More out females than males

I don't know any out guys, but I know four girls besides myself who are bi, including my sister who is transgender. This is interesting because studies of adults generally show slightly more queer guys than girls. I expect that there is some level of lesbianism being more acceptable in high school, and possibly female sexuality being more... something. Yeah. That.

 

Well, it's not valid to generalise from such a small set of people. It's also worth noting that there may not be equal numbers of guys and girls in your class. But. I wouldn't be surprised if that was true. If the root of homophobia is misogyny, then it follows that there is less stigma associated with women being gay, because it's seen as rejecting them feminine

 

Definitely more out guys in my year. In fact, I know of only one girl who is out as bi and she has a boyfriend. There are like 4 or 5 guys who are out as gay and then I know some others from other schools. I think here it's easier to be a gay guy than a lesbian because at my school at least, the girls are very homophobic towards lesbians (and in a different way they're homophobic towards gay guys, the whole gay best friend thing) whereas aside from a few Muslims (not all) and a couple of one off homophobes the guys in my year are very accepting.

 

I've found that many young women - and this is hardly to say anything whatsoever about bisexuality itself - employ the term "bi" as a ticket to either attention from their peers or personal experimentation. In short, my own encounters with girls claiming bisexuality have, for the most part (although I could name exceptions), been less than credible.

I have also found that - in accordance with quasi-scientific statistics from those who venture something like sociological accuracy - one is more likely, in a typical circle, to happen upon a gay man rather than a lesbian. However, I ought to point out two particular biases on my part.

One, I live in North Kingstown, Rhode Island, which is a handful of miles south of Providence and the Brown University area. I can hardly allow surprise in answer to the number of gay males in, at least, the Providence area. However, I attend the local community college and am far more likely to meet an openly gay male student than an out lesbian student.

The other point which might encourage prejudiced observation is the fact that I am not a gay male. I am a lesbian who feels that she is different due to the apparently astronomical numbers of straight females around her. I will hastily confess to this, and feel that if I were a gay male, I would be quick to look around and think, "This is stupid. Why is every single guy in the world so freakishly heterosexual?"

 

I think and this my personal thoughts on this, is because that it seems to me people are more accepting of lesbians they say Homosexuals. Think this because I know straight guys who always say they watch lesbian porn ect and say they would love to date a lesbian for the fact two women would be involved. On the other hand never experience straight women thinking this about two guys. Now I sometimes don't blame some women not liking men and thinking they are just pigs because of this.

This is just my thoughts from conversations i had with people think it very hypercritical how some people think lesbians are ok but anything else is not. I guess yeah they are straight but even some straight women would kiss another with nobody having problems with them doing so. On the other hand two guys would be different it just feels too much double standards in this day and age.

I not saying this to offend anyone just based from conversations i have had with different people.

 

Huh... This would also explain the higher ratio of males than females that post on these forums.

 

Well, I knew more out females when I was in college. I know more out females now, actually. One of my old bosses is very out and proud gay, and I love him to pieces. I've worked with a lot more lesbians than gay men. I think my old boss was the only gay man I've ever worked with. When I went to college, a lot of girls identified as bisexual, too.

As far as out trans people, I only really know one personally, and he's a guy. I've heard of a trans woman around where I live, but I've never seen her. I've just heard. And she's pretty closeted. The only reason I know of her is because of my therapist.

 

There wasn't a single openly gay or bi person at my school but of the ones that I've heard that have come out now I'm the only female from around my year - I can think of five or six guys around my age. I just had a quick look at my Facebook friends to see and of the ones that I know aren't straight it's three quarters male.

 

From my group of friends and acquaintances in school, only one guy is openly gay, but many of the girls are openly bi or gay. I don't know nearly as many guys though, so it's not an accurate sample.

It's more even with the people I know out of school, but I don't know the ratio between guys and girls.