Is it something you felt deep down?

Yeah. For me it was two-fold- realizing I was not only queer but a transman. There was always this sense that something was missing. Once I came to terms with being both, I finally felt complete.

Should also mention, I'm a virgin and have only ever had one relationship, with a woman. Experimenting's a good way to figure it out but I don't believe it's the only way to figure out sexuality. Sometimes, you just need to relax and pay attention to where the loins doth stir towards.

 

No, I didn't know deep down. I think that's because I saw myself as straight and I simply didn't consider being anything else. When I did eventually ask myself 'am I straight?', then, although I was confused, I had a feeling in the back of my mind that I might be gay. So, yes, there was a deep feeling in my mind but I didn't always know it was there, if that helps.

I've never had a relationship either though. I don't believe that experience defines what your sexuality is though - many gay/lesbian people have had relationships with people of the opposite sex before they came out.

 

It was something that I always knew, but I wasn't willing to admit to myself until a few years ago. I think its very possible to repress it to the point where you convince yourself its not true (But it always finds a way to resurface, after all it is who you are. You can't hide from yourself). If its a deep-down hunch it has to have some validity, after all its been on your mind and you posted here to get advice.

 

I was told it was a phase and believed it was for decades. Down deep I knew I was at least bi'. The thing is when things got too serious with a girl I would get her to break up with me. That was just like Bobby in Prayers For Bobby. Yes, I felt it deep down but denied it and covered it up.

 

I don't think everyone "knows" right off the bat, but a sense of something missing or feeling out of place (which can be for any number of reasons, by the way) can be a sign that something is intrinsically different, but it's not so black-and-white: everyone develops different, and our experiences, genetic make up, and personal choices.

 

I remember when I was somewhere between 8-10 where I looked in the mirror and knew deep down that I was going to be gay. I didn't exactly deny it or fight it, nor did I embrace it. I just knew, but I went on with my life without any other thought about it (until I was deep within the trenches of puberty). I fancied girls for a few more years after that until I was in high school.

I don't really know why I knew, but I did. This was despite having crushes on girls (and only girls) from as early as 5 years old until I was 14 or so. My attraction to males only developed later on in middle school, but even then, it was never on any specific guy and was just pictures on the internet.

It wasn't until I was in college where I finally thought about it again and was like, "Yeah, I'm gay." I guess I was more of a case of being aware, yet oblivious, rather than complete denial... I don't know. I'm just weird.

 

I guess I just assumed I was straight, but I hadn't even thought about it until I had a very short conversation on ******. They asked if I was straight or gay, and I couldn't honestly say I was straight, so I said I was bi. That was the first time I really thought about it at all.

 

I've never slept with someone either, but I've known for a while from my intuition. See, I can't even imagine touching a guy (no offense you guys. You're all awesome and such, but...I don't wanna see what's in your pants, end of story). I get sick from the idea. Dating is one thing to me- I've had romantic feelings toward plenty of guys. However, I just can't think of touching one sexually. Girls on the other hand? I can happily imagine it.

I think it's something that can be two-fold. You can't always tell by a hunch, but for many, it's not that hard. I'm going to be somewhat explicit and awkward and admit I watch porn in this. I think a good way I figured myself out was the fact that when I watched the porn, I couldn't handle seeing the guys at all, but seeing the girls turned me on.

Uh...Yeah i think that's basically how it was for me. But I don't think you should doubt yourself either way. If something was telling you what you were doing wouldn't really make you happy, then...That should be enough. Following your instincts isn't necessarily a bad thing, y'know?

 

Deep down, I had known all my life. I always noticed guys but I figured it was normal because I liked girls in a different way, the way I thought I was 'supposed' to like them. It's just something that I didn't see until I got close enough to a guy to actually feel ~that way~ about him and actually recognized it as feeling ~that way~.

 

I've known since I was 11 or 12 years old and didn't have any sexual contact with another woman until I was 21. It makes sense if you think about it. How do straight people know they're straight before becoming sexually active? It's just a primal feature that your body understands.

Unfortunately, that didn't stop me from suppressing those feelings for over a decade. I didn't fully realize how much I wanted to be with another woman until I realized how unhappy I was in, otherwise healthy, heterosexual relationships.

 

Why was it censored? I didn't say anything bad.

 

There's nothing wrong with you, Maggie. When people question their sexuality, they do feel the way you are currently feeling. It's perfectly fine to be unsure of your sexuality and it's definitely normal to feel... I don't know the correct word but I think it's almost 'nervous', in a way. If you're not ready, just take some more time. You still have your whole life to lead yet so there's no rush.

 

I never really thought about my sexuality, it was just kinda there, you know? Just another fact of life. I never really was aware of my sexuality until a couple months ago, and I just was like, "Oh, I'm gay." Not much of a reaction.

 

Yes, I did. Ever since I can remember, even if I didn't admit it to myself at the time.

 

I always knew something was different about me. It took me until a couple months ago to realise what that was

 

I have only just coming to terms with my sexuality In the last few months and I'm 28 so

 

It was just something I knew. i was raised in a religious household and had never had sex with a woman or even kissed one and I still knew. It was just...I know that how I felt towards women I'd gotten close to was not like others...I had feelings for them.

My hunch was proved correct when I did get with a woman physically. It was perfect, not weird and felt "right"...much different than when i tried to sleep with a man. I was not comfortable at all and felt wieird and disconnected.

Trust your "gut" on this one.

 

Yeah. For me, I really could feel it deep down. The big indicators for me were when trying to pick a label. Bisexual really didn't feel like it fit me at all. I didn't feel like I wanted to be with a man, and had decided that my boyfriend-at-the-time would be the last man that I'd ever be with.

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Also to the OP: Porn preferences in women really have nothing to do with our personal preferences. A lot of lesbians prefer gay porn. They watch porn more for the experience, rather than just looking at the people. It's been proven that women can watch pretty much any gender of porn and get off to it fine. Men on the other hand, can really only watch and enjoy porn with people that they find physically attractive in it.