I was wondering if anyone else has run into this. I just gave some advice on a thread, and I thought, "Man, I need to start taking my own advice!" The advice I gave was to just enjoy life and not to be afraid to make mistakes because they will be learned from. I just wish I was better at doing the things I tell others to do that I know are good ideas. Anyone else?
Yeah, I do that all the time. I try to give advice that I myself would take though, which is why people tend to think I give bad advice. I just find that I need to give people workable goals in order to change. But yeah, giving hypocritical advice is pretty much inevitable. It always comes from a good place though.
Yes, but I think sometimes I am too emotionally involved to give myself any sound advice. If I can just step away from the situation for a minute and breathe, it is much easier to take my own advice. It's funny you say that because I was just thinking that recently, "I should take my own advice." Also, I think a lot of times, we (or at least I) search for advice when we already know the answer or know what we would like to hear. We can either be our own biggest cheerleader or our worst enemy. The choice is up to us, but it's not always easy.
Yep. I'm pretty sure I've called myself a hypocrite in at least a few of my posts, always when giving advice on coming out. I believe everything I've said; it's just easier said than done to follow through.
Yeah, I've given good advice (I hope) a lot, but I have trouble getting the initiative to follow through and do the hard parts, because effort.
Yeah sometimes i don't take my own advice I wish I did though , I try to sometimes . I guess we're better at helping people but not ourselves
Yea, I told someone today that you're mind can only focus on one thing at a time, and if you spend all your time bitching about something, you'll never find any good in it. Meanwhile, I've been bitching up a storm lately. Yea, I'm hypocrite!
I constantly go back and re-read my replies to threads, and numerous times I've been like, "Damn, why don't I listen to myself sometimes." Would be cool if you could advise yourself sometimes. But, that's what EC is for.
You sound exactly like my life coaching teachers at SWIHA. They were always saying that we and our clients already have the answers. It's just a matter of asking the right powerful questions. It's wonderful how perceptive we are without even realizing it.
My problem is because I give advice that's not applicable to me. I would tell people to take a leap and 'ask him out, or ask her out'. But as a gay person it's a lot more difficult especially when you know that the damn person you love is straight and they've explicitly told you so. And often when it comes to relationship issues, it's not so much giving the advice but being a good friend, making laughs when the times are bad. Reaching out to people when you sense something is wrong. I move towards that tangent the pedestal that people stand on. So yes and no when it comes to this issue.
Totally. I'm really good at helping other people solve their problems but horrible at solving my own.
