My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) - Empty Closets - A safe online community for gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered people coming out

ccdd · 28th Jun 2008, 04:27 AM

You probably remember my thread a few days ago "My gaydar has been set off!":

http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/sh...ad.php?t=12049

And most of you agreed with me. Well:

MY GAYDAR SO TOTALLY ROCKS!!

SHE IS TOTALLY GAY!!

AND I SPENT THE OTHER NIGHT WITH HER (although strictly as friends).

So we'd just been watching a film in someone's house with lots of other people (you know, a lazy afternoon/evening with friends), then about half of us, including me and her, decided to go out for a drink afterwards - although the two of us spent the whole time just talking to each other, virtually ignoring everyone else. We were speaking for hours. Again, there's the whole "she's hot" thing, plus she mentions some TV show, and is like "yeah, and I only brought it because she's hot". There's NO mention of men anywhere, except in a general "why would you like him when you could like her?" kind of way.

I bring up lesbianism in a jokey way, and she laughs and we joke. She brings it up again later on. We laugh and joke. I bring it up again even later on, and we laugh and joke. Again random comments from the both of us like "She's SO attractive", and "yeah, I'd so marry her" and similar things. No mention of men, except to be like "Nah, I prefer ---".

Then it gets late and she asks me if I want to go over to her place. And I'm like, "yeah sure". We get there and the conversation continues. The conversation continues as above, including several mentions of lesbianism etc - basically it escalates. We talk about the evening in general, and I make a comment about how I thought this girl we had both just met that evening was quite cute. She says "yeah, I agree with you on that one". At one point in the evening we're talking and I'm like "yeah, usually I don't go for blondes but ---". We start talking about books we like, and amongst the ones she mentions, she mentions the book "The Well of Loneliness" - if you don't know this this is an iconic lesbian novel. I've never read it, but to let her know that I'd "got the hint" in that I knew the book, I said "Yeah, I've really been meaning to read that, but I haven't got round to it yet. I really want to read it". She says "Yeah, it's really good, you should definately read it. I'll lend it to you". At this point I'm thinking: she MUST be gay.

Then she asks me if I want to sleep in her bed (she says "it's fine, it's just more comfortable for you than the floor"). So we talk, and we talk about relationships. She NEVER mentions men. Over a conversation of about two hours about relationships and people she has liked, she never ONCE says "he" or "I liked this guy". It was always "they" and "someone". I'm thinking: she MUST be gay, because NO ONE uses gender-neutral pronouns for more than an hour. Plus, cumulatively, by this point I am CERTAIN she is gay.

Then she comes out to me. Casual-like. And then I come out to her. Casual-like. And then we discuss things like being gay, coming out, parents, how hard it is. And then we laugh about our gaydar and how we'd both spent the whole night thinking "Is she gay??". And we were discussing how hard it is to know sometimes...but we were totally rolling around in bed laughing about our evening and the hints we'd been dropping each other...

I very much doubt we'll have a relationship, and I certainly don't like to hope, but I am very happy to have made a friend. We've decided to spend more time with each other, which will be great.

BUT MY GAYDAR WORKS!!

Vampyrecat · 28th Jun 2008, 04:58 AM

OMG.

That's fantastic! Shit where do you live I wanna have that happen to me!

**Maddy** · 28th Jun 2008, 05:07 AM

That's so awesome!

Trumpetplyer23 · 28th Jun 2008, 05:47 AM

That is great!!!!!!

Looks like your gaydar is calibrated correctly

suiteng · 28th Jun 2008, 06:16 AM

Wow.. that's great

heatqueen · 28th Jun 2008, 06:54 AM

Yayyyy!!!!

Congratz, that's awesome!!!!

-Michael- · 28th Jun 2008, 07:14 AM

haha Kudos for you.

My gaybar is like asking a blind person how many fingers am i holding up

...
haha

musicgirl112233 · 28th Jun 2008, 09:13 AM

That is awesome!

Mirko · 28th Jun 2008, 10:05 AM

That's awesome ccdd. So happy for you.

28th Jun 2008, 11:22 AM

Hahah see I told you.. the L word is so hard to find in the Uk she must have gone to such lengths to find it she can't be straight

Seriously.. where do you meet all these lovely open minded and gay people??

Anyway I'm pleased it went so well and that your gaydar is functioning correctly

28th Jun 2008, 12:24 PM

I am completely... jealous of you.... And also happy that things worked out with you two

Daniel · 28th Jun 2008, 01:07 PM

Wooho!

*electric high-five*

On a side note I am jealous of your skills.

Hoppip · 28th Jun 2008, 01:11 PM

Quote:

Then she comes out to me. Casual-like. And then I come out to her. Casual-like. And then we discuss things like being gay, coming out, parents, how hard it is. And then we laugh about our gaydar and how we'd both spent the whole night thinking "Is she gay??". And we were discussing how hard it is to know sometimes...but we were totally rolling around in bed laughing about our evening and the hints we'd been dropping each other...

