Wow there are alot of gay men on this website

Nice to meet you too!

I'm also a bisexual girl with a strong preference for women. I guess it doesn't really matter in the end if there's more gay men or gay women, from what I've noticed so far, people are very friendly and welcoming, and that is what pretty much matters the most.

 

Yeah i've noticed this to but i don't know why really

 

The gay men dominate the forum, which makes it less comfortable for others, which self-perpetuates to the point where we have mostly gay men here (at least with who posts regularly)

But yeah, hi Chloe. Welcome to EC.

 

Yes, it is. I also think Chloe is a beautiful name, but, please don't mind, it always makes me think of kitty because the first time I heard it was when I was little watching a cartoon that had cat named Chloe and I can't help involuntarily associating them every time I hear it since then.

 

sometimes when i read threads I see a lot of women on the left side if they show orientation....

you just gotta either make a thread to roll call females or look for them when they reply to threads

 

Not to mention reports showing in general most internet users to be male, most out as non-hetero people to be male, empirical stuff like that.

Anyhow, welcome to you, and I'll try and not make you too uncomfortable (*hug*)

 

I noticed not much of them are here late at night lesbian women that is

 

Martin goes over that (and more) on this post.

 

Couldn't be true on that fact but I do say they offer some really great advice, of course the girls do too. Anyway welcome to EC, you've come to a great place for advice or to just chat, so with that being said I hope you love it as much as I do.

 

What?
How does that even work?

 

It's the internet. Generally speaking, most people who post on internet forums have penises.

Anyway I disagree entirely with the above claim that gay men "dominate the forum, which makes it less comfortable for others". This forum is open to anyone of any sex or gender identity or sexual orientation. Any member of the LGBTQ community is free to join, in fact even straight people may join. A lot of gay men have chosen to join the forum. If you want more women on the forum, well, it's up to women to choose to join the forum.

And again, most internet users tend to be male, probably because a higher percentage of males tend to be the anti-social awkward types who prefer to spend their time on internet forums rather than interacting with live people. Males happen to be 15 times more likely than females to have Asperger's or high-functioning autism, a group which is very overrepresented on the internet since Aspies struggle with live social interaction. As a child I was diagnosed as 'borderline' Aspie and with social anxiety internet forums have made up the majority of my life's social interaction since I was 12 years old.

The implication of your post is that too many gay men have joined this forum. I don't think some closeted gay male teen living in rural Mississippi who stumbles upon this forum should read your post and be made to feel unwelcome and decide not to join out of fear of 'dominating' the forum and making it uncomfortable for others.

Personally I don't really think the imbalance between men and women is quite as severe as the OP makes it out to be, there are plenty of women on this forum. Are there any statistics or figures that would support the claim that there is some severe imbalance of men to women?

And in any event, if you're a lesbian woman (or just a woman in general really), gay men are the 'safe' men to be around, every girl these days wants a "gay best friend". If you think there aren't enough women here, well, you've made one small step toward balancing the sexes by joining the forum, now just get all your girlfriends to join.

 

I think a lot of women feel alone here, and I'm sorry for that. It's a very male-concentrated site.

But there's still strong community for women here.

 

You know my pain I feel so lonely here and in real life :tears:

 

No, I don't know your pain, but I care.

Are you a feminine lesbian, by any chance? I hear that's another way to feel really alone.

I remember one of my queer women friends complaining bitterly that she's read as straight because she's feminine and doesn't conform to the butch stereotype. I've also read some articles indicating that feminine lesbians often feel alienated from or on the outside of the lesbian scene.

So I wonder if many of you ladies feel completely alienated or unwanted.

And that's not cool either.