If you're a lesbian and you like a girl, who cares if she's bi? If you are gay and you like a trans guy then whatever. If you like someone who's bigender, or who had no gender, cool. Love is love and is never wierd. You don't need to ask other people if it's "normal" or "okay" Isn't that what we all want? To love who we want without being judged? Just love. That's all
A voice of reason!!! My hat's off to you. I agree 100%. I am a straight guy. I would date a lesbian, a bisexual, or a straight woman. I would date a woman who was cis or trans. And none of this would change my gender or sexual identity nor would it need to change hers. I am not threatened by any of these women because I RESPECT ALL OF THEM. The same should apply for EVERYONE ELSE. What we need is not division or bigotry or policing of identities. What we need is a shared understanding that ALL of our identities are valid, natural, and cannot be usurped by another's identity. Love is love. And after all, all you need is love. :icon_wink
I appreciate your encouragement. Many of us feel limited by heteropatriarchy. Until we destroy it, people are always going to be meekly asking if they are normal or acceptable.
I totally get the feeling of wanting to be normal, as a bisexual I hear a lot of negativity, but I'm gaining clarity. I am not normal, but no one is. I am me. That's all
I have no desire to be normal whatsoever. I'm queer, and that's informed my philosophical view so much that I consider it a very important part of myself. I just mean for the other poor people who are faced with the false antithesis of being gay, bi, trans, or asexual while at the same time seeking validation from the heteropatriarchy. I'm sorry you hear a lot of negativity. I mostly just read it... (*hug*)
Thanks for this, Cass. It's important for constant reminders about this in a community where doubt, behaviour policing, and self-hatred are too common. Positivity is great, and clear affirmation and encouragement is vital in making sure we accept ourselves.
Hey, Pret Allez..you must fence...I teach fencing at the base I am stationed at. I was going though this thread because the words of wisdom and hope everyone posted. I think love, attraction and the like shouldn't matter. I am still finding myself in all this, but this community is inspiring.
Second this, matter of fact I'd love to have a bi or trans boyfriend. If you're a guy and you're awesome then I'll like you ;-; it's just that simple
A friend of mine said to me at one point " there is no normal, just an accepted form of difference" And that was well said There arnt many people i have come across who think of it in such a posative way
