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Did anyone ever reply to a CL personals ad?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by apostrophied, Mar 22, 2014.

  1. apostrophied

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    Just wondering.

    I sometimes look at the w4w section just for fun/curiosity, when I have nothing to do. Every once in a while, I see an ad that I actually would really want to reply to, but I never do... It's rare, since I'm not looking for sex, never mind a hookup, and most people there seem to be looking for just that, but once in a while, there's someone who catches my attention by focusing on things other than sex. Just today, I saw an ad that really interested me, I guess. I don't know why I don't answer, I think I'm shy and I rationalize it by telling myself I don't have time for stuff like that (which is true, yet if you don't make the move at one point...).

    I know very well that there are lots and lots of weirdos on CL. But I can't help but think that a few people posting there are genuine and not psychos. Did anyone ever answer such an ad? Especially if you weren't looking for just sex. What came out of it?
     
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    It's too risky for me, but I enjoy going on there and looking at some of the, uh, pretty pictures, if you know what I mean...and thinking "what if?"
     
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    I can't afford to reply to an AD on there.. Its way to risky for me.. I'm like a huge moving target..I'm a bi trans girl with a major speech disorder.. Lols, its not worth my safety.
     
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    Yeah there are crazies but have you been searching the 'seeking' sections only? There's a platonic section that, although some of the 'crazies' occasionally sneak in, is mostly people looking to have someone to hang out with or do things with.

    If you mean like looking to get to know someone like for maybe a date or something, just no sex, then I can see that being an issue.

    As for the risk thing, just steer away from any 'personal' time with someone you only just started talking to and do something public.
     
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    What's CL?
     
  6. apostrophied

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    Craigslist, you know the ad site? Where you can sell anything from your kitchen set to your car to your littler of puppies to your grandma and everything in between. They also have personals.

    ---------- Post added 22nd Mar 2014 at 06:31 PM ----------

    I look at the platonic section sometimes, but I see the number 420 wayyy too often in there. Plus many of them are m4w and that's not really going to work for me because I can't know in advance what they really want.

    The ad I saw tonight was really short, and what really caught my interest was this sentence: "I'd be interested in sharing some light intimacies like handholding or kissing but there's no pressure." (The rest of the ad expressed the desire to meet someone to get to know each other). Let's just say that this sounded like a breath of fresh air after all the "threesome/420/I have a bf but he won't know about this/oh look, here's a picture of my :***:" etc.

    I probably have too much time on my hands (or rather, I use my limited time poorly lol).
     
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    Actually, I go there sometimes and the apps (I have a blank profile, no pic of me :lol:slight_smile: to see who I can recognize, just for kicks. I want to meet someone the old fashioned way.

    TRUE STORY: On an app, I found my sister's 5th grade teacher there. I asked my sister if he had a girlfriend or was dating and she said no. I have a feeling I know why :roflmao:. When she's old enough (18+), she will die laughing when she hears this.
     
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    Ah, OK, I know of it. Margaret Cho mentioned it in one of her comedy specials.

    Can you really trust them? I mean even here in the UK we heads about the craigslist murders.
     
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    But what's the difference between CL and any free dating site, really, other than the fact the you can buy your dining room set on it, too? I think most people who got murdered were probably playing risky... But yes, there is always an element of risk, you are right.
     
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    I wanted to replay when I was 18 to have sex with other women but was too chicken to call
     
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    Lol! Trolling around dating sites is so much fun, I do it all the time and gave recognized so many people whom I'd seen around at school. I've surely been recognized by others, too, though. Oh well.
     
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    I have, we went on a couple of dates, but it didn't go anywhere.
     
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    That is so damn funny. I sort of went onto Facebook incognito to do the same and then joined the ranks the normal way.

    Craigslist? I've only used it to sell some furniture on 2 occasions. I didn't even like that. You know ... sitting there and wondering if their 20 dollar bills are real and wishing you had one of those lights or pens to check them. I also like to see if certain types of cars are for sale. I've called on a few of those, to hear the details. Then, the people are so flaky that you really don't want to proceed any further.

    For more personal things, my answer would be a resounding no. I think the Boston Univ. medical student from a few years ago who was using the risque parts of Craigslist for all the wrong reasons gives me the willies and anything other than furniture and maybe (a big maybe) cars is off limits.
     
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    I actually found my husband on CL. He had posted an add looking for friends just to hang out with. I responded not looking for a BF really, but it just happened after we started hanging out. We dated for about 2 years before traveling to Iowa to get married.
     
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    Wow, what a nice story! What caught your eye in his initial post that made you want to reply?
     
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    I never respond to the m4m ads, but I look at the missed connections ads. I've posted a few times there whenever I want to try to find someone I was attracted to or had a crush on, but there's been no luck with just random people who obviously don't fit the description replying. However, I have talked to some of them and even gave my name to one who had been really nice.

    I'm still too paranoid to get an actual app on my phone; though, I sometimes wonder if that's what's happening when a cute guy who trips my gaydar looks at his phone.
     
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    Ah Craigslist... I wanted to check it out for once, you know out of curiosity. That was the day I seriously thought about turning straight... ugh never again.
     
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    I recently bought a car via Craigslist. It went pretty smooth. Only downside is that it was an hour and a half away, but I got a good deal on the car I wanted.
     
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    Never.

    Although there have been times I have gone to read the ads for entertainment.:icon_redf Both intellectual--I can't believe this ad!--and...er...titilation. Sometimes I also enjoy the pictures. Some are hot. Some are more intellectually amazing, like seeing a penis that would make a porn star feel inadequate. Then there was one photo of cute little puppy dogs, and I am still puzzled what that has to do with a fast hookup. Maybe I don't want to know...

    There have been times I've been tempted to respond, but fortunately I resist. The real problem was back in the years before EC. At times, I'd be tempted just to have an experience with a man. But the horror stories about people meeting up with reincarnation of Jack the Ripper who'd advertised, plus the vibe those ads gave off, was enough to make me say thanks, but no thanks. Since joining EC, my interest in any sort of anonymous hookup has dropped rather dramatically. Right now, I realize I want something more. Maybe not "until death do us part." But I am not really interested in: "you will enter my dark motel room, where I am checked in under a fake name. I will be lying on the bed, naked, and blindfolded. You will shove your :***: into my :***: until I scream." Perhaps I have impossibly high standards, but before having sex, I'd like to at least know the guy's name...
     
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    I used it when I was younger, most people on there are in the same boat; closeted....etc.

    Of course there are some weirdo's, but you never meet someone you don't talk to, have proof of what they look like, and know nothing about.

    Many people on there are willing to get to know you first, and many people on there are deeply closeted, beyond my grasp; they are the type that would never use a forum like this because it's "too gay".

    One funny thing is I used to see ads for people I knew including a couple kids I would've never suspected to be gay in my town. Including someone I know's father.