to be done.

 

Inside not much different.

How gay couples are treated compared to straight is remarkably different.

 

Well every relation is different in it's own way (much like the people themselves) I can only speak with past relationships. The only thing that would be distinctly different would be the looks off some people as you walked down the street holding hands... not to say everyone is a homophobic <closed minded> fool but some can be. Hope this helped! ~jordan

 

Many relationships have their own way of working, but at the core its still the same. Love, care, compassion...it's all there. Some gay couples choose to not be so open about it, for obvious reasons. That's the only reason I can think of.

 

The difference is that straight relationships are boring and mundane while gay relationships are so awesome and fun and rainbowtastic. :newcolor:

 

Well, given I've never been in a real relationship with a woman I couldn't say from experience....but what I've learned from the 8 years (and counting) with my hubby, the dynamics seem to work fine. Neither of us fits into any gender role, we just do what suits us. I do the cooking, but that's because I enjoy cooking and I'm a great cook. He does the laundry because he's very particular about how to wash. At the end of the day, we're just an average couple with a spoiled cat

 

To me, women are easier to connect with on the emotional side. Men can be blunt sometimes, but I think that is also because gay men often think easier of relationships and therefore try less hard. Of course, men to men interaction may be easier because both are men, but sometimes that is exactly what causes the struggle - because knowing it is easier in a way makes them make less effort for it. I imagine that with lesbian relationships this is less the case, because they, as women, actually care about the emotional aspect - whereas with men it sometimes seems more like they pretend to.

I have dated girls and even though I label myself as fully gay now, I find that emotionally I fit better with women. They care about the emotional stuff that I find a lot of gay men do not. Maybe it is because I started with girls that I feel like I need that connection. The sex with the girls was not important to me (so I'm biased), and it was mostly the emotional aspect that counted for me. Now that I date guys it feels like that whole spectrum has flipped right around.

Aside from that, in my experience gay relationships are more of a big deal because they are not the norm. Which for me, in turn made it feel like more of a big deal. In the back of my head I was constantly having thoughts like "What would <person> think" or "Could we hold hands in this public place" thoughts like those sometimes get in the way. But I suppose those thoughts will occur less if/when you're fully out.

 

They are very different if you conform to gender roles, but in my opinion, every relationship is unique.

The nice thing about having boyfriends is knowing that society expects them to take the lead. As an extreme extrovert, it was nice to have someone take the reins every once in a while. I've never been in a relationship with another woman, but I would imagine that the dynamics would heavily depend on each person's personality and how they relate to one another, which is true for any relationship, gay or straight.

 

Since I'm a lesbian, I can only speak from my experience. Being in a relationship with a woman truly is more emotionally based. The connection is far deeper because you both genuinely care about each other's feelings (in most cases). If one is pissed off, it's important to talk about it.

 

Egalitarian in certain ways...there are no gender roles so no one can feel forced to do anything or take on a particular role.
I have a straight friend who feels bad that she doesn't cook for her BF. She can bake a mean apple pie, but the girl can't cook a meal.
However in my house...my wife cooks because she likes to and can. I however do laundry because I like to and can.
Equal sharing of roles. She kills the bugs and fixes handyman issues. I deal with electronic issues and anything that involves people.
Gay relationships are more equal. There was a study done on it.

 

I always assumed they were more similar than not, with two people presumably in love, doing the same thing most couples do. You hear a lot about gender dynamics -- you're forced to learn how to interact with members of the opposite sex in any straight relationship, while in a gay one, which is supposedly "easier" since it's two men or two women, you have less support and examples to go by, making them possibly trickier to navigate. Of course, I say every individual and relationship is unique; in a lot of my straight relationships, I was the "emotional" one and she was always asking "What did I do this time?" How society views gay and straight relationships probably has a larger impact on them, in my opinion.

 

Yeah, I think they're less affected by gender roles, so it's more likely same gender relationships are gonna be more equal.