What's the one thing you can't forgive in people?

Gratuitous maliciousness. This is such a powerful negative character flaw that I usually choose not to forgive it.

 

When some one constantly lies to me and never tell me the truth and i can't forgive controlling people and manipulative people .

 

Cheating. I don't understand how people cheat on their bf/gf. At least have the decency to tell him/her that he isn't enough for you anymore.


And in myself...I have also got a christ morale. I don't express what I should or sacrifice lots of studf for other people,who many times wouldn't do the same for me.And I hate it.

 

I can't believe I forgot about cheating that's a big no no for me

 

For me, it's disloyalty. Betrayal.

 

2nd this one

 

Lying is absolute #1. I can (eventually) forgive/understand/etc just about anything you throw my way, cheating, drugs, even if you've been hiding something from me, I can forgive "omissions" ... But looking directly at me and deliberately lying after I've specifically questioned you, that I cannot forgive. (Does it sound like I've had personal experience here? Yeah.)

edit: Oh, and drunk-dialing. I just can't *stand* the entire concept, can't make myself look past this flaw if someone I know does it. Especially emotionally drunk-dialing a recent ex who still loves you. (Again, personal experience here). Getting drunk-dialed HURTS LIKE FREAK when you know they wouldn't be saying any of that crap if they were sober. So yeah, if I know that someone tends to drunk-dial, I'll probably keep my distance.

 

Murder probably? Generally I'm a forgiving person I think lar

 

I can't forgive those who take away people's dignity for the sake of it.

 

This might make me sound like a "Holier than thou" type of person, but I try my best to forgive and sometimes forget. I personally think holding animosity towards people is very toxic to the holder.

 

Yeah, but I'm afraid this is often impossible if you don't have the means to, or if you believe that person doesn't deserve forgiveness.

This has also reminded me of a quote where only the strong can forgive, i.e. those who are not victims.

 

I can forgive anything if the person has changed. If they haven't, though, I suppose the answer would have to be wilfully causing harm (and not for the purposes of defence of self or others).

 

I can forgive almost anybody. The only thing I probably won't forgive for is hurting my family and friends. If you do that, you go on my shit-list.

 

Genocide is pretty hard to forgive to!

 

Animal abusers, child abusers, and rapists. If it could be 100% proven they're guilty, they should be slowly lowered into acid feet first. I don't know which one of these three crimes I hate more!

A lot more stuff enrages me but there are various factors in every situation for me to consider. I can forgive almost anything eventually (if the person is willing to change) except the three crimes I mentioned above.

 

What I cannot forgive in someone?
Well frankly It'd have to be continued ignorance or the continued doing of things that would hurt other people,
Once you've been told,
Once you've been asked not to do something,
Once you've shown someone the pain of what they do causes,
And they don't listen,
It's time to leave

 

Oh, I forgot one. Constant perky optimism. The very worst of all.

 

Forgiveness comes natural for me. I was sexually abused when I was little an d it didn't take me long to forgive at all. I Don't hold grudges. Either I like you or I don't.