Why don't I like kids?

I detest kids and I'm very, very certain I will never have them. I've felt this way for as long as I can remember and my dislike of kids has only gotten bigger over the past few years. So no, you're definitely not the only guy feeling this.

I don't think it's bad anyway. Some people just don't have that natural instinct and let's face it, I'm glad they don't cause the world is overpopulated already.

I think this all. the. time. when a kid does something I don't like.

Meanwhile, I keep reading, cause I'm curious about other answers.

 

Hell no. Maybe not even in a minority regarding the subject.

 

I know more people who dislike kids than who do like kids, and among people I know, I'm considered weird for having wanted to work with kids for many years.

 

I always thought fawning over babies was a female thing. To me, most babies are kinda-sorta cute if they're not covered in bodily fluids, and even then generically so. It's rare one baby is cuter than another, so when people come up to me with a baby going "o boo boo widduw baybee!!" I honestly don't care even a little XD.

That said, I don't hate kids. I'd even say I want to be a father. I just wish I could see my kid when he or she is first born, then fast forward through the toddler years until about 4-5. That's when they can actually converse with you and things get interesting. You also begin to see their personality develop, which I imagine is very rewarding for a parent.

 

I love kids and study child development but the more I learn about genetics and developmental disorders and think about what risk factors I'd be passing onto my kids, the more certain I am that I don't want to have any. At least not ones that are biologically mine.

 

Children are always hated in capitalist societies.

 

I dislike kids. Except for kids my own age, I never liked younger kids the older I got.

Babies need so much attention, and I don't have that level of patience. But babies grow up to be Einstein, Benjamin Franklin, and Presidents, so I've heard that argument, too. Then, you have a long period of time when their reasoning skills and naivete are high, and you have to be hyper-vigilant of them. Then, some teenagers turn on their parents and it can get unwieldy. And all the while, whether a person is married, divorced, or single, they cost a lot of money.

I think Kinsey 0s, and particularly women, like kids. For many, having them is instinctive and defines them as complete people. I think that it's common among many GLBT folks not to like kids. Note how many prefer cats and dogs.

 

I don't like babies. Older kids are fine though. I could see having one or two if someone i was with wanted children, later in life. Otherwise I would be content without them.

 

I actually wish I could have kids, and kinda have always wanted them. I know there's the possibility of adoption, or me fathering a child, but that's not the same. But, then, I suppose my biological clock is ticking.... I would just sorta wish they could be born, be babies, then be kids, skipping being toddlers.

 

I've posted about this before, but I really don't want children. I have an insanely large family (we're talking around 20 aunts and uncles total, most of which with kids, and some of those kids with kids), and I'm among the "older" cousins, so I spent a lot of my preteen - teenage years practically babysitting the mountains of younger cousins. There's also my youngest sister who's 9 years younger than me, and at times, it felt like I had to help raise her (especially since our father was never around). It just feels like that (along with other things) just robbed me even more of my own childhood. I'm just ready to live my life without children constantly being present. So that on top of the fact that I really don't like children (too much stress for me...), I won't ever have them. Completely non-negotiable.

 

I would never have biological kids, but I plan to adopt. My genes aren't have bad in my opinion, but I simply have no personal desire to pass them on. While I obviously understand the necessity of reproduction, I feel its a bit selfish to have biological kids simply for the sake of having biological kids when they are plenty already alive who need care no less.

In regards to raising/caring for them, I feel about the same way I do about pets. I despise being around cats and dogs unless they are mine. (I do love animals, but for those who don't know, I am also quite germaphobic. I really have to care for something or someone to look past the fact that we are all bacterial cesspool).

 

I do not understand this statement... we live in a capitalist society yet many people love kids (even those who have no problem with capitalism).

Yeah capitalism is bad, but I don't really think the general population is taught to hate kids.

To respond to the OP, I personally love children and would like to raise them one day, but don't think there is anything particularly strange about not liking them either.

 

Don't like kids and have never wanted them. It's bad enough that pictures of pregnant women gross me out. I have no idea why, either.

 

That's just silly and, I suspect, dogma-driven.

Anyhow, I absolutely adore children, but I don't want the responsibility of caring for them when they're not so adorable -- but that could always change...

 

I don't really want kids either. It's not that I don't like them though; I'm the oldest of six and I care very much for my younger siblings. However, other kids don't listen to me and that can be really annoying. I just don't want the kind of responsibility required for kids. I mean, one false move and I feel like I might destroy their morals/world view forever. I know that's probably paranoia or something, but I don't want to risk it. So, I think I'd be fine as an aunt, but not as a parent.

As for babies, I don't see what the whole cute thing is about. Yeah their cheeks make them kinda funny looking, but I don't see why people fawn over babies that aren't even theirs.

 

This is why rich people like nannies and boarding schools. Then the parents only see the kids when they choose.

 

I want kids.

I think there is some truth to the "you'll know when you have your own". People don't say it for no reason - and I will go as far as to say that at least a few of those people probably didn't like the idea of kids before they had them.

I don't think you can make a judgment on the value of having kids through outside observations and even others' attestations, because, yes they can be little shits sometimes, but there's a certain happiness to find in having kids that I don't think can be objectively explained.

I also think how we were raised as kids influences our disposition to like or dislike the idea of kids.

 

I've always been quite good with kids, and I've often wished I had a little brother or sister. I have two cousins that I see fairly regularly that are 9 and 10 and even though they can be annoying, it's still fun to play with them. For some reason, toddlers and younger just seem to bond with me, and I get almost "broody". It's one of the few things I dislike about homosexuality, the inability to have kids.

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