thinking about leaving EC cause nothing is helping upset depressed and mersible cant find the courage to come out :icon_sad:
EC is a support system. It's an ear when you need one. It's an opportunity to give advice and opinions to those who seek them. It's a network. It's friends. You can make your own rules and chart your own course. There's no need to leave. Many here experience depression, including yours truly. If it's of any use to alleviate your anxiety, answer your questions, or make you feel like part of a group, you should stick around!
Its understandable that an internet forum might not be enough. Coming to terms with one's sexuality and coming out can be a very difficult life experience. Have you considered talking to a counselor or therapist? They can provide a safe one-on-one environment and help you specifically with things you want to work on. It really does help. We here on EC (while supportive) can only do so much.
Should you decide to leave, EC will be here if you'd like to return. Regardless, I wish you the best in whatever you decide to do. I will say, though, that if nothing is helping, that's not really a reason to leave. Are you seeing a therapist? That'd likely be the most direct and most helpful.
You should stick around. There are plenty of people on here who are going through the same things your going through, and who are willing to help and listen. Here you have the opportunity to get help and to help others, and that can be a lot harder to do outside of online, especially if your not out yet. The choice is ultimately yours, but for whatever it's worth (if its even worth anything) I think you should stay. Your chances are much better on here then in many other places, but again, the choice is yours. Good luck.
in the end it`s up to you what you decide . but I do agree with tightrope its good to have EC as a support network you don't have to join in with the discussions just having EC as a resource helps .
Maybe you should set some goals for yourself. You profile says you have out to some. Maybe you need to make a plan to come out to a few more. When you have something to work from. Just a thought that help you make progress.
Coming out should be at your own schedule and not rushed. I knew I was gay when I was only 13-14, and I'm 24 and still in the closet. I could have come out earlier, but there were a lot of circumstances that I couldn't deal with, such as living with my parents. However, during that time, I came to accept my sexuality as not a "problem" but just something that's part of my identity, but definitely not something that only defines me. I would hate to be seen as just "the gay guy" and ignored for my other traits and interests, so I would only come out to people on a need-to-know basis (though obviously, there will be gossip among certain groups).
