fewer questions

first one: no, i never dated opposite gender
2) pansexual i thought means liking everyone unlimited to gender or genital, basically everyone?

 

(1) I haven't dated the opposite gender, because I was in the process of coming out when dating started becoming relevant in my peer group. I have kissed girls though, and I felt nothing but discomfort.
I also recently got with a guy for the first time and it felt quite similar, but that is a different story.

(2) I can't answer your question, as I see very little difference between bisexuality and pansexuality, but I'm not being disrespectful there I just am not well informed.

 

Many what people?
that is a really bad misconception that was spread like a wildfire. I mean, if my interest or hobby don't collide with another guy, the chance of attraction is dimmed.

 

1. Well, I'm personally pansexual. I've dated both male and female. Their personality is what makes it for me, not what's between their legs. But I'm not demisexual (sexual attraction only formed when you have a strong emotional attachment to someone).

2. Bisexuality is an attraction to male and female, whereas pansexuality includes every and all genders. ^^

 

Basically, while bisexuals are attracted only to men and women, pansexuals are also sexually attracted to androgynes people, intersexed people, gender neutral (no gender) and so on.

 

You beat me to it. Dang my slow post making.

However, I know there are those who disagree with that definition for bisexuality. Obviously, there exist bisexual people who are attracted to all genders too, but do not identify as pansexual. It just ends up coming down to your preference. It's your own sexuality, so you're the one who gets to define and label it accordingly.

I don't identity as bisexual, because even though it can mean attraction to all genders, I see it as still putting emphasis on gender. Ever since I questioned my sexuality, I've believed that gender didn't matter when it came to whoever I was attracted to. Pansexuality fits this definition exactly.

 

Yeah I had trouble understanding demisexuality too, but I eventually realized that the attachment for a demisexual has to be very intense before ANY sexual attraction can occur. And this attachment can be platonic or romantic.

Okay let me help you with the gender thing. So you know about female and male, but there are many others! (Some terminology info: sex is for genitals and gender is for what someone mentally identifies as.) I identify as agender, which is someone who feels genderless or gender neutral. There are some people who feel bigender, which is feeling like two genders (not necessarily just male and female, this can include other genders). There is genderfluid, which means that someone's gender changes over time. This is just a few; it would take me a long time to list them all!

So I've read a lot about bisexuality vs pansexuality because I had a hard time understanding the difference when I first heard it. Pansexuality basically means that someone is attracted to all genders. The gender doesn't really matter to them. Bisexuality is a little more confusing. You see, before people knew about more than 2 genders, bisexuality meant the same thing as pansexuality. But people started to realize that there are more than 2 genders! The term pansexuality wasn't around yet, so some people took the term bisexuality and expanded it to include those other genders. This means that to some people, bisexuality is not just for 2 genders! Then along comes pansexuality, who wanted to give love-for-all-genders a new name. But in order to distinguish themselves from bisexuals, they decided that bisexuality can only be for 2 genders. Well this upset some of the people that identified as bi and thought of it as including all genders. That is why there is still some fighting between pansexuals and bisexuals, and also why the difference between the two is still under dispute.

 

Yay, thank you for explaining. You worded it a lot better than I could have! XD

Yup. It basically comes down to this.

 

I know, there are so many terms that it can get confusing. (personally I find the variety of terms really interesting)

Intersex is someone who's sex (genitals) does not fall into the categories of male and female. They could have any kind of combination of the two.

As for androgyny, some of the terminology is confusing, so I'll explain it as well as I can. Androgyny is a term describing a person whose gender encompasses both male and female, therefore it lies somewhere between the two. So androgyny (also spelled androgyne) has to do with someone's gender. The word androgynous describes someone's appearance, not their gender. An androgynous person can look both male and female, or neither. Basically, it can be hard to tell the sex of an androgynous person because their clothing hides sexual features. Androgynous can also include voice and facial features. The voice could be right in between male and female, making it hard to tell the sex. Facial features could be the same way.

I can hopefully help you with the no gender thing because I identify that way. I will put a disclaimer and say that this is only my personal view. Personally, I do not feel like a woman or a man. While I might do feminine or masculine things, these are not a reflection of who I am inside. If I like to dress up, it is because I like the clothes, NOT because I'm a girl. If I like science, it is NOT because I'm a boy. But even those two examples rely on stereotypes. Obviously, some boys like to dress up and some girls like science. While I know that for many, gender is an internal feeling, I have always thought that genders like male and female are just a collection of stereotypes that are lumped with a sex. This does not mean that I think other's genders are illegitimate; it just means that I don't understand that internal feeling of gender. And the reason I don't understand it very well is because I don't have it.

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Your welcome! Glad to help. :icon_bigg

 

Your welcome! I happen to know a lot about the questions you asked. I also like to explain things, so that's why my posts were so long. And don't worry about asking too many questions. It just means that you want to learn, which is never a bad thing.