If you could say one thing to someone who bullied you, what would it be? There was once this girl way back in junior high who bullied me all the time. I never even said "boo" to her, but she just randomly beat me up out of the blue one day and I didn't even know her name. All through jr high she beat me up all the time, to this day I have no idea why. In high school she just verbally abused me, especially after people found out I was dating a girl. Well, I saw her in the local convenience store today. Over the years I had thought of all these things I was going to say to her if I ever saw her again. I was in front of her and wouldn't you know, right in front of my kid, she shoved me out of the way to go in front of me? I didn't even have a thing to say to her! This is more than ten years later! Why would she still want to confront me like that when I had never, not even once, done a thing to her? Instead of saying one thing that I had built up, I simply stood my ground, taking my proper turn before her with a smile on my face. She gave me dirty looks and called me names, and I didn't even defend myself. By the time she had checked out, I was sitting in my car and she came out, still angry and running her mouth. That's when I realized why I didn't say anything, because I hadn't needed to. Over ten years and she couldn't get over me? Her life must be miserable if all she can do is bully people. Now, if I see her again, I won't feel fearful, grudgingly, or any animosity. All I'll ever be able to feel for her again is pity. Please understand I mean this with my whole heart when I say, I am so sorry that your life is the way it is. I hope one day you can find peace. (&&&)
In high school a guy bullied me because I never said more than 10 words a day, he'd make me feel awkward by asking dumb questions and literally laughing obnoxiously at menial things I did, like standing up from a chair or something. Right in front of everybody too! Other things he did were bad, but I won't go into it much. If I could say something to him, it'd be something along the lines of "I hope you die alone and depressed." :icon_sad: I'm spiteful I know. I know he might have changed since then but still, idk, I'm a terrible person haha...
I was reading this several hours ago and pondering a response but sadly I can't think of one. I don't think I would say anything to the people who bullie...wait no, I think what I would say to them is: "Why are you bullying me?" Actually, I did that one time to a guy that was making my life a living hell and evidently he was just being mean to me because I was being mean to him. A sort of fair thing for him to do. But honestly, I don't think I would say anything. Yeah sure, by doing that, I would appear weak and unauthoritative to them but by not responding to them, they would see that their efforts are uneffective. I found this out last year because I was being cyberbullied through UNT confessions and everytime I would respond, a single person or multiple people would hide behind anon and cyberbully me some more.
If I was in that situation, I probably would ignore them, as they would not be worth my time. It's not likely to come up for me though, because when I was younger, anyone who tried to bully be usually ended up with a punch in the mouth. Fortunately, I've matured beyond that kind of behaviour though.. Happy days
It's not quite the same, but I have learned that forgiving someone who hurt you is the best gift you can give to yourself. But it can be so hard...
I would actually say thanks. Then mock them. ---------- Post added 30th Mar 2014 at 08:31 PM ---------- Reason says I only forgive them, instinct says to attack as well as forgive.
