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When People say, "You're not gay"

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  1. Motto

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    Does anybody else have people in their lives who insist that they are not gay? I am a Christian, and my pastor who has long been a close friend even before he became my pastor continues to tell me that he doesn't think I'm gay. He says that the Bible teaches that God does not intend for people to be gay, so I must just be believing a lie about who I am. He knows that I believe I'm gay and that I think God created me this way. He is an older man who was raised in the deep south by homophobic people and he is wrestling with his own stereotypes and beliefs about gay people, but his kids who have also been good friends of mine for a long time are pretty accepting of who I am. I don't want to get into a big theology discussion, because that's not really the point of this thread.

    I just want to know how people handle when close friends or family say that they are not whatever they have come out as.
     
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    I just ignore it most the time.
     
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    This is why I don't bother coming out.
     
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    My Nigerian Dad.
     
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    Free the dogs.
     
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    I once had a friend ask me enough times whether I was being serious or not that I offered to show him my internet history if he wanted proof...he said no and took my word for it
     
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    My grandmother said that I couldn't possibly be gay because I'm too masculine. I just laughed it off - it didn't bother me.
     
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    Thanks for the correction :slight_smile: In fact it seemed a little forced :grin:
     
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    In one particular case, rely on a friend to phone another friend 6,000 miles away just to confirm it.
     
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    I'm a Christian too an I deal with this. The bible actually dosent say anything about this though
    It's not a solid argument
    Just be you. God loves you
     
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    I have only been told that "you're not gay" twice, both times reacting different.
    First - I kept telling the person and talking to them and trying to show them science articles of how being gay is simply who I am! They weren't receptive, and still arent.
    Second - I ignored their words and just lived my life introducing them to my girlfriends and showing them how happy I was with her and how much love there really was in our relationship. Soon they accepted that being with another girl is who I am and what made me happy.

    Honestly I haven't come out to my church yet (Anglican) and I don't think I will until I move and find another church, but that's the scariest person/people I think there is to come out to. Not all Christians are homophobic (obviously) but people are "expected" to put up a face sometimes :frowning2: Stupid I know.
     
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    Just tell them they arent straight , because you have just as much evidence to back that claim as they would theirs .

    Thats what I do at school , it makes people either think about what they are saying , or call us crazy .
     
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    I agree, the bible doesn't say anything about this.
    This is a very lighthearted but gives lots of bible verses that help remember God loves us.

    The bible also originally referred to "eunich" where we translated that to "homosexual" but the actual definition is here

    Search for the post for the word eunich and read what the poster says, it's a great explanation.
     
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    I have a friend who, after about a year since I came out to him, said he still doesn't believe I'm gay. He says I must be bi.

    His reasoning is somewhat confusing but it had to do with the fact that I used to be into girls (though only emotionally) and that it has apparently been scientifically proven that one can somewhat force his sexuality towards one or both genders, or something ???

    I don't really get it but yeah.
     
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    My gay friend doesn't really believe I'm bisexual which is terribly frustrating having to prove my sexuality constantly.
     
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    I don't have to prove anything for anybody.
     
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    Many people who I've came out to didn't believe I'm bisexual. If I date a guy, they think I'm straight and I was just confused when I came out. If I date a girl, either I'm experimenting or I've turned lesbian. I used to feel forced to prove my orientation and I've only recently stopped caring. Pffff....

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    ^this (!)
     
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    I pull out my phone and show them my orientation line on EC.