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**Martin** · 26th Jun 2008, 10:53 AM

I just filled in some crappy death calculator which has me down to die in 2050. Mehhhh.

Anyways, my question. If there was a way to find out the exact date and time of your death would you want to know?

Explain whyyyy.

I personally wouldn't. I prefer the whole not knowing when thing, and i would hate to think "I have exactly x time left".

**Helen** · 26th Jun 2008, 10:54 AM

Nuh uh, not quite my cup of tea.

I'd be so haunted by the knowledge, I think I'd go insane. Same reason as you, basically

sngl · 26th Jun 2008, 10:56 AM

Noooooo
Knowing the date of my death would probably ruin my life

I hate deadlines

Behling · 26th Jun 2008, 10:59 AM

I would. Death is just another inevitability in life and I don't think it would screw with me to know when I was gonna die.

Malchik89 · 26th Jun 2008, 11:03 AM

I wouldnt want to, only because that kind of takes the meaning out of carpe diem. Because then you cant treat everyday like its your last, because you already know when the last day is. So living life would truly just be awaiting that day until you die, and whats the fun in that? XP I'd rather not know and live everyday out to the fullest.

Austin · 26th Jun 2008, 11:09 AM

no D= I'd hate to know.

agraves · 26th Jun 2008, 11:10 AM

I don't want to know. I'd much rather be taken completely by surprise. As said in previous posts, I would drive myself crazy with the knowledge. Everything would seem so trivial. Relationships, career, etc. Yeah, I don't want to know.

Trumpetplyer23 · 26th Jun 2008, 11:17 AM

No, because I'd be so angry that I'd die on that day. That my time with all my friends and family would end. I'd waste so much time being angry, I'd forget to enjoy life and end up dying unhappily.

Jebs · 26th Jun 2008, 11:27 AM

The only reason I would want to know is if I were to die young. Like from now to about 30. Other then that I wouldn't really care. I just want to live till I'm atleast 30, I figure it all goes downhill after that.

Pancake · 26th Jun 2008, 11:27 AM

no way, i would be thinking about it all day and ticking off the days until i die, deppresing....

**lostinthought9** · 26th Jun 2008, 11:28 AM

yea, I kinda would like to know, so i voted yes, i guess cuz i would like to do all the crazy things before i die, and make peace with everyone, well almost everyone, and stuff like that...

jazzrawr · 26th Jun 2008, 11:54 AM

I think that if you knew when you were going to die, it would take all the excitement out of life!!
I said no, cause i'd rather live life to the fullest and never know what's going to happen.
And i'd be so pressured to get some things done, i wouldn't have any fun

26th Jun 2008, 12:08 PM

If the source was reliable, and people actually died when he told them they would, I would have to do as many drugs as possible and go skydiving the day i would supposedly die. And it would be awesome. It would also probably be the reason I died. Lol

Hoppip · 26th Jun 2008, 12:39 PM

I have to be honest, I'm afraid of death. I'd rather not know the specifics (ESPECIALLY the cause.)

I think...

One day I'll finally get over my anxiety-attack-triggering-crippling-phobia of big mechanical carwashes, and I'll go get a carwash and I'll die a horrible death.

;_;

beckyg · 26th Jun 2008, 12:42 PM

Nah....I think it would take too much out of living.

sexyalex · 26th Jun 2008, 12:42 PM

why should i be botherd. I go by the philosophy "yesterday was history, today is a gift and tomorrow is a mystery"

Paul_UK · 26th Jun 2008, 02:08 PM

No, I wouldn't want to know. It would cause me to plan for it, and would probably also cause me to do stupid things (like driving dangerously) now, knowing that I won't get killed because it is no my time yet.

Steve · 26th Jun 2008, 02:12 PM

um we have to wait another 48 years untill martins gone for good

jk bud

no . will ruin my life

**Owen** · 26th Jun 2008, 02:37 PM

Wow, I thought I'd be the only one who voted yes. I would actually find the knowledge of when I'll die freeing rather than burdening. It would allow me to not worry about whether something will or won't kill me. Of course, I wouldn't use that as an excuse to do dangerous things; it would just make me happy to know when it will really happen. Maybe that's just because I find it more comforting to know that bad things will happen than to have no idea whether they will happen.

In all honesty, I view time as a fourth dimension, and I don't believe there is anything we can do to change our fate. In my opinion, free choice is an illusion. You think you have free choice because the human mind creates the illusion of control. Therefore, to me, knowing when you will die is no different from knowing what is above you or below you. (That's the third dimension.).

panda · 26th Jun 2008, 03:04 PM

No.Years ago someone read my palm and said I would die when I was 50. A recent test said 84.
When it's time to go, it's time to go.I'd don't want to know.I'd like it to be random, like an icicle falling from the top of the CN Tower.

