I dunno where my parents stand, which is why I never came out to them and probably never will. They refer (especially my mother) to gay people as being ''tilted'' and have compared homosexuals or transexuals as being as unbalanced or ''messed up'' as drug addicts [ex. they are talking about some man they know and about how his kids are messed up, that his son was involved in drugs and that his daughter is a lesbian etc.] While my father is not actually homophobic in the actual sense (at least today), he finds homosexuality as something which should be hidden and that people telling other people that a mutual friend is gay, is a very embarrassing matter. I also remember when I was around 12-14 (one of the things I pride myself is my memory, I can recollect pretty much all childhood conversations in detail) when we were out on a ''family trip'' and I couldn't actually see anything but apparently as we were leaving my parents had spotted two men kissing somewhere near the trees/bushes whatever and they were like: [Insert disgusted voices] ''What is this country coming to? Look at how we became.'' ''People can actually see them.'' blah de blah They basically repeated pretty much what I just said several times in various other sentences which meant the same thing. So no need to write those as well. Anyway looks I won't be coming out to them for some time.
I'd say it is homophobic. They think homosexuality and transgenderism are unnatural and something to be ashamed of, while considering two people of the same sex making out as some kind of cultural decline. A person need not threaten someone with torches and pitchforks to be against their orientation or gender. The fact that you have evidence that they'd disapprove of you coming out should be enough to figure that out.
I'm going for homophobic on this one. Though, maybe if they found out they you are gay, they'd change their tune after they've accepted it?
Yeah I kind of guessed that. Recently my father was talking about a man who ran a shop close to where we live and said he'd closed it down and also mentioned that he said he ''realized suddenly'' that he was gay and left his wife and kids to live with a guy. Then he asked me a question which I know he is going to ask me if I ever tell him I am in love with another (and assuming we ever date). ''What do they do? Kiss [insert barely disgusted voice] More to the point, do we have a facepalm smiley in here?
Unfortunately, they sound exactly like my southern, conservative, religious parents. Fortunately, I find that bigoted views like this are often based more in ignorance and misinformation than actual hatred. I wish you the best of luck and hope that maybe you can help enlighten them a bit.
that's very sad to hear but i was wondering what state or country do you live in for them to say ''what has this country turned too'' could it be saudi arabia ?
If they're disgusted by it, then yes they are homophobic. Lord, I hate that word XD My mom calls gays "faggoty ass faggots" and gets mad about it.
