Whenever im slightly interested in someone they always turn out to be straight and its so frustrating. My most recent interest has a girlfriend (which is usually the case) and stuff like this gets me down a lot. Perhaps I should just stop getting my hopes up that someone might be gay/Bi and just not bother because they are always straight. Does anyone else share this problem? How am I supposed to meet other gay guys? There seems to be so little in the world. Iv only ever heard bad things about LGBT clubs and gay bars, so I would rather avoid them. Is it all just luck or is my "gaydar" faulty?
I have no idea. I rarely come across gay people. I think I only spoken to one gay man and he was some random dude on the street asking me for sex.
I have the same problem. And when I do meet a gay guy that I like a lot they turn out to not like me in the same way.
Because the ratio of straight:gay is approximately 9:1. I wish I had a more cheery comment to make but I'm facing much the same myself!
We all share that problem. It's inevitable in a world where 94% of people (by the latest statistics) are straight. Meeting other gay people is a lot like getting a job: networking and the internet are your best bets. Keep making new friends and they can introduce you to the other gay people they know.
In regards to your concern about lack of gay guys out there, this might provide some insight: "Even if we accept the lowest educated guesstimate of the percentage of the population that’s gay—1.7 percent—that means your brother has nearly 60 million potential romantic partners to choose from worldwide; he has 2.5 million potential romantic partners in the United States alone. Other informed guesstimates of the percentage of the population that’s gay are much, much higher—seven or eight times higher—so your brother’s odds of finding a partner are probably much better. But let’s put that 1.7-percent figure in perspective: Jews represent just 1.7 percent of the population of the United States. So even if the percentage of the population that’s gay is “just” 1.7 percent, your brother has the, um, same cross to bear—and the same odds of success—as an American Jew who wants to marry another American Jew." How can I help my gay brother find a boyfriend? | Georgia Straight
Uh, if a guy is straight he likes women. Nothing in the world will make a straight guy gay. If a person says they're straight and they're in the closet, for all intents and purposes they're straight. Trying to get someone out of the closet when they aren't ready can be even more disastrous as trying to turn a straight guy gay!
No good news from me. I've been in love and to get let's just be friends after curious I love you and more sex...only for them to really move on. I have only met two gay guys that I was interested but we weren't meant for each other. I'm tired. I can't keep meeting guys who are curious and to get, they are straight after all. It hurts because the only gay guys I get after me, are too old for me, or sex only, or stereotypical gay guys who I am not attracted to. I even liked this guy who was an escort but he was only about fun and really distant until he wanted to have fun again. I wasn't into meeting him with other guys..to scary. I had to leave and say goodbye.
Same problem here. It can be very disheartening. At least, it is for me. Owen's right, from my point of view, right now online is the best bet. But not dating sites, because I have yet to see a dating site thats not just about sex. And even the ones who try to be, end up devolving to just a hookup site.
First, it's a numbers game. The majority of the population is straight. Second, attractive people are almost always spoken for and, if not, you probably want to get the story. Third, I've always checked out suits, or outside of a business area, I notice guys who probably have suit jobs. Those guys, proportionately, are even more likely to be straight. And it's not a "what you can't have" thing, I don't think. It's what I find attractive. And, yes, the clean cut UPS guy in shorts with great legs catches my eye, too, so I don't discriminate based on the job held. A hot UPS guy who is middle aged is even hotter, because some of them are in great shape and are handsome. Heck, to be crude, and as one friend pointed out, some blue collar or less image driven guys are more fun in the sack than downtown guys, who sometimes have hangups because of their uptown conditioning. I'd agree with that.
