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Chamber of Life · 5th Jul 2008, 05:43 PM

Well I’m not out to everyone, just close friends, but what I’m about to tell you it happens a lot to me.

Isn’t awkward when you go some where with your friends and one of your friends invites a newbie. Say you guys are all talking around a table at a restaurant and a gay topic comes up. (That’s always happened, why?

) All your friends know that you’re gay/lesbian/bisexual, besides that one newbie/ tag-along and suddenly on the gay topic they start bashing gays and saying a bunch of negative shit. All your friends just sit their not saying anything and their eyes go straight to you. Which they try not to make obvious to the newbie/tag-along. Then they leave you to change the subject. GRRRRRRRR that happens to me a lot and quite f-ing frankly I’m getting sick of it!

What about you guys?

Beebo · 5th Jul 2008, 05:54 PM

What bugs me is when people ask me if I have a girlfriend, I mean I know these are different situations, but I feel so awkward when someone asks me that... because I am out to absolutely everyone... I mean... and I know it isn't their fault... but it is just something that really bugs me.

I know what you mean though Doctor, because I myself grew up in a hugely pro-gay-bashing town. I had to sit and listen to all of my friends make fun of gay people, and rant about how LGTB people are freaks, and hellbound monsters.

I mean... I guess it's different with you, but in the end, don't let that crap cast shame on you, think of how bad of a reputation he has just gained with your friends :P.

hahah, I bet it's super awkward tho. LMAO.

Love you Chamber.

Chamber of Life · 5th Jul 2008, 06:03 PM

Yeah, your situation is awkard and annoying like you said. That would drive me nuts. I like hearing all awkard gay tales. And thats true about how my friends view that short, annoying, monster, devil's spawn, evil little man. I dont like him very much.

5th Jul 2008, 06:57 PM

i never hear gay bashing i would totaly want to just to hear it... is that wierd
??

LOVEjames · 5th Jul 2008, 07:25 PM

I'm comfortable enough that I just sit there and smile when they go to all of their gay bashing, and I'll just talk with them about everything that they say, and show them my views. If they eventually ask if I'm gay (or rather, 'a faggot'), I'll say that I am, and that whoever I'm with is okay with it, and you're hanging out with a bunch of fags and fag hags.

<3 I don't mind coming out to random people, at all.

Vampyrecat · 5th Jul 2008, 08:00 PM

Usually I tell them to shut up and stop insulting me. I'm pretty defensive.

and then I ask them if they're hiding their sexuality by masking all their insecurities.

Tim · 5th Jul 2008, 08:15 PM

I've had it happen only once, but my friends actually said something, so I guess my friends are good

I know what you mean though

gentlegiant4 · 5th Jul 2008, 11:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Myzou

I've had it happen only once, but my friends actually said something, so I guess my friends are good

I know what you mean though

Ahaha. This happened to me once, I was with 3 people, a friend, my best friend, and a co-worker he brought along. All of us were getting along great, when lo and behold a gay topic is mentioned and the co-worker starts going off on gays. After 30 seconds of awkwardness and sheepish grins from my friends to me my best friend goes "My best friend is gay, you know".

Co-worker: "Wha-? But your best friend is Ni-" (points to me)

(I smile faintly)

CW: "...Well, I'm a douche."

SkyTears · 6th Jul 2008, 01:34 AM

Yeah. One of my friends was really good at changing topics on a dime, no joke, he was pretty cool when it come to people like this. a 2nd preson just goes "i'm sorry" when the person leaves. another one of my friends just goes, "change the topic please." in a blunt manner but she knows I don't care who she tell so she doesn't really need to keep it on the hush hush.

TriBi · 6th Jul 2008, 06:06 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by LOVEjames

I'm comfortable enough that I just sit there and smile when they go to all of their gay bashing, and I'll just talk with them about everything that they say, and show them my views. If they eventually ask if I'm gay (or rather, 'a faggot'), I'll say that I am, and that whoever I'm with is okay with it, and you're hanging out with a bunch of fags and fag hags.

^ hehe - I liked this way of dealing with it!

abercrombieboi · 6th Jul 2008, 09:26 AM

i tend to snap back and tell them if it bothers them so much to go find other friends... lols then if they keep bothering me i tell them i'll kiss them if they dont go away (: usually works (:

Tim · 6th Jul 2008, 10:35 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by gentlegiant4

Quote:

Originally Posted by Myzou

I've had it happen only once, but my friends actually said something, so I guess my friends are good

I know what you mean though

Ahaha. This happened to me once, I was with 3 people, a friend, my best friend, and a co-worker he brought along. All of us were getting along great, when lo and behold a gay topic is mentioned and the co-worker starts going off on gays. After 30 seconds of awkwardness and sheepish grins from my friends to me my best friend goes "My best friend is gay, you know".

Co-worker: "Wha-? But your best friend is Ni-" (points to me)

(I smile faintly)

CW: "...Well, I'm a douche."

