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Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by Nicholas1991, Feb 18, 2014.

  1. Nicholas1991

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    Does anyone else find it weird when straight guys - or girls as well - say something along the lines of that they're fine with LGBT people but then say something like 'just not around me' or 'keep it out of my face' or that they don't want to see two guys/girls being affectionate?

    it seems like the same as 'i'm not racist but...'. like, they're homophobic but know that people will call them on it maybe (?). it kinda annoys me to be honest, like at least with 'proper' homophobes you know where you stand. if you're a bigot just come out (no pun intended) and say it.
     
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    IMO they want to think of themselves as "cultured" so they won't HATE you but they don't want to be around you, meaning they are homophobes but don't want to think of themselves like that.
     
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    I'd rather those people just say that they don't like gay people. It's better than saying that they have no problems with gay people as long as they're not gay in public. Like being LGBT in public is analogous to someone with the flu in a crowded movie theater.

    They can be gay all they want, as long as they're quarantined while they're being gay. :rolle:
     
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    Exactly its like, at least have the guts to be honest - we have to so why shouldnt you.
     
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    Or when they start talking about how they wish they were gay and how much easier it'd be :dry:

    Or think that having a gay friend entitles them to say gay slurs.
     
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    Or when they make up a Gallifreyan alphabet, memorize Elvish and learn Klingon, yet blurt out shit like "cis isn't a real word" and "how am I supposed to know all these sexualities" :dry:
     
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    "It's okay when a member of the opposite sex is gay, just not when someone of the same sex is."
     
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    Or "I have no problem with gay people but I don't think they should be able to get married"
     
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    Around where I work .... The guys are all hot and bothered by two girls kissing and touching ... But just bothered by the thought of two guys kissing or touching ...
     
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    I've heard my mother say 'I don't mind gays, but I don't think it's natural' .

    Gays and lesbians can't be exempt from this, I do find it quite annoying when they say that absolutely everyone is a little big gay or bi, or something to that effect, if I'm honest.
     
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    Something pretty shocking I got that was close to this was "I support gay marriage, because that's probably the right thing to do, but I don't support the demands of the rest of the LGBT community" like... REALLY. You don't support people working hand in hand without prejudice of differences? Obviously this guy didn't, because he mocked me whenever I told him that was the goal of the LGBT community and that was what I was fighting for. My conversation with him left me utterly shocked that anybody would truly hate the idea of equality.
     
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    People who say things like that are ignorant and homophobic. I used to have a friend who was like that. She would say "I don't have an issue with gay people, but I don't think there should be a family with two moms on TV because it sets a bad example for children". I find that really stupid. If you think gay people set a bad example for children, then you do have a problem with us.
     
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    Holy crap, that's disgusting. How is a loving environment portrayed on TV a bad example for children? Just because there's two moms? It's like she's saying being gay is synonymous with being an alcoholic or a drug dealer. Do you know how many hetero parents are on Jerry Springer and Maury? Just because there's a mother and a father does NOT mean that the kids are better off. It's like "Let our kids grow up thinking that having gay parents is something they should be ashamed of". That statement gets me really heated. You're okay with gay people, but you want to effectively shove them back in the closet because you think they're a bad influence. Go away. Ugh.
     
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    My ex friend was like this when I first came out...to the point where he would get all weird and bent out of shape if I so much as casually remarked about a guy I thought was cute on tv, or even if I brought up anything LGBT related. Typical dumbass straight though...he hated the thought of two men together but that didn't stop him from filling up most of his hard drive with lesbian porn.
     
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    It's like saying "I'm fine with black people, but I don't want them around me."

    The thing that irks me is that people act like gays are super sexual deviants and dirty, with the whole "setting a bad example for children" thing. It reminds me when parents freaked out over Paranorman (which is a great movie, by the way) when one of the male characters had a small line saying his "boyfriend is a chick flick nut." It was cute and harmless. But it's ok if a male character kisses a female in an animated movie.

    My mother says the same stuff with "I like gay people, but I don't think they should get married." I ask her why. She can only reply with "well marriage should be between a man and a woman." I still ask her why she thinks that. She can't give a straight answer. It's sad because apparently she used to stick up for this boy in her high school who was gay who got bullied all the time, and she had a crush on him haha. Said gay friend is now a very wealthy, successful architect in NYC.

    Maybe when I come out to her, she'll have a change of heart when someone super close to her is gay.

    What really sets me off are the straight guys who are perfectly ok with lesbians, but are completely repulsed by gay men. HEY, IT'S OK IF IT TURNS THEM ON.

    *headdesk*
     
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    this is absurd! i just hate those kinds of people!!!
     
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    ^ Don't. Hatred will get you exactly the opposite of where you want to be.
     
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    Ah man, Springer and Maury...I have a guilty pleasure in watching those shows.
    I know plenty of hetero couples who are terrible parents (dad in jail, split up after having a kid, child support, having more kids for more child support, ect)
    It irks me when people say that the kid will grow up wrongly because he/she doesn't have either the father or mother figure in his/her life.

    Reminds me of a post I saw on tumblr. Someone has lesbian parents, and a stranger asked him if he ever got bullied for it. He said his biggest problem was this:
    are there any downsides to having lesbian parents? like were you ever bullied for it when you were little?

    :lol:
     
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    Omg, I've seen that post so many times on my dash. Haha. I love it. :lol:
     
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    Straight guys who are weirded out by gay guys but think lesbians are "hot" are the worst. They basically treat lesbians as objects for their own pleasure, which is gross, demeaning and misogynistic.