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26th Jun 2008, 10:53 AM	#1
Martin EC's Red Queen EC Admin Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Some people Location: Merseyside, UK Age: 21 Posts: 8,027 Join Date: Nov 2007	Would you like to know? I just filled in some crappy death calculator which has me down to die in 2050. Mehhhh. Anyways, my question. If there was a way to find out the exact date and time of your death would you want to know? Explain whyyyy. I personally wouldn't. I prefer the whole not knowing when thing, and i would hate to think "I have exactly x time left". __________________ The blue whale ejaculates up to 40 gallons during sexual intercourse, but only 10 gallons enters the female. Do you still wonder why the sea tastes salty?

26th Jun 2008, 10:54 AM	#2
Helen Empty Closets Mod EC Moderator Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Inconsequential if people know. Location: York, United Kingdom Age: 19 Posts: 2,101 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Would you like to know? Nuh uh, not quite my cup of tea. I'd be so haunted by the knowledge, I think I'd go insane. Same reason as you, basically __________________ I want a window where I can see a tree, or even water... (....and the lesbians)

26th Jun 2008, 10:56 AM	#3
sngl Trance Fan #1 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Almost everyone Location: Romania Age: 25 Posts: 784 Join Date: Sep 2007	Re: Would you like to know? Noooooo Knowing the date of my death would probably ruin my life I hate deadlines __________________

26th Jun 2008, 10:59 AM	#4
Behling ^_^ Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Illinois, just outside of Chicago Age: 19 Posts: 1,898 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Would you like to know? I would. Death is just another inevitability in life and I don't think it would screw with me to know when I was gonna die. __________________ "Your words are infectious Your eyes leave me breathless I think it's safe to say You're deadly in your own way"

26th Jun 2008, 11:03 AM	#5
Malchik89 True as Blue Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: whomever cares enough to know Location: Illinois Age: 22 Posts: 647 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Would you like to know? I wouldnt want to, only because that kind of takes the meaning out of carpe diem. Because then you cant treat everyday like its your last, because you already know when the last day is. So living life would truly just be awaiting that day until you die, and whats the fun in that? XP I'd rather not know and live everyday out to the fullest. __________________ *"Haven't you heard? I'm the crazy bitch around here." (Blair Waldorf ~ Gossip Girl)* I am human and i need to be loved...just like everybody else does

26th Jun 2008, 11:09 AM	#6
Austin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most people in my life. Location: Orange County, California, USA Age: 19 Posts: 1,788 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Would you like to know? no D= I'd hate to know. __________________ Can I sail through the changing ocean tides, can I handle the seasons of my life?

26th Jun 2008, 11:10 AM	#7
agraves Amber Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Colorado Age: 28 Posts: 246 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Would you like to know? I don't want to know. I'd much rather be taken completely by surprise. As said in previous posts, I would drive myself crazy with the knowledge. Everything would seem so trivial. Relationships, career, etc. Yeah, I don't want to know. __________________ I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.

26th Jun 2008, 11:27 AM	#9
Jebs Is back for a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Eh. Dunno. Out Status: -1 Location: DC area Age: 24 Posts: 348 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: Would you like to know? The only reason I would want to know is if I were to die young. Like from now to about 30. Other then that I wouldn't really care. I just want to live till I'm atleast 30, I figure it all goes downhill after that.

26th Jun 2008, 11:27 AM	#10
Pancake Waffles suck! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 85% Gay Out Status: 1 friend! Location: London, UK Age: 17 Posts: 658 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Would you like to know? no way, i would be thinking about it all day and ticking off the days until i die, deppresing.... __________________ Hi, name is John.

26th Jun 2008, 11:28 AM	#11
lostinthought9 EC's Biggest Xena Fan EC Moderator Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: A few people Location: Louisiana Age: 21 Posts: 2,058 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: Would you like to know? yea, I kinda would like to know, so i voted yes, i guess cuz i would like to do all the crazy things before i die, and make peace with everyone, well almost everyone, and stuff like that... __________________

26th Jun 2008, 11:54 AM	#12
jazzrawr Lover of Loony Lovegood Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesimbean Out Status: I scream it from rooftops Location: Ontario, Canada. Age: 19 Posts: 3,391 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Would you like to know? I think that if you knew when you were going to die, it would take all the excitement out of life!! I said no, cause i'd rather live life to the fullest and never know what's going to happen. And i'd be so pressured to get some things done, i wouldn't have any fun __________________ <3 You can love people so much... But you can never love someone as much as you can miss them. (...and the lesbians.)

26th Jun 2008, 12:08 PM	#13
Nicvcer Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Would you like to know? If the source was reliable, and people actually died when he told them they would, I would have to do as many drugs as possible and go skydiving the day i would supposedly die. And it would be awesome. It would also probably be the reason I died. Lol

26th Jun 2008, 12:39 PM	#14
Hoppip look at the good i do Full Member Gender: Lv. 18 ♂ Orientation: Water / Dragon Out Status: Uncommon Location: Johto Posts: 1,562 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Would you like to know? I have to be honest, I'm afraid of death. I'd rather not know the specifics (ESPECIALLY the cause.) I think... One day I'll finally get over my anxiety-attack-triggering-crippling-phobia of big mechanical carwashes, and I'll go get a carwash and I'll die a horrible death. ;_; __________________ KUDOS ME. I made myshelf pregnant.

26th Jun 2008, 12:42 PM	#15
beckyg PFLAG Mom Community Liaison Gender: Female Orientation: Straight Out Status: Out to everyone/Yes, parents come out too! Location: Middle of Oregon Age: 50 Posts: 7,572 Join Date: Mar 2007	Re: Would you like to know? Nah....I think it would take too much out of living. __________________ "When we're free to love anyone we choose, When this worlds big enough for all different views, When we're all free to worship from our own kind of pew, Then we shall be free" ~ Garth Brooks

26th Jun 2008, 12:42 PM	#16
sexyalex Fame Monster copy No.2 Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: attracted to anyone sexy Out Status: only my friends know. Location: Kingston Age: 20 Posts: 1,410 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: Would you like to know? why should i be botherd. I go by the philosophy "yesterday was history, today is a gift and tomorrow is a mystery" __________________ I know that we are young and I know that you may love me, but I just can't be with you like this anymore. Alejandro.

26th Jun 2008, 02:08 PM	#17
Paul_UK Former Empty Closets Admin Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Bournemouth, UK Age: 47 Posts: 13,155 Join Date: Nov 2004	Re: Would you like to know? No, I wouldn't want to know. It would cause me to plan for it, and would probably also cause me to do stupid things (like driving dangerously) now, knowing that I won't get killed because it is no my time yet. __________________ Paul

26th Jun 2008, 02:12 PM	#18
Steve EC's Soldier! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Sargeant sexual Out Status: whoever asks Location: Born in australia, but now living some where else Age: 21 Posts: 2,273 Join Date: May 2008	Re: Would you like to know? um we have to wait another 48 years untill martins gone for good jk bud no . will ruin my life __________________ Soldier " there is no room for that in my pocklet" commander " if there is room in your heart then there in your pocket" Soldier " i cant fit my gf in there" -r " have you tried ? until you try you dont know"

26th Jun 2008, 02:37 PM	#19
Owen Cleverly disguised as a responsible adult EC Admin Gender: Agendered dude Orientation: Panromantic androsexual Out Status: Everyone and their mother Location: Massachusetts, USA Age: 21 Posts: 2,862 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Would you like to know? Wow, I thought I'd be the only one who voted yes. I would actually find the knowledge of when I'll die freeing rather than burdening. It would allow me to not worry about whether something will or won't kill me. Of course, I wouldn't use that as an excuse to do dangerous things; it would just make me happy to know when it will really happen. Maybe that's just because I find it more comforting to know that bad things will happen than to have no idea whether they will happen. In all honesty, I view time as a fourth dimension, and I don't believe there is anything we can do to change our fate. In my opinion, free choice is an illusion. You think you have free choice because the human mind creates the illusion of control. Therefore, to me, knowing when you will die is no different from knowing what is above you or below you. (That's the third dimension.). __________________ "Stand firm for what you believe in, until and unless logic and experience prove you wrong. Remember, when the emperor looks naked, the emperor is naked. The truth and a lie are not sort of the same thing. And there is no aspect, no facet, no moment of life that can't be improved with pizza." -Daria Morgendorffer

26th Jun 2008, 03:04 PM	#20
panda EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: A few people Location: Toronto,Canada Age: 67 Posts: 4,653 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Would you like to know? No.Years ago someone read my palm and said I would die when I was 50. A recent test said 84. When it's time to go, it's time to go.I'd don't want to know.I'd like it to be random, like an icicle falling from the top of the CN Tower.