Why do some people say "all the nice guys are gay" ?

Probably because your attraCtive to them and they will never have u

 

It's a stereotype that all gay guys are polite, nice, quiet and effeminate. They don't know my friends.

 

Because most straight men are pigs and gay men seem to be clean in appearance and are fabled to be sensitive to women's needs. its just a stereotype! Nothing more, nothing less! So go on with your day and don't worry about it. June

 

It might depend on the kind of straight guys they have met up with. My wife had an ex-husband who was an abusive alcoholic, and had a history of dating losers long before that. She always considered me "different from the other guys" that she knew (although, of course, she was quite surprised to find out last year just HOW different I really was!). To a lot of straight women, a gay man is basically a girlfriend who looks like a straight guy, can fix things like a straight guy, but doesn't have some ulterior motives as a straight guy (i.e., getting into her pants). It's not really that all gay guys are nice, or even that much nicer than most straight guys. Our "niceness" just doesn't have the same price tag.

 

Because when you don't want to sleep with someone, you communicate with them differently. It's a lot easier to get along with someone when you don't care what they look like naked.

 

Bullshit stereotypes.

 

This.

 

I have posted once before about what an annoying phrase this is... From my perspective as a gay woman, there are a number of really, really nice straight guys who have been attracted to me and absolutely no gay women who have!

 

Cos its true?

 

Wouldn't it be better if it were "all gay guys are nice"? Instead of "all nice guys are gay"?

 

Even if polite and nice, there's still a bad rap for that. The effeminate factor doesn't even need to be there. There has to be a dose of hard ass to ward off the homo vibe. Then throw in the fact that you're not acting like a testosterone crazed buffoon around women the way the rough around the edges exclusively heterosexual acts. Yeah, both are stereotypes, but a lot of people fit the gentleman and jerk roles in the gay and straight worlds, respectively.

 

I wish it was true, then whenever I found a nice guy, I would know he is gay and I could ask him out without fear of rejection because he is straight. I would probably get rejected for a lot of other reasons. And girls would still be difficult...

 

Because it's True! (sarcasm).

I've met some real bitchy gay men in the past. I'm guessing it's stereotype, and an explanation as to why woman (who I'm going to presume are the ones saying this) can't seem to date nice men (as opposed to just looking for nice men instead of dating arseholes). It's basically just another version of all the cute ones are gay. Apparently they just don't look hard enough.

 

Eh, is that really a stereotype? I think the stereotypical gay guy is supposed to be a loudmouthed opinionated bitch.

 

So have I. I've seen the A-list / could be straight but a little too put together bitchy gay guy. And I've seen the flamboyant, volatile, generally unpleasant, and mouthy bitchy gay guy. I have a friend who said "I have a sexuality ... I am not my sexuality." He works for a transit district. He's just a regular 5'9 dude ... not loud, not gym toned, clean cut, and has a relaxed, almost soothing voice. He is representative of what gay men who doesn't set off radar are like. Except for periodically shopping at IKEA (j/k), I can't think of any other attributes he's got that would trigger suspicion, unless it's lack of sports talk and lack of romantic involvement with anyone. When it comes to women, he's cordial enough in an all business sort of way, but doesn't engage them if they are waiting on his table or in line at the store. On the other hand, I am more apt to do so. He says he just doesn't have much in common with them.

 

Yep, that's me alright!

 

I've had a few different people say I'm the nicest person I know. I don't know if that comes from being gay, a Christian, or a pushover, though.