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agraves · 14th Jun 2008, 03:27 PM

Just a thought...what is the order of descriptions of ones partner throughout a relationship? Like...you start out as a boyfriend or girlfriend...but what comes next? Which terms of endearment hold more romantic value than the others? Partner...lover...etc?

Bryan90 · 14th Jun 2008, 03:36 PM

For my previous relationship, the one that was dearest, we called each other "idiot", "asshole", and "dumbass". Those are the sweetest endearments in my opinion.

MeskElil · 14th Jun 2008, 03:47 PM

Honestly, the term of endearment that means the most to me is the person calling me by my name...I'm never ever called by my name anywhere unless it's just attendance at school...so if for some reason they just said my name...I would really love that.

agraves · 14th Jun 2008, 03:54 PM

I agree about the name thing, but what I mean is when you are introducing your partner to someone new you would say "Joe, this is my partner Julie" or something along those lines. How would you introduce your partner is really what I'm asking.

jazzrawr · 14th Jun 2008, 05:44 PM

I would always say girlfriend, or if we were engaged or married, fiancee or wife. I don't really like the term partner, i dont know why. And i wouldnt introduce someone as my lover, because to me that would imply that it isnt a relationship but just sex.

but thats just me

Hoppip · 14th Jun 2008, 05:56 PM

Well.... I guess this could be an order:

1. Hey!
2. Um, you!
3. I can't remember your name, what was it again? >.<
4. [name]!
Dating threshold
5. NICKNAME!
Boyfriend threshold
6. My sweet little gumdrop!
And now I'm single again. Probably from number six.

**Lexington** · 14th Jun 2008, 07:08 PM

My boss once was referencing my partner. She said, "Feel free to bring your...you know, your..."

I looked at her and said, "F--k chum?"

She looked at me, aghast. "I can't believe you said that." Then, suddenly, burst out laughing. "But, God, that's funny."

Lex

Daniel · 15th Jun 2008, 04:22 AM

Welll,

Start:
1) Name
Flirtation:
1) Name
2) Nickname
Relationship:
1) Sweety
2) Honey
Serious stuff:
1) Love
Dying relationship:
1) Numb nuts
Dead:
1) One nut (in reference to my last relationship exactly(he he he))

interstella · 15th Jun 2008, 01:38 PM

If I had a boyfriend, I would call him my "boyfriend" , but if we were living together or married, I would call him my "partner"

Lex, you are absolutely f--king hillarious!!!!

Alexander · 15th Jun 2008, 04:11 PM

I absolutely despise the term "partner" in straight or gay couples. When I'm with someone, he will be my boyfriend. If I marry him, he will be my husband.

Trumpetplyer23 · 16th Jun 2008, 02:52 PM

I'm one of those evil people who give annoying nicknames to everyone, including my boyfriend or girlfriend...and they're usually spur of the moment decisions, but I'd never say "my partner [insert name here]", because partner just seems too, I don't know, I just don't like it

LMAO Lex...that was amazing...

14th Jun 2008, 03:27 PM	#1
agraves Amber Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 28 Posts: 246 Join Date: Jun 2008	Terms of endearment? Just a thought...what is the order of descriptions of ones partner throughout a relationship? Like...you start out as a boyfriend or girlfriend...but what comes next? Which terms of endearment hold more romantic value than the others? Partner...lover...etc? __________________ I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.

14th Jun 2008, 03:36 PM	#2
Bryan90 EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Location: Toronto, Canada Age: 22 Posts: 668 Join Date: Nov 2006	Re: Terms of endearment? For my previous relationship, the one that was dearest, we called each other "idiot", "asshole", and "dumbass". Those are the sweetest endearments in my opinion. __________________ "But only in their dreams can man be truly free. 'Twas always thus, and always thus will be." - John Keating, Dead Poets Society

14th Jun 2008, 03:47 PM	#3
MeskElil ♥♥EC's Resident Hippie Child♥♥ Full Member Gender: Tomboy Orientation: Questioning...still... Out Status: 2 great guys who are helping me through everything Location: Southern California Age: 20 Posts: 1,038 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Terms of endearment? Honestly, the term of endearment that means the most to me is the person calling me by my name...I'm never ever called by my name anywhere unless it's just attendance at school...so if for some reason they just said my name...I would really love that. __________________ Call me Mesk

14th Jun 2008, 03:54 PM	#4
agraves Amber Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 28 Posts: 246 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Terms of endearment? I agree about the name thing, but what I mean is when you are introducing your partner to someone new you would say "Joe, this is my partner Julie" or something along those lines. How would you introduce your partner is really what I'm asking. __________________ I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.

14th Jun 2008, 05:44 PM	#5
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Terms of endearment? I would always say girlfriend, or if we were engaged or married, fiancee or wife. I don't really like the term partner, i dont know why. And i wouldnt introduce someone as my lover, because to me that would imply that it isnt a relationship but just sex. but thats just me __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

14th Jun 2008, 05:56 PM	#6
Hoppip look at the good i do Full Member Gender: Lv. 18 ♂ Orientation: Water / Dragon Out Status: Uncommon Location: Johto Posts: 1,562 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Terms of endearment? Well.... I guess this could be an order: 1. Hey! 2. Um, you! 3. I can't remember your name, what was it again? >.< 4. [name]! Dating threshold 5. NICKNAME! Boyfriend threshold 6. My sweet little gumdrop! And now I'm single again. Probably from number six. __________________ KUDOS ME. I made myshelf pregnant.

14th Jun 2008, 07:08 PM	#7
Lexington The gay gargoyle EC Advisor Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 42 Posts: 12,370 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Terms of endearment? My boss once was referencing my partner. She said, "Feel free to bring your...you know, your..." I looked at her and said, "F--k chum?" She looked at me, aghast. "I can't believe you said that." Then, suddenly, burst out laughing. "But, God, that's funny." Lex

15th Jun 2008, 04:22 AM	#8
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Terms of endearment? Welll, Start: 1) Name Flirtation: 1) Name 2) Nickname Relationship: 1) Sweety 2) Honey Serious stuff: 1) Love Dying relationship: 1) Numb nuts Dead: 1) One nut (in reference to my last relationship exactly(he he he)) __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

15th Jun 2008, 01:38 PM	#9
interstella Don't call me GaGa... Full Member Gender: Genderqueer Orientation: Queer Out Status: Everyone Location: London, UK Age: 18 Posts: 700 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Terms of endearment? If I had a boyfriend, I would call him my "boyfriend" , but if we were living together or married, I would call him my "partner" Lex, you are absolutely f--king hillarious!!!! __________________ Lesbian? Gay? Bisexual? Transgender? Queer? Whatever.

15th Jun 2008, 04:11 PM	#10
Alexander EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Red Hook NY Age: 19 Posts: 2,736 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Terms of endearment? I absolutely despise the term "partner" in straight or gay couples. When I'm with someone, he will be my boyfriend. If I marry him, he will be my husband.

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