Are We Considered "Gay"?

[allalone1141]

Okay, I'm a bisexual girl, just to straighten that out. I was just thinking the other day, with some indignance, that bisexual people are kind of in an awkward position. We aren't really straight or homosexual. We swing both ways, to put it somewhat crudely.

But here's my question: Are we, bisexuals, gay? Webster's dictionary defines "gay" as: Homosexual. Damn it. So we're not straight or gay? That automatically boots us off of straight stuff as well as gay pride stuff!

Would you consider us "gay"? I'm getting increasingly irritated as I battle it out in my head.

[Hoppip]

You're part of the LGBT community. You're not specifically gay, but you are grouped in with us.

[allalone1141]

Originally Posted by seanathon

You're part of the LGBT community. You're not specifically gay, but you are grouped in with us.

It's just sort of a letdown, I mean we don't have Bi parades or rallies. There's no rainbow "Bi Pride". What about us????

[Owen]

Originally Posted by allalone1141

It's just sort of a letdown, I mean we don't have Bi parades or rallies. There's no rainbow "Bi Pride". What about us????

Unfortunately, that seems to be the fate of all "half-breeds" throughout history. During racial segregation, mulattos (that may be an offensive term now, so if it is, I appologize) were rejected by both the black and white community, and bisexuals, unfortunately, suffer the same fate today.

Also, you may not have a bi pride rainbow, but there are bi pride symbols

[Psychedelic Bookmarks]

I say yes. In my mind I think of gay as being "attracted to people of the same gender" so that includes bisexuals. You're totally included in gay/LGBT pride and whatever, as far as I'm concerned.

[allalone1141]

Originally Posted by Psychedelic Bookmarks

I say yes. In my mind I think of gay as being "attracted to people of the same gender" so that includes bisexuals. You're totally included in gay/LGBT pride and whatever, as far as I'm concerned.

Hey, well that makes me feel somewhat better. I just wish we didn't have to be this freakish half-breed. We're more abnormal that gay and lesbian people, which (no offense) feels a bit strange.

i guess to an extent... to people who see in black and white - cus youre not straight.

Bi people are straight sometimes and gay sometimes. Well, more to choose from. However, I voted as 'no' since gay people aren't straight, not even sometimes.

[Alexander]

Bi = 100% gay and 100% straight. You're both.

[Lava421]

Originally Posted by allalone1141

Webster's dictionary defines "gay" as: Homosexual.

Okay, but you didn't look up "homosexual." :P

Originally Posted by Merriam-Webster

1. : of, relating to, or characterized by a tendency to direct sexual desire toward another of the same sex
2. : of, relating to, or involving sexual intercourse between persons of the same sex

So Merriam-Webster states that bisexuals fit the definition of being gay, at least part of the time.

[allalone1141]

Originally Posted by Lava421

Okay, but you didn't look up "homosexual." :P

So Merriam-Webster states that bisexuals fit the definition of being gay, at least part of the time.

Huh. Interesting. That's pretty cool.

I don't consider us ("us" meaning bisexuals) to be gay. I usually have to go an extra mile to make sure people understand that it's a separate orientation. I wouldn't say we're gay. Or straight for that matter. We're something separate from both.

[allalone1141]

Originally Posted by Midnight Angel

I wouldn't say we're gay. Or straight for that matter. We're something separate from both.

That's a cool way to think of it. However, as I said before, (perhaps this is silly and insecure) that excludes us from most ways of showing our pride.

Originally Posted by allalone1141

That's a cool way to think of it. However, as I said before, (perhaps this is silly and insecure) that excludes us from most ways of showing our pride.

Some of the time gay pride will be inclusive of bisexuals though. They see us as kind of being part of the same crowd since we have same sex attractions. Of course there are some who don't think that way but there are some who include us when we want to show our pride.

[interstella]

It's called LGBT for a reason.

[grapevine fires]

The whole "this or that" thing bothers me. For example, I'm not 100% into girls, more like 85-95%. It should be calculated in degrees of homosexuality or heterosexuality, since very few people who consider themselves part of the LGBT community are 100% gay.

It's not so much (for me, anyway) Gay pride as LGBT Pride, so in that sense, you most certainly are included. Gay is just a specific description of a sexual orientation, as is Bisexual and straight and everything in between.

[LOVEjames]

Personally, when I use the word "Gay" to encompass a group of people, I include Bisexual people in it, just because they're attracted to people of the same sex. It might not be exclusive attraction to the same sex, but they're still attracted to the same sex.

[asherly]

I have been going over the same thing in my head and the thing that pops into my mind is an episode of The L Word. It is right after Alice was with Lisa, I think her and Dana might have just gotten together, and some one says to Alice, "I'm glad you're gay again." I mean she has stated she is Bi before so why would they go there? I mean does that mean your status changes when your partner changes?

[musicgirl112233]

I consider anyone who is attracted to the same sex "gay".

[josephaustin92]

I consider Bi-sexual s part of the gay community.