If a guy gives me his number and I didn't call does this make me a bad person?

No way. I've done the same thing. If I'm not interested in a guy I just don't call because why bother? Maybe that's just me lol but it's an annoyance if I'm not interested because if a guy asked for my number and is interested in me, he tends to be aggressive and that's just annoying if I don't like him. So I'd say it's no different for you just cause you're gay. You just aren't interested, that doesn't make you a bad person at all

 

It probably wouldn't hurt to call to at least observe where his mindset is. Who knows l, he may just want to talk sometime and make a new friend...or, if he really is like you feel and since you didn't ask for it, it might be better not to.

Do you see him often?

 

Stocking...seriously...if somebody chooses to give you something, there is *never* an obligation on your behalf. Get over that mindset...it's a total male/female double-standard. As women we're supposed to feel whatever obligations we're handed...and we do. But that doesn't mean they're real, genuine obligations. Ask yourself, if a woman gives a man her number, is he *obligated* to call her? Of course not!

But ok, plain English: NO, you're not a bad person for not calling. Especially if you're a lesbian, it would be pointless to call...what...to tell him you're not interested in guys?? If he *really* wants to hear that, let him track you down and call you!

Try to take life a little less seriously...allow yourself the luxury of making your own rules. Such as: you are not beholden to advances by men...them giving you their number is not some kind of Holy Grail that you must honor. Lots of other possibilities...think about them. And have fun doing so!

 

I have the exact same problem!

 

Countless people have gave me their contact information like numbers, I just say thanks and than just throw away everything and never ever contact them........ It does not make you a bad person

 

No need to be sorry...it is how we're raised, and it's in the nature of our society. But you are your *own* person. You decide how your own world works. You have such Power inside you; all you have to do is tap into it. As my friend Kimberly Dark says, "We create our own worlds...make yours a good one!"

Men are fine creatures, surely (well, sheesh, I am bisexual after all). But they are far from the be-all-end-all that society teaches us they are. They deserve no less respect than we receive...but they also deserve no more respect than they show us.

 

Nah you did the right thing. If you called he would prolly think you're interested. I had plenty girls do this to me, never made me think any less of them.