does having sex with ur bf or gf make u immoral?

No it doesnt make you immoral.
I was raised conservatively. Very religious and sex before marriage was wrong. Homosexuality was wrong no matter what.
After I had sex with my gf, I literally cried for several days because i enjoyed it. I felt bad about liking it. My church said it was wrong for so many reasons. And I felt guilty for enjoying.
But then I realized I was following guidelines that someone else gave me, instead of my own head and heart.
If something falls into line with your own conscience and doesnt hurt others, then its not immoral. We have to follow our own value system. If you want to, you want to. If you don't you dont

 

It's not immoral in any way. Just don't feel pressured to do it before you feel ready. However, once you feel ready, don't feel guilty for having sex. It's natural, and people did it before marriage even existed. I would however recommend using protection and birth control, especially if you're young.

 

Morality is a subjective concept. This is proven when an animal rights activist has an abortion. Or when a strict Catholic parent accepts their gay son.

 

it may be different for other people but for me personalty having sex with a partner is a natural way of showing love between each other . nothing wrong with thinking about sex it's natural thinking in my book if you are worried about STDs the check out ECs resource pages on STDs & safe sex .

 

thanks but am a bit older now .

 

Immoral, no. (Though you do need to be careful to protect yourself from STD's and pregnancy.) If it's enjoyable, and you both are ready for it, it's OK.

IMO, Religions use the word "morality" to exert control and regulate the lives of others. But if you're not causing harm to others, how can any action be immoral?

 

Do you think your morals would disappear?

 

Sex is a natural human need. In my opinion it depends on how much you want to have sex with the said person. If you don't, you're going to try and find an excuse not to or why it's wrong. And if you want to, it will be a positive experience that you won't regret.

There is a double standard when it comes to women and men having sex. Women are taught that sex is something shameful, men on other hand, are encouraged to have as much sex as possible. In any situation you're the one who decides when and with who. Morality is subjective. To some gay sex is immoral. Would it be fair to say that anyone who has gay sex is immoral? I don't think so.

 

dont think it makes them whores if they are both happy I dont see a problem .

 

Does consensual sex hurt anyone else? No.

So is sex immoral (even if you do it a lot)? No.

Simple!

 

It depends on the person. to me having sex a lot with diff people is immoral, but that's by my own standards.
To the person doing it...nope not immoral.
I think we have to live by our own code and not impose our moral standards on others.

 

Sorry, I don't understand this part.

Giving someone STD's because you (are unfaithful/have unsafe sex/don't get tested/do it on purpose) is immoral. That does not mean sex is immoral.