I need Advice about my Dad, Quick!

Is anyone else home?

 

Idk what you should do, sorry. I take from your out status that your not out to him so I guess, just keep it in and try not to upset him? Sorry that I don't have any good advice.:icon_sad:

 

"root out the "Cancer" from the family"

"He wants to talk to me now"

What is he referring to with those quotes? Does he know about you?

 

Awww man, I'm so sorry. I don't even know what to say right now. Hang in there bud.

 

What a... Oh, honey, I'm so sorry.

Take a breath... don't do anything right now. Your mom and sister already know, so that's some support.

 

Wow... I don't know what to say. I see you're 14, so it will be a while before you can get out on your own. Unfortunately there are going to be difficult times ahead. You are eventually going to have to make a choice as for what you are going to do. Do you risk coming out and being yourself at the cost of those you love? Or do you stay quiet and hope the don't find out? I can't make your choice for you. Only you can do that yourself. I will say this though, denying who you are is rough and can lead to extremely destructive behavior. Do you value who you are?

 

Owww... getting outed by your mom is rough, but please don't hold a grudge for that. She was probably trying to help even if she was misguided. I know it's a little difficult to look on the bright side right now, but as you said, your sis is there to help you. Something to consider is if you decide to be yourself around your dad and he flips out and turns his back on you, Do you really need him? Yes, he may never speak to you again, but would you want to speak to him if he can't even accept you?

Now a word of caution about coming out ro him officially. Some people have beliefs so deep that they may do something that you never thought they would. Ask yourself this, Is his reaction likely to get violent? If so, it may be best to wait awhile. I know that's a hard thing to do, but if you die you will never be able to find happiness. Take precautions and be smart. Having the police nearby may be a smart move in case the worst thing should happen.

Never forget who you are though and do what you feel is right. I hope this helps.

 

If things get bad hun, go live with your sister. Trust me. I moved in with my sister about a year ago because my mom was treating me really bad, and things got so much better afterward. You need to be in an environment where you are loved and supported for exactly who you are. Good luck, and don't worry, things will get better (*hug*)

 

I also want to add that I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. A parent should love you for who you are, not for who they want you to be. You are perfect just the way you are, your dad is just ignorant. Don't let his words effect you too much. What he said is not a reflection of you, but rather a reflection of poor parenting from him.

If you ever need someone to talk to, you can always message me.

 

sometimes u gotta pray that kind of bigotry leaves nd hold ur tongue ,as much as i wanna tell off my dad off i cant bc hes my dad and pray that ignorance leaves him bc hes so loving.

 

Pardon me for being blunt about this, but the bold speaks for itself. Your dad is being a jerk; he seems to have no compassion. If someone refuses to listen to you and constantly belittles your feelings then you are almost certainly better off without him. Has he ever actually been supportive of you or showed that he cares? I'm trying to not be too critical of him, but it sounds like he's not all that great of a person. Perhaps if you can find out why he feels that way you can work from there and better your relationship with him. He may be doing this out of some misguided protection instinct or something, but I don't have enough info to help you more than this at this point. Ideally I would like to see your family get over this rough spot together and come out of it stronger, but sometimes you can't get what you'd like. All I can say is, try to salvage this, but be ready to sever ties if there are no other options.

(p.s. it may take time for everyone to come to an understanding, so if you proceed with this please take you time)

 

So your dad has a history of kicking his kids out over their sexuality? I really think moving in with your sister would be best... this is not a safe environment to feel happy and be yourself.