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Trumpetplyer23 · 13th Jun 2008, 01:13 PM

I was wondering, before you all came out (or if you're not out), did you put "straight" as your orientation for Myspace and/or Facebook? Thanks.

jazzrawr · 13th Jun 2008, 01:14 PM

I did, for like...3 months. then i took off the orientation altogether.

step49x · 13th Jun 2008, 01:16 PM

Nope. I just didn't/don't list an orientation. I'm not going to lie, but I don't feel like advertising.

**Helen** · 13th Jun 2008, 01:17 PM

I put 'Interested In: Women, Men' on my Facebook just a couple of hours ago

Oh so happy ^_^

In fact, now that I've done that...by golly, I'm completely out!

Behling · 13th Jun 2008, 01:18 PM

I never listed it until i put it as unsure a week ago

jazzrawr · 13th Jun 2008, 01:18 PM

YAY HELEN!!!!!!!

*celebrates*

Daniel · 13th Jun 2008, 01:37 PM

I just turn it off as well...

on a side note...

YAY FOR Hln D!!!!

Trumpetplyer23 · 13th Jun 2008, 01:39 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Hln D

I put 'Interested In: Women, Men' on my Facebook just a couple of hours ago

Oh so happy ^_^

In fact, now that I've done that...by golly, I'm completely out!

YAY!!! *hugs*

I was just wondering, 'cause I've got a friend with 2 myspaces, on one, she doesn't have an orientation listed, on the other one, she has "straight" listed, and the one without an orientation is older than the one with an orientation.

13th Jun 2008, 01:49 PM

I've actually had my "intrested in" on Facebook set to men for a while now. One of my straight friends added me recently and I know he suspects that I'm gay but he hasn't said anything about it yet >..<

13th Jun 2008, 01:52 PM

I never had it as anything when I signed up for Facebook but then I just put Women, Men.

htfaul · 13th Jun 2008, 02:08 PM

I had nothing marked before I came out, then when I was in a relationship I just had "is in a relationship with xxxxx". After we broke up, I marked men, but I got tired of the 8000000000 "meet gay singles" adds so I unmarked it.

Lefty · 13th Jun 2008, 02:10 PM

I had my "interested in" blank and then changed it to women last fall. I haven't had too many questions/comments about it. I think a lot of people just skip over that part (especially straight people)

Andrew · 13th Jun 2008, 02:18 PM

I did put it as straight.. But once i came out to myself.. It was taken away all together.

-Luis

Tokarov · 13th Jun 2008, 02:23 PM

I put it as straight, and it still says straight...

idk, i doubt anyone reads it or looks at my profile anyway. now that you mention it, im just gonna get rid of it altogether

Henrike · 13th Jun 2008, 02:46 PM

I didn't even list my orientation. Although I knew I wasn't straight, I refused to lie to everyone else. I guess it's the easiest way to avoid the topic all together.

interstella · 13th Jun 2008, 02:48 PM

i'm still "straight" on Facebook

PS Congrats Hln D!!!!

13th Jun 2008, 02:57 PM

I just haven't put anything... I thought about putting women, but then I would end up being out to all my friends on facebook, who are basically none of my close friends before the people who matter to me. That would just be silly.. one of these days though..

and congrats Helen

Sexiican01 · 13th Jun 2008, 03:53 PM

mine is usually hidden
if it's not, it's set to lesbian
n__n

**Lexington** · 13th Jun 2008, 03:56 PM

I didn't answer the question on myspace when I first built my profile, mainly because I used it for work contacts, and it didn't seem to be necessary. But, after awhile, I felt like I was hiding something, so I swapped it to "gay". Nobody batted an eye. Even the born-again Christians didn't say anything (or delete me).

Lex

XXX Lou XXX · 13th Jun 2008, 03:57 PM

I originally didn't list my myspace orientation but a few months ago I changed it to lesbian. I think most of my friends on myspace knew anyway though.

13th Jun 2008, 01:14 PM	#2
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I did, for like...3 months. then i took off the orientation altogether. __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

13th Jun 2008, 01:16 PM	#3
step49x EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Anyone who cares Location: Michigan, USA Age: 24 Posts: 1,051 Join Date: Aug 2006	Re: Myspace/Facebook Nope. I just didn't/don't list an orientation. I'm not going to lie, but I don't feel like advertising.

