Whats a guy to do...

Wow... o.o

I really don't have much other to say than that. I'm sorry. But if there were any a time to smoke a joint, this would definitely be it.

 

He pretty much said it, although I don't agree with the joint thing, drugs/pot/whatever is never a good thing, in my eyes.

Wow, just wow.

 

Wow that is like...oh my god, i cant imagine what you are feeling. But good thing to know is that people here will be here for you in this like, beyond horrible time you must be experiencing. :\

 

Wow... I'm so sorry!!

 

I really want to say, "sorry", "I hope you feel better", but I can't. The fact that you are calling her 'cunt' and saying 'This will haunt me forever... I hope it haunts her... she deserves it...' just sounds juvenile. You can't make someone have a kid and it IS her choice when it comes down to things.

Maybe she knew you would act exactly how you are acting now, so instead of dealing with that at a tough juncture in her life; she chose to keep you in the dark. I don't really blame her. Also, you say you've always dreamed of having a child? That's cool, there is always adoption. I'm sure you could look into that and find a loving child.

 

Wow, I can't really grasp what you're feeling right now because I've never been through it.

Perhaps though it is for the best. Even at 16 you may have all the motivation in the world to be a father-- and that's great, but you very likely lack the financial stability to take care of a child. Raising a child is expensive and they'll suck up 18 years of your life. You've just entered the workforce and it will be very hard, next to impossible to be able to raise a child, finish school and work (possibly two jobs). That doesn't leave much room for college/university/etc. so that's 18 years of stress and little sleep.

As much of a loss you're going through right now, it would probably be beneficial to wait until you're older and you have a solid job where you could reasonably afford to support yourself and a child. There will be other opportunities to have a child down the road and it would be in your best interest (and your child's) to wait until you're financially ready.

 

I am really sorry! She really should have told you...

 

I'd hit the schnaps hard if I was you.

Damn.

I'm sorry that happened.

 

She did take something irreplaceable from you. But you almost certainly weren't in any position, financially or emotionally, to care for it.

Lex

 

I'm really sorry to hear about that.

Dreams can sometimes reveal things we never knew.

 

The way I see this, she did what she thought was right. It can be a scary thing to go through pregnancy and give birth, especially at a young age, and as I said, she did what she thought was right. Even though you may feel that you would be a good father, it's very hard to be at a young age because children are very expensive to raise, especially if you want to give them a good life.

 

^well i mean that is the rationality of it all. But when it comes to like severe emotional hurting, you dont always think with your head. And even if you come to understand what is indeed true, that still doesnt take the hurt away. So sometimes you just have to vent to let it all out

 

I can sympathize but as many people have already said, you might not have been ready to raise a child. Now I don't know your age so this could be false but if you're young this may have been a good move on her part but, I certainly don't think it was the best. I am against abortions, and I know that this is easier said than done (especially by someone else) but putting the child for adoption in my opinion would've been the best option.

This may sound silly but I have a quote from King of the Hill that might help you calm down:
"I can't change the past, but the only think I can do is show you that you're overreacting."
The past is past and there's nothing one can do to change it. It may be hard at first or seem impossible but the best thing you can be thinking about is moving with your boyfriend to California and getting married- then adopting a child once you're completely ready and it's all planned out. ( As your profile says. :] )

I truly hope you get better.

 

Yeah, wounds heal. It just takes time. And we're all here for you. *hugs*

 

I hope you realize how hypocritical you're being. You're mad because she didn't even "consider" you in the whole affair, or didn't inform you. Yet, you're not even considering her position on the matter before you deemed her a cunt.