This is the sister of one of my best friends, she's 13 and she's just told me she's considering killing herself. She hates her mother (her mother is a REALLY difficult person to live with, she has moodswings all the time and takes it out on her kids) she thinks nobody cares about her, and she gets teased in school sometimes because she's dyslexic and the special needs department in school is practically nonexistent. I'm trying to talk her out of it but I'm no good at this, PLEASE give me some things to say to her.
Befriend her. Just being there for someone is the best thing you can do. Tell her that she won't have to live with her mother forever and high school will go away too and she won't have to deal with that shit anymore when she's a little older. It can get so much better.
Be blunt when it comes to suicidal thoughts. Ask her if she has a plan. If she does, ask her if she has the means to carry out that plan. If this is a recurring theme or if she is very serious about it, to be honest I would call 911 or at least encourage her to go to the ER
Where is she? go and be there for her if you can, let her know that shes loved and people will be devastated if she leaves. dont talk too much, just listen and let her vent. let her know you understand. if you dont know what else to do, Something they taught us in college is if you think that she really will do it, try make a deal with her - an agreement just to just wait 24 hours, and buy some time and trust.
Stay with her, let her talk to you, just listen to what she has to say. Show her that you care for her.
Well be their listen to her and try to comfort her. I am not sure what else their is to do, but urge her to seek professional help from a psychologist as soon as possible.
I did tell her that her mother won't be around her whole life but she thinks that she will be. Her mother is really overprotective and tries to pry into everything she does and keeps shouting at her, no matter what she does. She thinks she isn't normal (because she has dyslexia) and mother keeps comparing her to her elder brother who's a REALLY academically oriented person so it isn't easy for her. She lives sort of far away; an hours bus ride, and buses don't run this late (it's 9:30 pm where I am) but I've told her I'll go and meet her tomorrow and try to help her see things more clearly.
I think she just needs someone to talk to. I'm not saying she's not serious about her suicidal thoughts, but it looks like she is at least reaching out to people for help. That's a good sign. Just support her and let her know that there will always be people in her life that will be there for her.
Befrienders Worldwide | Emotional support to prevent suicide worldwide Check out the website for useful hints and tips and details of suicide prevention helplines across the world. Listen lots and be a trusted friend. Reassure her that you are there for her and don't use emotional blackmail. It's not about talking someone out of it, it's about offering time, space and kindness to build up trust so she can talk freely and openly about her feelings. Whatever you do, don't break her confidence as it will shatter her and bring up the drawbridge... if you are struggling with this and need to confide in someone, please do, but choose who you talk to very carefully. Don't confide in a gossipy person who will tell everyone else.
Hey I have dyslexia too but in math the problem with desi people is that they don't understand . Have u seen tare zameen par? That movie tells a take about a dyslexia boy and his family doesn't understand him. Watch that movie with her and try to talk to specialists that can help her overcome it
