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who has the best sex? nd why do ppl have sex aot when it wears out?

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  1. Rosepetal

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    I was talking to my bf about this nd i get jealous tht lesbians nd gay men have the best sex but my bf disagrees bc, he think sex is better when ur with 1 person not with multiple of partners. I was also thinking when i was watching Stuck in love movie on netflix why do ppl have sex alot when the good feeling wears off each time? , and when u lose ur vcard regardless what kind of sex u have do u feel guilt,excitement, disappointment?. But what do u think? is it better to have sex with multiple of ppl? or with 1 person bc tht person knows you nd what u like nd gives u everything nd u give the effort back? .
     
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    .......what?????

    I don't know where your boyfriend gets the idea that the LGBT community can't be monogamous, but that is a grossly misinformed opinion. Straight couples can b just as promiscuious, if not more so, than gay couples.

    ANYWAY - me personally, I don't go out sleeping with loads of people. Sex is a powerful thing to me and I only engage in it with people I honestly care and love with all my heart. Hope that's the sort of answer you were looking for...its a bit hard to tell in all honesty.
     
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    he didnt say tht, he knows everyone is promiscuous he just doesnt like tht ppl are promiscious.
     
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    This is sort of like asking what the best tasting type of steak is: rare, medium rare, medium, or well done. It's a matter of subjective personal taste and you can't really experience what someone else does so can't objectively measure what is 'best'. Your boyfriends argument is meaningless if he's basing it on what is 'best' in terms of subjective enjoyment of the act.

    People have sex repeatedly because the good feeling comes back each time you do it.

    Different people react differently to losing their virginity. I was indifferent about losing it other people think its a big deal, others are in between.

    Todd
     
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    I think it just depends who you are and where you are in life. Frankly, I went through a period in my life where I was really quite promiscuous. Now I've been faithful to the same person for 16 years. Being with the same person for an extended period is wonderful, both emotionally and sexually. But you know what? So was being with new and different people all the time and sharing that kind of connection with a wide variety of people. Different people want different things--and you might even find that as your life goes on you want different things...
     
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    I think he's been watching too much porn because there are monogamous lgbt people in the community
     
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    Who has the best sex? Shit, I'd even take bad sex at this point :bang:
     
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    I'm actually really, really confused by this. I'm not even sure what you are asking, or how you go the idea that the good feeling "wears off"?? Honestly, your whole post sounds like a lot of assumptions and misinformation that really isn't true at all, or might only be true for *some* people.

    My last relationship lasted three years. For *three* years, the "good feeling" of having sex never "wore off". Never. Just like everyone in this world, there were plenty of times when sex just wasn't appealing at the moment... Like during our periods, if one of us was sick, etc. But sex doesn't just stop feeling good if you do it a lot, at least not normally. If anything, I'd say that sex after being with for two years was a whole lot *better*, because we knew each other's bodies so well and felt so comfortable with each other.

    (Unless, of course, you mean that the good feeling "wears off" as in the sexual high going away after sex. But that doesn't make sense either, because if the question is why keep doing something that makes you happy only temporarily, well that could be said of pretty much everything we do. Watch a good movie, read a good book, kiss, ride a horse, absolutely anything, that "good feeling" is always going to fade after the activity is done. Doesn't mean the activity isn't fun!)
     
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    "best" is a matter of opinion. Personally i haven't had sex with a lot of people and its only been guys, but the "best" i had as with my boyfriend. It depends on what u like
     
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    The feeling of good sex doesnt wear off. I'm been with my partner for nearly 4 years and...still good for me and I know its still good for her. Still wonderful and I still get tingles when i kiss her.

    Also were monogamous...so that doesn't matter. It just depends on the individual person of whats good and what they like.
    As a lesbian...lesbian sex is good to me. If I were straight, I'm sure straight sex would be good for me...but its not.