Perverted elder men

Oh my lanta that is so creepy. iii_iii

 

Yes, this has happened to me, I seem to have a face/body that attracts paraphiliacs in their 50s and older, omgg the things they saay, laawd. This song is waay shallow but if they weren't being creepers it wouldn't be so relevant:

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=irgIyKE8RL8

It's not so much the age difference that's even theproblem, more the creepy, sometimes disturbing, dynamics usually involved, with me.

 

Or maybe they were just always creepy, but no one thought so until they got a little snow on the rooftop andfailed to change their ways and "act their age". Though, it seems like with some men the older they get the younger their tastes get, deerp.

 

I had one guy online try to coerce me into flying across the country to live with him. Yeah, not happening, gramps, especially after you lied about your HIV status, occupation, and email address, on top of coming off as a total creeper.

There are probably a few factors at play here: the "high demand" for younger men in the gay cruising scene, the fact that the older you get, the less appealing you become, and the more lonely, desperate, etc. a few insecure men become, the fact that a lot of younger guys aren't well off at all, and see it as an opportunity to be "take care of" with little to give back in return...

Some will object, naturally, say that love doesn't discriminate, but at this point, I'm convinced any guy who looks only for those half/twice their age has ulterior motives, first and foremost. I'll take someone close my age and with the maturity of someone in their golden years, though.

 

I seem to attract older men like a magnet (thankfully I finally found somebody), but I've received the line "You wanna be the cub to my bear," three times. I admit it's kinda flattering, I like masculine men (then again I just like men in general), but if I kindly say no, please stop the flirting.

 

so? it is only creepy for people in their 50's to think people who are young are sexy -why can't and older person like young tight bodies - we still have eyes

if you are young and think older people look flabby this is a fine way to think - avoid them?

and young people get to go out with each other this is not a problem at all - just partying


but as and older person if you want to have a "good time" you are "creepy"?


I don't like getting old any more than anyone else does - but I am not dead yet

 

*Enable serious mode*

There is nothing wrong with older men liking younger men. People are attracted to what they find beautiful. If someone is attracted to you, there is nothing perverted about it. I understand that it is not acceptable to sexually harass another person.

It boils down to appearance. Some people prefer to associate themselves with people they find good looking and attractive. They start worrying about the personality issue later. People like it when someone they find attractive starts to flirt with them. However, as soon as they find someone unattractive and that person wants to talk to them, they go ape sh*t and go PERVERT! Just shows what some people are like. Tsk tsk tsk tsk tsk tsk

Like geez leweez. Chill out. If you seriously consider yourself so attractive, stay indoors. Don't leave the house. If you must, wear a Niqaab.

Everyone is happy. *throws confetti*

 

it's not perverted, they're human and so are you, get over yourself.

 

I'm in my 50s and I take what I can get. I actually prefer older men who are a little overweight. I'm approached by younger men all the time. Most of my hookups are guys in their 20s.

I would never go into a gay bar full of guys in their 20s and start trying to hookup. But, if I meet a younger guy and mention I love to bottom, and he says he likes to top, well, we both get what we want.

When it comes to sex, different people are into different things.

I try very hard not to look like an old pervert. I usually let the younger guy make the first move.

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And old guy once tried to flirt with me at a bus stop. It was really awkward and disturbing.
Had a female friend who once had several old men asking her to go somewhere with them, at a football match, lucky she had her older brother with her who scared them off.

Both me and my friend were under aged at the time. So nothing un-perverted about it.

 

Well throwing around "pervert" only makes you a judgmental douche. FYI, many of us younger LGBT have been called perverts as well, so you might want to gain some perspective. You're 20 not 12. Get over yourself.

 

well - here , at every bus stop I go to SOME guy flirts with me, it is one of the reasons I finally figured out how to save up for a bicycle

 

Yeah, there's nothing wrong with older men, in fact, I take the attention as a compliment. The thing with some people, and this is any demographic really, is that they don't have any boundaries. I've been hit on by many older men in college, and a pretty good chunk of them are bears, thus the "cub to my bear" line that I mentioned in my previous post.

I'll be honest, age isn't a big thing with me. I find some older men much more attractive than some younger men. For me, personality is the biggest thing I look for and find attractive in somebody. Usually it is because some of the older guys at school are just so much more confident than some of the others is what gives me that draw.

Now my boyfriend is close to my age, he's 22 where I'm 19, but he has that old soul feel, he definitely has his act together. He's confident about himself, he's very level headed, and he's a sweetheart. He just happens to be the age he is, hell I'll be honest, I thought he was younger than me based off of how he looked.

Where I draw the line is if there's just too much of a disparity of where we are in our lives. I don't expect a guy to take care of me, nor do I want to be dependent on him. A good relationship is always give and take, and sometimes it's hard for some people with an age gap to achieve this; but many couples have a healthy, loving relationship despite their age difference.

I feel as if both people love each other, and they have a good relationship where everything is on equal grounds between the two, why the heck not, eh?

 

Yeah I've had this happen to me many times in the past and I try to avoid it. Each time I find them catching glances but over time they'll stare right at me. In the end I simply just raises my eyebrows and look at them rather rudely. Don't have problem with older men, but I just get that creepy feeling and I personally don't feel comfortable with people much older than I am.

At Target I was dressed up cause I went to my grandfather's funeral and it wasn't anything revealing or anything and a older men asked me as I walking down the isle, so have a rough night at the office sweetie?

It creeped me out, after I told my mother we ended up leaving after she found what she was looking for. Didn't react so well at the time cause I was upset already as it was and that's the last thing that I wanted to encounter.

 

I have been in similar situations a couple times while at the bar and, although it's a compliment to get hit on by older people, it can get weird.

This past summer, I went to the bar on my 21st B-day with some friends, my dad and his girlfriend. My dad's girlfriend's friend (who is like 45) kept hitting on me and and buying me drinks. I think she was trying to get me intoxicated. :lol:

That was pretty awkward.

 

Mkay, I'm noticing some of these comments are actually really harsh, and considering the fact that EC happens to have members age 50+ who come here for the same intentions as others, one would think this would be a bit disheartening. Just my 2 cents.

 

Honestly I'm 20 and if an older guy finds me attractive, I'm flattered. I don't consider it creepy or perverted at all. I'm not a 10 year old boy, so what's wrong with it??

It's all in the delivery when somebody flirts with you, as long as he is kind, sweet and a gentleman I have no problems if an older man flirts with or compliments me. If any guy of any age comes up to me and says something sexual in nature as his way of flirting, I consider that perverted regardless if he's 18 or 60 and immediately dismiss that person and consider them nothing more than a perverted pig.

If a person flirts with you and your not interested, there's a polite and kind way to let them know your not interested. Such as "thank you very much for the compliment, that's very kind of you, but I'm not interested, sorry." I don't see the need to hurt another persons feelings.