That is such a cute, heartwarming story. I'm so glad for you, and it's awesome that it went well.

JE T'ADORE!

I had to squeeze in some French, justforyou.

geiger42 · 28th Jun 2008, 05:16 PM

so what do you think is going to happen now?

Alexander · 28th Jun 2008, 05:27 PM

how cute!

28th Jun 2008, 05:27 PM

Haha thats awesome. You def have the skills.

SamAlex728 · 29th Jun 2008, 06:43 AM

At first, when I had only seen female replies, I was like "Oh, shit. Will I be the first guy?"
Well, I was too late. But I'm in the top ten! Okay, so #10. Let me have this moment, damnit!

Okay, tantrum over

jazzrawr · 1st Jul 2008, 10:46 AM

I KNEW IT!!! XD

That's so awesome!

It's great to have a gay friend to talk things over with

and it's hilarious how you guys dropped hints for so long. XD

Beebo · 1st Jul 2008, 11:27 AM

man, I am so happy. I love happy endings. I love talking about it afterwards too (like when you said you talked about dropping hints to eachother. Those are the cutest, funniest conversations ever.

)

Love ya.

1st Jul 2008, 11:57 AM

This is great!!! I love it. Gah my gaydar is so off, either I think all guys are straight or I go around thinking on how everyone is so gay. PFFT.

28th Jun 2008, 04:58 AM	#2
Vampyrecat "Meow" Said the Cat. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Everybody who Matters to me. Location: 1 hour east of Portland, Vic. Age: 20 Posts: 1,622 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) OMG. That's fantastic! Shit where do you live I wanna have that happen to me! __________________ Call me Tess. Hey lets all eat chocolate!!!!!!!!!! Nom nom nom. Is the EC Gf of Heatqueen. Telly forever

28th Jun 2008, 05:07 AM	#3
Maddy Free Hugs EC Admin Gender: - Orientation: Into girls Location: Melbourne, Australia Age: 21 Posts: 7,698 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) That's so awesome! __________________ how strange it is to be anything at all [Victor] 2:09 pm: and then halloween happened and I was outside in a skirt.

28th Jun 2008, 06:16 AM	#5
suiteng Member Regular Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: Some people Location: KL Posts: 13 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) Wow.. that's great

28th Jun 2008, 06:54 AM	#6
heatqueen Official #1 fan of Celine Dion Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Pansexual/Homoromantic bisexual Out Status: Generally whoever asks Location: I travel a lot Age: 20 Posts: 5,703 Join Date: Jan 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) Yayyyy!!!! Congratz, that's awesome!!!! __________________ Don't drink and drive. You might hit a bump and spill your drink. Co-founder of the 'Sailor Moon Made Me Gay' club...and the lesbians.

28th Jun 2008, 07:14 AM	#7
-Michael- Been gone a while. Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: DragonPhoenixLightningAwesome Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Middlesbrough, North-east England Age: 20 Posts: 2,195 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) haha Kudos for you. My gaybar is like asking a blind person how many fingers am i holding up ... haha

28th Jun 2008, 04:27 AM	#1
ccdd Procrastination Queen Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Bisexual Out Status: 30(ish) friends, but mostly closeted. Out to mum Location: UK Posts: 1,009 Join Date: Nov 2007	My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) You probably remember my thread a few days ago "My gaydar has been set off!": http://www.emptyclosets.com/forum/sh...ad.php?t=12049 And most of you agreed with me. Well: MY GAYDAR SO TOTALLY ROCKS!! SHE IS TOTALLY GAY!! AND I SPENT THE OTHER NIGHT WITH HER (although strictly as friends). So we'd just been watching a film in someone's house with lots of other people (you know, a lazy afternoon/evening with friends), then about half of us, including me and her, decided to go out for a drink afterwards - although the two of us spent the whole time just talking to each other, virtually ignoring everyone else. We were speaking for hours. Again, there's the whole "she's hot" thing, plus she mentions some TV show, and is like "yeah, and I only brought it because she's hot". There's NO mention of men anywhere, except in a general "why would you like him when you could like her?" kind of way. I bring up lesbianism in a jokey way, and she laughs and we joke. She brings it up again later on. We laugh and joke. I bring it up again even later on, and we laugh and joke. Again random comments from the both of us like "She's SO attractive", and "yeah, I'd so marry her" and similar things. No mention of men, except to be like "Nah, I prefer ---". Then it gets late and she asks me if I want to go over to her place. And I'm like, "yeah sure". We get there and the conversation continues. The conversation continues as above, including several mentions of lesbianism etc - basically it escalates. We talk about the evening in general, and I make a comment about how I thought this girl we had both just met that evening was quite cute. She says "yeah, I agree with you on that one". At one point in the evening we're talking and I'm like "yeah, usually I don't go for blondes but ---". We start talking about books we like, and amongst the ones she mentions, she mentions the book "The Well of Loneliness" - if you don't know this this is an iconic lesbian novel. I've never read it, but to let her know that I'd "got the hint" in that I knew the book, I said "Yeah, I've really been meaning to read that, but I haven't got round to it yet. I really want to read it". She says "Yeah, it's really good, you should definately read it. I'll lend it to you". At this point I'm thinking: she MUST be gay. Then she asks me if I want to sleep in her bed (she says "it's fine, it's just more comfortable for you than the floor"). So we talk, and we talk about relationships. She NEVER mentions men. Over a conversation of about two hours about relationships and people she has liked, she never ONCE says "he" or "I liked this guy". It was always "they" and "someone". I'm thinking: she MUST be gay, because NO ONE uses gender-neutral pronouns for more than an hour. Plus, cumulatively, by this point I am CERTAIN she is gay. Then she comes out to me. Casual-like. And then I come out to her. Casual-like. And then we discuss things like being gay, coming out, parents, how hard it is. And then we laugh about our gaydar and how we'd both spent the whole night thinking "Is she gay??". And we were discussing how hard it is to know sometimes...but we were totally rolling around in bed laughing about our evening and the hints we'd been dropping each other... I very much doubt we'll have a relationship, and I certainly don't like to hope, but I am very happy to have made a friend. We've decided to spend more time with each other, which will be great. BUT MY GAYDAR WORKS!! Last edited by ccdd; 28th Jun 2008 at 04:29 AM..

28th Jun 2008, 09:13 AM	#8
musicgirl112233 Soy Un Perdedor Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Some people Location: South Carolina Age: 17 Posts: 939 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) That is awesome! __________________ " Love looks not with the eyes, but with the mind, and therefore is winged Cupid painted blind." -A Midsummer Night's Dream Our differences provide opportunties for greater understanding.

28th Jun 2008, 10:05 AM	#9
Mirko Molitva Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out and about Location: British Columbia, Canada Age: 35 Posts: 10,052 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) That's awesome ccdd. So happy for you. __________________ ~ Let Go of Who You Think You're Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are ~

28th Jun 2008, 11:22 AM	#10
yahooooo Guest Posts: n/a	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) Hahah see I told you.. the L word is so hard to find in the Uk she must have gone to such lengths to find it she can't be straight Seriously.. where do you meet all these lovely open minded and gay people?? Anyway I'm pleased it went so well and that your gaydar is functioning correctly

28th Jun 2008, 12:24 PM	#11
GunStarre Guest Posts: n/a	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) I am completely... jealous of you.... And also happy that things worked out with you two

28th Jun 2008, 01:07 PM	#12
Daniel the great cheese danish Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Buffalo, NY Age: 21 Posts: 2,874 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) Wooho! electric high-five On a side note I am jealous of your skills. __________________ "Nobody can teach me who I am, who can describe parts of me, but who I am and what I need, these are things I have to find out myself." - Chunua Achebe

28th Jun 2008, 05:16 PM	#14
geiger42 Member Regular Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm just kinda into everything Out Status: Out to everyone Location: You know, up north and in the middle Posts: 21 Join Date: Jun 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) so what do you think is going to happen now? __________________ It's just the way things are.

28th Jun 2008, 05:27 PM	#15
Alexander EC Addict Full Member Gender: Male Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Red Hook NY Age: 19 Posts: 2,736 Join Date: Dec 2007	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) how cute!

28th Jun 2008, 05:27 PM	#16
Midnight Angel Guest Posts: n/a	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) Haha thats awesome. You def have the skills.

29th Jun 2008, 06:43 AM	#17
SamAlex728 EC Addict Full Member Gender: I'm a real boy! Orientation: Expert Cockgazer Out Status: Open Flame Location: Hippieville, Oregon Age: 16 Posts: 2,842 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) At first, when I had only seen female replies, I was like "Oh, shit. Will I be the first guy?" Well, I was too late. But I'm in the top ten! Okay, so #10. Let me have this moment, damnit! Okay, tantrum over __________________ "Boys are dumb. Men are pigs. Females are fucking crazy. Makes life difficult." -- Me

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Beebo the cat what has facial hair. Full Member Gender: MAN Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 23 Posts: 893 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) man, I am so happy. I love happy endings. I love talking about it afterwards too (like when you said you talked about dropping hints to eachother. Those are the cutest, funniest conversations ever. ) Love ya. __________________ New Song up. a rough version of "The Ghost of Adam".(I will be adding more.) Last edited by Beebo; 1st Jul 2008 at 11:29 AM..

1st Jul 2008, 11:57 AM	#20
Quitex Guest Posts: n/a	Re: My gaydar is AWESOME! (update!) This is great!!! I love it. Gah my gaydar is so off, either I think all guys are straight or I go around thinking on how everyone is so gay. PFFT.