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Being gay is ok unless your family

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  1. dano218

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    My sister has had this attitude since figuring out I was gay. She supports gay people in general but will not accept my sexuality whatsoever and completely alienated herself from me. There could be a number of reasons like her husbands anti gay father, she thinks I am doing it just for attention. I confronted her nicely last may and we have not spoke since.
     
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    This is pretty common actually..
     
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    If I had to guess, its because she had a concept of you as heterosexual, and finding that changed, feels she has in some way lost you.
     
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    Yes I know how you feel. My mum says she is accepting but whenever she gets upset at me its always my sexuality she will mock. I think she likes to believe she is ok with it (especially since my uncle is gay too) but in reality she is clearly uncomfortable with how comfortable I am with it. I hope that makes sense.
     
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    Yeah could be true but doesn't justify her actions.

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    what is your problem with me. If you don't like me don't comment on my threads.

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    Yeah my sister won't even say thr word gay in her arguments.
     
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    Pardon?
     
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    No, of course not. I have to deal with a similar thing, and its not nice. But you asked about her reasons, and that is what they usually are. In knowing the reasons, you might be able to shape your arguments better, and make her come around.
     
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    Common sense

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    If you see my past threads you will see the situation in further detail just saying. Basically it's all on her terms right now.
     
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    I'm sorry. That must be difficult. But there are ways of getting through to her, even if they aren't immediately obvious. I'm not saying I know what they are - they'll be unique to your situation, but you said it yourself, she isn't homophobic towards anyone else, which means she isn't completely unreasonable.
     
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    Believe me I tried and she's like a stone wall no one can get past.' It's like she's looking for a reason to shut me out.
     
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    Pardon #2?
    You need to get down from your high seated wagon dude, I was being comprehensive.
    You effectively seriously need to gain some common sense.
     
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    You accused me of being a gold digging whore on a earlier thread. You should effectively leave this thread.
     
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    My mom is like this she will be kind and sweet to gay men she meets and even to my gay guy friend but if she found out about me being bi she would send me to some correctional center and tell me I'm the worst person in the world
     
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    If anything these cases tend to show their true colors. She doesn't support gays, otherwise it wouldn't be a problem. Sorry that she's being that way.
     
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    Well my sister says its ok for gays to get married and to adopt but her tune changes when it comes to me.
     
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    Gurl you do not want to get hissy vs me, create a topic on a widespread problem that may affect others in a more severe manner and I will comment.
    Openly call me out to a fight and you will get a response.
    Put words into my mouth and I will spit them back out.
    But don't think for two seconds that I will remember who you are, as I do not care for people with your attitude and self-importance, nor bring up past, disclosed & irrelevant topics on new threads, especially if you paraphrase it to victimise your being.
    This topic does concern me, my parents fully support LGBTQ rights, having attended Prides with my Lesbian aunts but when they found out I was gay they isolated me from my family for a few days. This also happened to quite a few people I know. Thus my answering the thread.
     
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    Sorry dude I was way out of line. I took advantage of the situation because you offended me in the past. You have every right to comment here. Lets be cool and move on.
     
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    That's what I'm saying, she never believed it, just put on a front cause it's PC. If anything it would work the other way around, that family coming out makes them confront their bigotry.
     
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    Do you think it would be wise for me to bring up the subject again or should it be on her terms.
     
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    I've not experienced this myself but my dad even though I know he loves me and respects me, I know its weird for him that his only bio kid is just not "normal", its something totally different having a gay step son that a pan daughter when most people dont even know what pan means...

    It should definately be on her terms, you deserve better and if she doesnt understand you well its too bad.
     
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