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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by forbiddenlove12, Jan 10, 2014.

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  1. forbiddenlove12

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    Wichita do you guys identify as if any? And which do you prefer to seek out? Just wondering!
     
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    I guess since I have no real experience and have a few fairly specific fantasies I'd be considered a sub?
     
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    I don't have much experience, but I guess I'm mostly dom.
     
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    I am more of a sub versatile guy. I do not mind being versatile, but I would rather be sub in the relationship
     
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    I used to consider myself 100% dominate, but now if I were to be in a relationship I'd probably want my partner/boyfriend to be the dominate figure in the relationship.
     
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    I don't have any experience, but I know that I'm reversible. Either or, but I'd prefer to be sub.
     
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    I suppose I'd be sexually sub. But no power imbalance in the actual relationship.
     
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    I'd be sub I suppose, but I agree with Hexagon, I'd not want that sort of thing bleeding into any other aspects of a relationship.
     
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    I plead the 5th.

    Actually, I don't know because I've never been in a relationship but I feel that for all intents and purposes, I'd like to be in a more egalitarian kind of relationship, and that would probably extend to activities both inside and outside of the bedroom.
     
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    I am more submissive in the bedroom, when it comes to other aspects of the relationship I pretty much want it even. However I am fine with being slightly submissive in that aspect to... I just won't allow myself to be walked all over.
     
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    i'm a sub or boy, but not a slave. And yes, I do like BDSM. :slight_smile:
     
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    I'm definitely a sub. That's been more than obvious to me.
     
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    am more of a sub TBH never been a slave so dont know
     
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    I think I could be both. I have relation traits that are both dominant and submissive.
     
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    Im versatile, but I would probably prefer sub. Im fine with either or though. Whatever my partner would want/ be most comfortable with. Although, most people would probably think im exclusively dominant due to stereotypes. :dry:
     
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    Wow we need more doms here lol us subs need some help lol
     
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    When I was with guys I was more submissive mainly cause I wasn't really into it, I was just kinda doing what I thought I was supposed to do...Not sure what I would be with a girl. In fantasies I lean more towards dominant.
     
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    When I'm feeling male, definitely dom. When feeling female, definitely sub. (Genderfluid or some such here.)
     
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