My life has been changed forever

My grandmother is a survivor of breast cancer. But no fatalities.

Usually it is somewhat painless.

 

I'm sorry for what you're grandmother is going through.

If she's terminal, I would suggest you inquire about hospice care in lieu of conventional treatments. It is designed to increase the quality of life in the end stages. I've had great experiences with my grandmother's hospice team (Alzheimer's).

Again, sorry for what you're going through.

 

Really sorry to hear about this! I hope she has as less suffering as possible in this. I guess the thing to do is to just know more about what type of cancer it is & what is the best way to deal with the side effects of any treatment she may have. There are definitely ways to make the journey as comfortable as possible for them.

I hope you get to spend a lot of quality time with your grandma & family right now.
Take care! (*hug*)

 

It really depends on what kind of cancer it is. Cancers like breast cancer seem to have more survivors than people, with, say, lung cancer. Of which my grandmother died of (althought her autopsy says "natural causes").

 

I'm really sorry to hear your news. It pains me to say that I have lost a grandmother, my mum and younger sister to different forms of cancer. It is a shock to hear that someone you love has terminal cancer and numbs you and weighs very heavily on your mind. It's a b***ard of a thing that has cast a very heavy hand on my life, so I have some idea of what you must be experiencing.

With good palliative care and end of life support suffering can be greatly relieved. Hospice care is excellent and can reduce stress for all concerned in the final weeks and days. If it's not already been considered, do mention that to your mother.

If you need someone to talk to or bounce your feelings off, I'm here. (*hug*)

 

I'm sorry about your grandmother my aunt died of lung cancer three years ago. She didn't suffer but she was exhausted in the last few months she was alive. It's the same usually for most people with cancer.

 

I know it's scary. I've been there whith friends. Lucky I was too young to remember my grandad. Hopefully she won't suffer to much. If you need to talk message me :-D

 

Just know that everything you are thinking and everything you are feeling is totally "normal". I know that sounds stupid, cos there is nothing that feels normal about all the crap that goes with cancer.. the questions you ask yourself - why? why? why?, the thoughts that circle round and round in your mind, the worries, the anxieties, the sleepless nights, the waiting for calls/texts.. but yes, all of this is "normal" when you are confronted with cancer, apparently.

I've had tests because of my family history, but they came back negative. I've just been told to live a healthy lifestyle (which I try to do).

The only way I found to deal with this is to lean on people you love and care about and let them lean on you too. If support is available, take it with both hands and never, ever be afraid to say how you feel. I swore a hell of a lot and the subject still provokes me to swear more than anything else. I loathe cancer!

Around the person who's dying, just try to be (that word again) normal. It's really hard cos you know they are thinking the same as you, but many times multiplied, but if you try to keep things normal, cancer doesn't become the monster in the room.

It hurts like hell, I know. Don't bottle anything up.

 

im so sorry
my boyfriend lost his uncle to cancer and it was tough on him. my thoughts and prayers for you

 

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandmother's diagnosis. Three years ago I lost my father to leukemia. I didn't have much of a relationship with him so I didn't know he was sick until I learned of his death. I was however very close to my late maternal grandmother, I know how you feel.

Letting go of a loved one is a life-lesson we must all learn, eventually. You have a chance now to make her last days, and your own relationship with her, as beautiful as possible. This is not a chance I had with my own father.

There's a tremendous honesty that comes with knowing that the end is coming, make the most of your coming days with her and try to see these as an opportunity to express and celebrate your love as fully as possible.

 

My grandfather died of cancer. I'm really sorry to hear about your grandmother.