I don't really get upset by jokes referring to my orientation / gender is it just me or do people find it offensive? If someone makes an offensive remark then its a different story but little jokes are nothing
Jokes don't bother me. You can flip onto comedy central and hear a broad range of offensive jokes, but I'm willing to bet none of those comedians really think that way about people. Sometimes jokes are just jokes. It always irks me when people get really uppity over harmless jokes. I understand if some homophobic or racist person is demeaning someone or telling a joke to belittle someone else. If you wanna be mad at those people go for it, but if someone is just telling a light heart-ed joke is it really a big deal? 0.o
I think a lot of time you can tell when someone is finally really comfortable with it when they are able to joke about it...
If it's trying to be offensive and there is real hate behind the words then I don't tolerate it. But otherwise nothing offends me unless someone is trying to be hurtful.
Like said, it depends on context. If it's used for insulting/offensive purposes that's one thing, just to fool around is another. Plenty even take good-natured joking as a sign of acceptance and comfort. As a similar example, some of my relatives are on the bigger side and they find plenty of fat jokes hilarious and even crack jokes about themselves in regards to it.
Yeah, pretty much this. ^ If I experience a reaction of offense, it is typically far more on behalf of others (like when I see women patronize gay men) than for myself.
Eh, there's a few I can go for. But depends on writing. Some are brilliant, but tend to be better when they're written in the community. Like, here's an FtM joke I actually really like. A little NSFW, for some audiences. A man and a woman, married for years, have a habit of always making love with the lights off. Kids are out of the house, they're empty nesters. Something's always seemed off to the woman but she's never put her finger on it. But one morning, after some good sex, she gets up and trips on a dildo. It hits her. For you see, her husband is a transman. He's never had bottom surgery. She goes downstairs, dildo in hand. Her husband's at the kitchen table, calmly reading the paper. "WHAT THE HELL IS THIS??" He glances up and swallows, but he's still calm as fuck. "EXPLAIN WHAT THE FUCK THIS IS, HAROLD? Explain the dildo." Putting down the paper, he motions to a row of family portraits on the wall. "Explain the kids, bitch."
It all kind of depends how close I am to the person. I don't like when people say things like that's so gay or anything using gay other offensive lgbt words in a negative way.