13th Jun 2008, 01:17 PM	#4
Helen Empty Closets Mod EC Moderator Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Inconsequential if people know. Location: York, United Kingdom Age: 19 Posts: 2,101 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I put 'Interested In: Women, Men' on my Facebook just a couple of hours ago Oh so happy ^_^ In fact, now that I've done that...by golly, I'm completely out! __________________ I want a window where I can see a tree, or even water... (....and the lesbians)

13th Jun 2008, 01:18 PM	#5
Behling ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Illinois, just outside of Chicago Age: 19 Posts: 1,898 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Myspace/Facebook I never listed it until i put it as unsure a week ago __________________ "Your words are infectious Your eyes leave me breathless I think it's safe to say You're deadly in your own way"

13th Jun 2008, 01:18 PM	#6
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook YAY HELEN!!!!!!! celebrates __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

13th Jun 2008, 01:37 PM	#7
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I just turn it off as well... on a side note... YAY FOR Hln D!!!! __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

13th Jun 2008, 01:49 PM	#9
Starlight Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Myspace/Facebook I've actually had my "intrested in" on Facebook set to men for a while now. One of my straight friends added me recently and I know he suspects that I'm gay but he hasn't said anything about it yet >..<

13th Jun 2008, 01:52 PM	#10
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Myspace/Facebook I never had it as anything when I signed up for Facebook but then I just put Women, Men.

13th Jun 2008, 02:08 PM	#11
htfaul Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Paragould, AR Age: 23 Posts: 22 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I had nothing marked before I came out, then when I was in a relationship I just had "is in a relationship with xxxxx". After we broke up, I marked men, but I got tired of the 8000000000 "meet gay singles" adds so I unmarked it.

13th Jun 2008, 02:10 PM	#12
Lefty Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Gay Out Status: All but family Location: Minnesota Age: 21 Posts: 27 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Myspace/Facebook I had my "interested in" blank and then changed it to women last fall. I haven't had too many questions/comments about it. I think a lot of people just skip over that part (especially straight people) __________________ In case of capsize, you must be an active participant in your own rescue.

13th Jun 2008, 02:18 PM	#13
Andrew hugeee. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Illinois Posts: 550 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I did put it as straight.. But once i came out to myself.. It was taken away all together. -Luis

13th Jun 2008, 02:23 PM	#14
Tokarov Banned Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: Southern California Age: 20 Posts: 688 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Myspace/Facebook I put it as straight, and it still says straight... idk, i doubt anyone reads it or looks at my profile anyway. now that you mention it, im just gonna get rid of it altogether

13th Jun 2008, 02:46 PM	#15
Henrike The Age of Tay Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Chicago Age: 21 Posts: 133 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I didn't even list my orientation. Although I knew I wasn't straight, I refused to lie to everyone else. I guess it's the easiest way to avoid the topic all together.

13th Jun 2008, 02:48 PM	#16
interstella Don't call me GaGa... Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Queer Out Status: Everyone Location: London, UK Age: 18 Posts: 700 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook i'm still "straight" on Facebook PS Congrats Hln D!!!! __________________ Lesbian? Gay? Bisexual? Transgender? Queer? Whatever.

13th Jun 2008, 02:57 PM	#17
yahooooo Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Myspace/Facebook I just haven't put anything... I thought about putting women, but then I would end up being out to all my friends on facebook, who are basically none of my close friends before the people who matter to me. That would just be silly.. one of these days though.. and congrats Helen

13th Jun 2008, 03:53 PM	#18
Sexiican01 x_pokemon_master Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 2!~ Location: under your bed Age: 20 Posts: 619 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook mine is usually hidden if it's not, it's set to lesbian n__n __________________ Practice makes perfect, but nobody is perfect, so why practice?

13th Jun 2008, 03:56 PM	#19
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,370 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Myspace/Facebook I didn't answer the question on myspace when I first built my profile, mainly because I used it for work contacts, and it didn't seem to be necessary. But, after awhile, I felt like I was hiding something, so I swapped it to "gay". Nobody batted an eye. Even the born-again Christians didn't say anything (or delete me). Lex

13th Jun 2008, 03:57 PM	#20
XXX Lou XXX EC Addict Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Friends, mum & grandparents (finally!) Location: West Sussex Age: 19 Posts: 452 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Myspace/Facebook I originally didn't list my myspace orientation but a few months ago I changed it to lesbian. I think most of my friends on myspace knew anyway though.