Online dating sites is such a bad idea... How many times have I burned my fingers through desperately trying to find Mr Right on one of those. :rolle: In the area where I live there are very but very few gay guys. The closest city is like 1 hour drive and Joburg is 4 hours drive. So when I start chatting with a guy on a dating site he is like in either Joburg (4 hours away) or Capetown (12 hours away). It never works. Before this last virtual "hookup" I said to myself I will never do it again and also said that its time that Mr Right should doing the searching bit for me because I have done my part. Yet I did it again and well... :bang: :bang: :bang: So many nights, when I lie alone in my bed I wish that Mr Right will bump into me and smile at me, take my hand in his and kiss my socks off so that I will know... but it is just a dream. Or does it happen sometimes? Never ever do I want to 'advertise' myself on a dating site again like a bloody used car. :icon_sad: I am aiming to move to Capetown for the sake of my career. It is a rather "gay-rich" area and hope to have a bit more luck down there. Rant over...
Hope it'll work out for when u get setteled in town Also, try to think about your Mr. Right - what would he do to find HIS mr. right (AKA you) ? Is he going to dating sites? Does he go to bars instead? Maybe he is too shy and do neither, and u'll find him lurking in a gaming forum? Get into his mind! 8)
I also once tried the online dating thing, and ended up deleting my profile. Too many creeps out there, who only want to drag you to bed... So I feel your pain. It happens (almost) everywhere, with (almost) everyone. Maybe we just haven't found the right dating sites yet? All I know is, I'm never signing up on one again. Once bitten... I hope you find a nice guy down in Cape Town. You deserve to be happy, and as cliché as it may be, there is someone out there for each of us
I share your frustrations. The only sort of people who would ever write me on those things were either closet cases who wanted a down low relationship, someone to have casual sex with - which I am NOT interested in the slightest in doing, or people who had the social skills of a rotting jar of mayo. Try going to a local university or community college and see if there are some LGBT alliance groups there you can join. Those are a great way to meet and connect with people. In any event, best of luck to you. I hope you find your Prince Charming soon
Thanks - rotting jar of mayo is sometimes an understatment... Unfortunately we dont have things like "local university or community college" or LGBT groups - in my area at least. Thanks. ---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2014 at 03:00 PM ---------- Indeed. And I aint gonna walk in town with a sign hanging from my neck "I'm gay and I am looking for a BF". :eusa_naug ---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2014 at 03:02 PM ---------- Thank you - fellow Saffa and for you too the same kind wishes ---------- Post added 3rd Feb 2014 at 03:04 PM ---------- I think about that all the time and from my idea where he might be us meeting would be by shear chance and serendipity I tell you. Because I dont do the club thing, I rarely go to pubs, I am not a gamer... sigh...
