Was sex ever like what you expected ?

Well once you get the hang of it, it's fun. It's not what porn makes it look like though.

 

It wasn't like what I expected, and that's not a bad thing. Before my first time, I though that getting physical with someone meant going from making out right to anal, with no intermediary steps. I just plain didn't know there was anything between those two. As I learned on my first time, there are actually a lot of things you can do that are more titillating than making out but not quite so risky as anal, and they're really fun.

 

EDIT: Worded that wrong. When you say "as risky as anal" are we talking about a different physical issue as well as STD's? I mean, being in a committed, monogamous relationship helps prevent STD's, but are you talking about different things as well?

 

I'm not sure I understand your question perfectly, but what I can say for sure is that anal sex is by far the riskiest kind of sex for transmitting STI's to the receiving person. The anus is not intended to be penetrated, so it tears far more easily than the vagina, and all it takes is one little tear for STI's to find their way in.

As far as anal being safer in committed, monogamous relationships where both partners have been tested after six months of monogamy (that's how long it takes for some of them to show) and both are disease-free, I'd like to say that's safer. In an ideal world, it would be. But in the real world, a ton of gay and bisexual men have contracted HIV because they had unprotected anal sex with their partner who swore they had stayed faithful. All it takes is the one time. So even if you're in a committed relationship, I'd still advice using condoms for anal, if only to keep fecal matter out of your partner's urethra.

Edit: I just saw your edit.

I did mean risky in the sense of transmitting STI's, but I also said it that way because I couldn't find a succinct way of saying that there are a myriad of things out there that people can do if they want to go farther than making out but aren't ready for anal yet.

That said, the risk of pain with anal is pretty high regardless of the participant's STI-status or whether they're monogamous or not. The top has to be in tune with the bottom's movements, and they have to use plenty of lube because the anus doesn't lubricate itself like the vagina. And I imagine tearing the anus and getting residual fecal matter in the wounds is bad news.

Sorry for derailing this by talking about buttholes. You can now return to your regularly scheduled thread.

 

It seems so many things in life aren't what one expects. As a virgin, I still have my expectation, and I guess I'll just have to wait and see how it all pans out

 

*shrugs* it's all a bit gross

 

my first time was cool and all that but it was just sex no love or anything like that .

 

I never had any presumption of what sex would be like. My first times with another male was wonderful. I have happy memories of my first time. My first time with a woman was not overly great but she taught me how to please a woman which came in handy the following year which was really good.

 

It was nothing l expected, with either male or female. The image a teenage boy gets of sex through the Internet is nowhere near what it was like for me.

With a woman:
There were no funny positions, no useless moaning or gagging on my unit.
It was a very intimate moment which I shared with a woman. The pleasure of being together, of sharing one another was important in the experience. At first, it was odd to get the motion as she went one way and I went the other. As my first experience was with a woman, I have to say my right hand was devastated when it found out it was indeed not an expert.

With a man:

My first and only experience with a man was just this summer. We took turns in both giving and receiving. All I can say accurately is that the former was much different than being with a female. It was more satisfying, more daring, more adventurous.
Receiving was perhaps the most uncomfortable situation I’ve been in. Even having gone through the due preparation to allow for it to be a nice experience. It was not. Yet, I still somehow enjoyed it. It was not at all what I expected it to be. I imagined a man would feel what I woman does. It was a different kind of pleasure.

That’s all I can say without beginning to feel disgusted with my own sexual adventures.

 

The first time it was hilarious and awkward.
at its peak, not even movies can convey how amazing it feels - you have to experience it.

It gets better with practice.
I've found that the quality gets better and better the longer and stronger the relationship is. You figure out what your partner likes and you get comfy enough to share your deepest fantasies.

I found people who were into one-night stands were generally quite bad at it. They run through a flow chart and set tricks. It's mechanical and boring. I prefer a custom-tailored personal experience.

Like so many things in life, I don't think there's a right or wrong way to do it. Everyone is unique.

I was with someone who got seriously wet when I rubbed the skin on her elbows. I kid you not.
imagine the fall out if I applied that to other girls xD

"Hey bebe, come here and let me massage your elbows."

 

Hurt the first couple of times while feeling good...it was weird. Now its pretty nice. I enjoy it a lot.
I think it takes time for partners to get to know one another and also for us to get to know what we like. once you get that...its awesome.

 

It was just as good as I expected it would be when I thought about it as a teen. That's why there have been repeat performances. The main issue is finding a sexual partner who is on par with what you want to do, meaning not too much (risky, painful, or gross) and not too little (uber-vanilla sex).

 

I thought sex would be amazing. In fact, it hurts like a bitch. But then again I have vaginismus, and any kind of penetration is agony. Maybe when I get over that, sex will be good.

 

With a guy, I was very disappointed (my first was quite selfish), with a girl tho........

 

Well at first no. Lets face it in todays world of porn there are way too many expectations going in. But now that I have over 15 years of experience I know what the realities of sex are and yes it pretty much goes as expected 99% of the time.

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Edit: btw the 1% of the time it doesn't go as expected usually makes for a great story lol

 

It was awkward at first (with both genders) but after I learned to get used to needing to get off from the sensation it became very enjoyable, and it could be very intimate and passionate at times.

With women the struggle was more finding condoms that worked out. With men, I think my boyfriend and I spent months trying different lubes until we found something that felt just right.

 

All I can say is that sex in porn and sex in the real world is really...REALLY different...