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are men ok with other women being lesbians but not their daughters ?

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  1. stocking

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    Well I saw my dad (rest his soul )doing something I shouldn't have but I had forgotten about it and just remembered recently and found it very hypocritical of my dad . When I was a little girl I kissed another girl and my dad caught us together and beat me . A few years later my dad and his friends invited two women over I don't know if they were bi or whatever but they were putting on a lesbian performance for my dad and his friends . I was sleeping and they woke me up with all the noise . Apparently the two girls were kissing each other and even dry humping each other and my dad and his friends were cheering them on . I found it shocking that it was ok for these women to do that and not ok for me to kiss a girl .
    I whispered to my dad "you really like this dad ?"
    I remember him jumping up shocked that I was there and he pulled me aside and told me to go to bed and forget what I saw . I told him why is it ok for those two women to kiss each other but not me and my dad got mad and told me to just go back to bed .
    That was the first time I learned that men are turned on by lesbians but don't want their daughters to be lesbian . My father was being a hypocritical. What's wrong having a lesbian daughter ?
     
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    It's the "it's ok with me as long as it's not my kid" mentality.
     
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    Some men are, because some men see it as nothing more than a sex thing.

    If one girl is good, then two must be better, right?

    But he doesn't want you to be seen as a sex object. Where it gets hypocritical is you can almost bet he doesn't think HE might be objectifying lesbians.
     
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    Lesbians are not sex objects even if I admit to being aroused when I see it.
    If I ever have children I will love them no matter what.
     
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    It's kinda like when men are okay with gay friends, but flip if their son comes out to them. There's a lot of reasons they flip out. First, it's a shock, basic human reaction to a shock, freak out. Second he might have silly thoughts that he shan't ever get grandchildren. (My dad's reaction when he caught me snogging his friend's nephew.) But they might also be afraid for you. Let's be honest, in the school yard and in the office, people are more accepting of heterosexuals, because it's 'normal', He wouldn't want to see his daughter be bullied and his way of stopping that, stop you from liking girls, which I assume didn't happen. XD

    As for the men liking lesbians thing, It's because he's a straight man, seeing two women doing the dirty is gonna turn him on. XD It's because he likes women, so the chances of seeing two women together rather than a woman and a man, is gonna appeal more to him. :stuck_out_tongue_closed_eyes: I hope I helped. :3
     
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    My dad is the same way. He once told me that the Bible says that it's a woman's obligation to sleep with men; I told him I was agnostic, and I DON'T GIVE A FLYING FUCK what that book says about my sexuality. He's into a lot of porn and it wouldn't shock me at all if he watches lesbian porn.
     
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    Humans are hypocrites. They have always been and will always be.
     
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    Someone give a medal to this woman :icon_bigg
     
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    I will be ok with it. Also it would be cool to discovering that my daughter (if i had one, i dont have childs) have one more thing in common with me.

    ---------- Post added 15th Mar 2014 at 12:35 PM ----------

    (Attraction toward women)
     
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    He probably didn't think those girls were lesbians. After all, they're putting on a show for a man.
     
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    I do not know why to be honest. It seems hypocritical, but we as humans are hypocritical. I know that at least for my family it is not be big of a deal. My twin sister is gay and there have been only a few problems, but it was not with my Dad, he could care less.

    My brother's girl-friend, however, was being rude and my sister blew up on her and it has been fine since. It also has helped that since my brother and girl-friend just had a daughter, and have been asked how they would react if she is gay, and my brother said and I quote, "hey, no teenage pregnancy".
     
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    Me being a lesbian kinda explained why I never wanted to to have sex with guys as a teen don't get me wrong I still wanted sex but not with guys I just wanted to have sex to have sex . My parents always talked about how I'm a good girl that's why I didn't get pregnant . If I knew I liked girls back then and I was lesbian I would have been having sex by then .
     
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    My grandfather (who's pretty much a stand-in for my father) says he's not okay with gay men but is okay with lesbians, for whatever reason. But then when my cousin recently came out as a lesbian, he seemed grossed out. Seems a little hypocritical, no? I am fairly certain that I'm just not going to tell him of my sexuality.
     
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    Very I don't get how their like that why is it wrong for their daughters to love women I mean I get how your worried about your daughter having a hard life but to say it's disgusting that's a bit too far
     
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    Wow no shocker

    my fiancee's brother told her that it was okay if two women slept together, but it wasnt okay for her to sleep with another woman.

    He has lesbian friends and admited he'd like two women together and would join them if it were possible, but that is was wrong for her to be lesbian. Then he spouted some stuff about god to her.
    I was like "what a hypocrite""
     
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    Their only fine with it when they can hop into be with you and your girlfriend . :dry:
    I even got bashed by a bunch of straight dudes on another site for being lesbian and boy did they throw the bible at me :tantrum:
     
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    You're too kind, thank you! :grin:
     
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    I'll give you a clap too :eusa_clap
     
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    i dont really see gender or attraction but I still never got the straight guy obsession with lesbians.

    I have known guys get all worked up over the idea of it and its true its the well 1 girl is great then 2 must be awesome... and I just think... mate you do realise you have less than 0% chance here right? why get so worked up if you've got no chance =/

    Im sure theres some rationalisation ... but I cant work it out.

    as for the question whats wrong with a daughter being a lesbian... nothing... If I was a dad I would just be happy, loved and safe.
     
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    Oh stop it, you.
     

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