Haha, that reaction was awesome XD

5th Jul 2008, 05:43 PM	#1
Chamber of Life In my Naughty Tree!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends. Location: Ohio, USA Age: 21 Posts: 288 Join Date: Feb 2008	Isn’t it awkward when……… Well I’m not out to everyone, just close friends, but what I’m about to tell you it happens a lot to me. Isn’t awkward when you go some where with your friends and one of your friends invites a newbie. Say you guys are all talking around a table at a restaurant and a gay topic comes up. (That’s always happened, why?) All your friends know that you’re gay/lesbian/bisexual, besides that one newbie/ tag-along and suddenly on the gay topic they start bashing gays and saying a bunch of negative shit. All your friends just sit their not saying anything and their eyes go straight to you. Which they try not to make obvious to the newbie/tag-along. Then they leave you to change the subject. GRRRRRRRR that happens to me a lot and quite f-ing frankly I’m getting sick of it! What about you guys? __________________

5th Jul 2008, 05:54 PM	#2
Beebo the cat what has facial hair. Full Member Gender: MAN Orientation: Gay Out Status: Out to everyone Location: Toronto Age: 23 Posts: 893 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… What bugs me is when people ask me if I have a girlfriend, I mean I know these are different situations, but I feel so awkward when someone asks me that... because I am out to absolutely everyone... I mean... and I know it isn't their fault... but it is just something that really bugs me. I know what you mean though Doctor, because I myself grew up in a hugely pro-gay-bashing town. I had to sit and listen to all of my friends make fun of gay people, and rant about how LGTB people are freaks, and hellbound monsters. I mean... I guess it's different with you, but in the end, don't let that crap cast shame on you, think of how bad of a reputation he has just gained with your friends :P. hahah, I bet it's super awkward tho. LMAO. Love you Chamber. __________________ New Song up. a rough version of "The Ghost of Adam".(I will be adding more.)

5th Jul 2008, 06:03 PM	#3
Chamber of Life In my Naughty Tree!!! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: Gay Out Status: Most of my friends. Location: Ohio, USA Age: 21 Posts: 288 Join Date: Feb 2008	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… Yeah, your situation is awkard and annoying like you said. That would drive me nuts. I like hearing all awkard gay tales. And thats true about how my friends view that short, annoying, monster, devil's spawn, evil little man. I dont like him very much. __________________

5th Jul 2008, 06:57 PM	#4
Master Hade Guest Posts: n/a	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… i never hear gay bashing i would totaly want to just to hear it... is that wierd ??

5th Jul 2008, 07:25 PM	#5
LOVEjames \o/ Love! Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: 4.9 Out Status: Pretty out Location: Seattle, WA Age: 21 Posts: 1,075 Join Date: Apr 2008	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… I'm comfortable enough that I just sit there and smile when they go to all of their gay bashing, and I'll just talk with them about everything that they say, and show them my views. If they eventually ask if I'm gay (or rather, 'a faggot'), I'll say that I am, and that whoever I'm with is okay with it, and you're hanging out with a bunch of fags and fag hags. <3 I don't mind coming out to random people, at all. __________________ La la la la la.

5th Jul 2008, 08:00 PM	#6
Vampyrecat "Meow" Said the Cat. Full Member Gender: Female Orientation: Lesbian Out Status: Everybody who Matters to me. Location: 1 hour east of Portland, Vic. Age: 20 Posts: 1,622 Join Date: Jul 2007	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… Usually I tell them to shut up and stop insulting me. I'm pretty defensive. and then I ask them if they're hiding their sexuality by masking all their insecurities. __________________ Call me Tess. Hey lets all eat chocolate!!!!!!!!!! Nom nom nom. Is the EC Gf of Heatqueen. Telly forever

5th Jul 2008, 08:15 PM	#7
Tim Psycho Glitter Btch Full Member Gender:* Guy, Unless Life Was a Horrible April Fools Joke. Orientation: Gay/Asexual/Confusing to Explain Out Status: Armed and Fabulous! XD Location: California Age: 23 Posts: 7,379 Join Date: Mar 2008	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… I've had it happen only once, but my friends actually said something, so I guess my friends are good I know what you mean though __________________ Rawr! :3 ~The Stalker User Known As Tim~ Rawr! :3 EC's Sailor Star Healer, Oxymoron and All. Star Sensitive Inferno! Sailor Starlight, Stage On! [Vic] 7:49 pm: I keep my pants off in public.

6th Jul 2008, 01:34 AM	#9
SkyTears Head Thinking; Heart Bleeding Full Member Gender: Kyle XY Orientation: Gay Out Status: Pretty much everyone Location: Renton, WA Age: 22 Posts: 510 Join Date: Dec 2006	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… Yeah. One of my friends was really good at changing topics on a dime, no joke, he was pretty cool when it come to people like this. a 2nd preson just goes "i'm sorry" when the person leaves. another one of my friends just goes, "change the topic please." in a blunt manner but she knows I don't care who she tell so she doesn't really need to keep it on the hush hush. __________________ "Time carries us away from all the places we have come to love; just wishing we could stay. But maybe that's not the point. What makes this all so god damn beautiful is knowing that its bound to fade in time." The Rain-FOREVERINMOTION

6th Jul 2008, 09:26 AM	#11
abercrombieboi Well Known Full Member Gender: Male Orientation: I'm on fire people Out Status: Being as flaming as I am, the ? is who doesn't... Location: Miam-shizzle Age: 20 Posts: 135 Join Date: Aug 2007	Re: Isn’t it awkward when……… i tend to snap back and tell them if it bothers them so much to go find other friends... lols then if they keep bothering me i tell them i'll kiss them if they dont go away (: usually works (:

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