Rapid arousal and alternating arousal (a day apart, a week apart, a month apart) to printed matter, including legitimate novels, cinema, and when pressed up against or viewing people with either plumbing in the flesh. However, I had definite types within each and still do. And I'm talking physical, not emotional.
When I realized I got just as excited for guys as I did for girls. Nothing too special XD. Of course there was the matter of alternating preference, but w/e.
I was playing an h-game and there was this girl who had both and it was the sexiest thing ever... That was when I realised I actually hadn't been imagining things when the thoughts came to me 'you sure spend a lot of time looking at dicks in porn for a straight dude'.
I think for me it was acknowledging, and then acting on thoughts I had been repressing. Basically I did not afford myself the opportunity earlier in life to try to find my true sexuality, and instead just gravitated towards what was more expected of me.
Hmm. That girl looks hot. Hmm, that guy looks hot. Interestingly, though, even before I transitioned, the attraction to guys was harder to accept than the attraction to girls.
Well it's a bit hard for me to say at the moment whether I'm bi or gay because I think I'm asexual. Which means nothing "down there" for either gender...so I guess if a lot of time passes and I'm only crushing on girls then there's my answer. But I began to identify as bisexual (biromantic, but no one outside of LGBT knows what that means) because I could still appreciate the attractiveness of males, but still like girls, if that makes any sense. So I guess I'll answer your question in a few years. XD
A girl admitted to me that she liked me and we ended up kissing a couple times and from there I just did a lot of thinking and realized that there was a reason I had experienced subtle attractions to girls along with crushes on boys. I still like her now but its not like I'm not attracted to guys.
I spent many months wondering why pretty girls made me nervous. I also wondered why I was so shy when I talked to this one girl, but would be so happy after I had a conversation with her. When I realized I was attracted to girls, I then wondered if I was a lesbian or bi. Then one day, I was walking through the halls of my school, and couldn't help but stare after this one attractive male who walked past me. I think that was the moment I officially said "Yep, I'm totally bi."
I don't really know.. I think I always knew I was bi(curious?). My first kiss was with a girl when I was around 10 but I put it down to childish curiosity with a friend, until the years went by and I realised that I thought about girls as well boys...
Same for me. Realizing that I was into women was more about overcoming fears of stereotypes, judgment, and preconceptions than realizing that the way I was looking at other girls wasn't a just-friends way and that finding myself tongue-tied and weak in the knees wasn't a just-friends thing, either. I assumed that the kind of muted interest I felt in men early on was normal. My friends would show me naked celebrities and I'd just think, "So what? Why are you so excited about this?" I had to meet less, uh, conventionally attractive men to realize that I do find some of them attractive, too. I don't know what it means to be alternating, though. I've never experienced anything that could be described that way.
I think that knowing that you will be judged stops a lot of people from figuring themselves out early on. I know I would probably have figured this stuff out years ago if I had felt free to explore.
I realized I was bi when I started to secretly use my sisters sex toys while thinking of some of my guy friends but at the same time I liked girls.
I started noticing how much I found myself staring at women, but I'd had crushes on guys before. I was incredibly confused until I learned what bisexuality was and I was like "OHHHHHH, that's what it is!" Then I tried convincing myself I was straight anyway? Eh, eventually I just kind of accepted that I was bisexual. And then realized how many little crushes I'd actually had on girls before. :eusa_doh:
Well I had crushes on girls a lot and I still can find girls very attractive. But around 14 years of age I also found guys to be attractive too and I started liking guys more often and I still liked girls so yeahhh xD
Letting go of the fear of being a lesbian was really hard for me. My go-to rationalization was that I liked guys, and therefore was straight. It took being in an environment where any orientation was okay for me to allow myself to really think about my orientation. Over about a month, I came to terms with it and eventually came out as questioning to one friend, and later, as bi to my two best friends. Now, I'm completely out, and it's just one fact about me and no more important than my lactose intolerance. Usually.
I realised they weren't 'girl crushes' any more and that I wanted more. It's still more physical attraction to female and only a little emotional. I sway more towards men.
