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Is it still a phase?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by ZenMusic, Feb 14, 2014.

  1. ZenMusic

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    Right, so it's been a year since I found out I like boys, Do you still think it's a phase?
     
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    No, and nor do you judging by your other posts...
     
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    Hm, I wish my mum could believe that....
     
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    Regardless of what your parents think, your sexuality is not a phase. You know who you are and who you like.
     
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    I tried to cling to the phase idea well into my thirties. Being gay was supposedly a sin. Please don't make the same mistake. Phases last for months not years.
     
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    That's nice to know. Sometimes I get paranoid and think that I'm just straight and confused. Especially when I talk to my mom about my sexuality.
     
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    IMO, there's no such thing as a phase. At any given moment, you have certain attractions to a specific subset of people, sometimes not even the same gender. These attractions may change over time, but it doesn't mean one attraction was more correct than the other. It's primarily society that has forced us to think being not-straight is a phase, while being straight is being normal.
     
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    I agree with that to a certain extent.. You tend to even out over the course of your life and stop having certain other attractions, i.e if you're straight you can have gay attractions here and there and eventually not any more, and vice versa. Depends on your sexual preferences, but for the most part, I'm pretty sure nobody is strictly straight/gay (Or atleast had thoughts pertaining to them)
     
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    I think some people are genuinely confused about what constitutes attraction.
     
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    I have to disagree with you on that, if only because of my own personal experience.

    @Oceanic Only you can know or not really although, going by your posts, I'd say it isn't.
     
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    Sure, it's just a phase. That will likely last until you die. :slight_smile:
     
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    My Mum only thinks it's a phase because my older sister thought she was a Lesbia when she was 16, but she now has a son, even though she still likes women.
     
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    I think your mom is afraid of having another child being gay, so she tries to hide it and maybe even wash the idea out of your brain.
    First of all its good that she doesn't condemn you, so what she needs is time to digest the idea, and until then, as others say, accept yourself for who you are, do what YOU love to do :slight_smile: