WORDS...No Homo

Doesn't offend me...I just find it funny. And I know some guys who use it all the time. I don't really get it. Is it a joke? Or are they actually afraid of seeming just a little gay? Someone explain? xD

 

Yes, it's offensive and pointless. Also very insecure. The desperate need to prove your heterosexuality is homophobic.

Do you say "no incest" after saying you love your parents?
Do you say "no bestiality" after saying you love your pets?

No, you don't. It's ridiculous. If you're straight, you don't need to make a constant statement asserting your heterosexuality, especially when it's saying that you consider homosexuality inferior.

 

I think it's a weird nerd thing that stems from the hyper fear of any kind of male affection - verbal or physical.

I'm straight, but have no problems with hugging my male friends and telling the closest ones that I love them.
Interestingly enough, when meeting a gay friend with some other gay nerd friends, I was the only one who hugged him. He was Spanish, so he appreciated that (culturally speaking).

It's only been 'straight' nerds raised by the internet who have to qualify their statements 'no homo'.

I think it's too stupid to register as offensive.

Also - the etymology comes from a certain grip for arcade sticks.
I personally use the wine glass method, but 'no homo' is one of the styles of grip commonly used.

Cool sig, btw

 

It's kind of annoying, because it just makes it seem like they think there's something wrong with being gay, so they have to go out of their way to say their not even though no one said anything, just so they won't get in trouble or something. It also shows how insecure they are about their own sexuality. If you have to boast about how straight you are, then chances are your gay.

 

I don't get offended by it, but I don't get offended easily. And I'm confused too. Is it an insecurity, a joke, cool thing to say or what?

 

Doesn't bother me any.

 

Not the worst sin ever, but somebody should be secure enough in their orientation to say something ambiguously gay without worrying about what people think of them. Besides, even if somebody did think they were gay, what's so bad about that?

 

It just shows the low intellect of the person using it and a total lack of class altogether. End of story! June

 

Funny enough, the people I know that use it actually use it as an inside joke because they're LGBT. Almost kind of like those cheesy puns that still get you laughing anyway.

 

I find it offensive. If someone can say that they love a friend of the same gender, why must they stipulate that it's not homosexual love? Regardless of whether a person has bigoted intentions or not, it's making an implication that homosexual love is somehow inferior or detrimental. People can just say that they "love you as a friend" or something of that nature and completely leave out the implied insult to gays.

 

I find it unnecessary because people can use a different choice of words that would not need that phrase after it.

 

This is the modern face of internet culture.

The concepts of mutual respect and decency are simply not known amongst them. I had the misfortune with working with some of them. One of them, had the audacity to insult my mother to my face and think it was funny.
He learnt that you can't do that in reality. Trust me, better from me than from someone who'd make him excrete his own teeth.

 

I think I'd probably find it obnoxious in the context that I think most people use it.

However, my friends tend to use it in an ironic sort of way, which I usually find funny. I hang out with a group of straight dudes who are all...insane. They do things like spoon and graphically describe the rough sex they had the previous night (in ways that would make a porn star blush)...and follow it up with a "no homo".

 

ever since college I haven't heard those two words together.

but then I am not in public that much lol

 

Love this!!! :eusa_clap I agree with you it's stupid to say that. I have a friend who says it. He knows it makes me mad so he doesn't say it as much. Although he has his times where it slips out and he doesn't know it but I make him aware of it by saying something sentimental and ending it with "no hetero." When he hears that he gets red and says sorry.

 

It's offensive to me, but I frankly don't give a crap. Like, if you feel that you need to use that then maybe you aren't going to be someone I want to be friends with and I'm not going to waste my time? Sorry if that's rude but gotta be honest!

 

There's more to the picture than this; heterosexuals wouldn't feel the need to cover up their same-sex affections if those acts weren't so stigmatized in the first place, and by using homophobic humor to validate one's heterosexuality, you're only making things worse for those who don't have a need to.

I'm not sure most consciously consider the origins and effects of their words, though, and just see it as some amusing catch phrase made popular by internet culture, but I suspect the rising visibility and gains by LGBT communities is starting to threaten a lot of insecure people.