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What made you sure of your sexuality?

Discussion in 'Chit Chat' started by ChromeNerd, Apr 26, 2014.

  1. ChromeNerd

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    It was really about who I had fantasies with. My love story always consisted of me & a male, rather than me & a female.
     
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    There was this one time that I couldn't stop thinking of doing this one guy in the butt who I was in orchestra class with.

    That was writing on the wall.
     
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    I had a huge crush on my female friend (and later girlfriend), then found myself really wishing I could pound certain guys I passed by in town...

    And fantasies. That was a huge one. Really kinda leaned towards doing guys.
     
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    Originally (when I was using pansexual as the title for it), it was because I was attracted to various people, regardless of their gender. Then once I'd accepted that and started ignoring any comments about that I started to notice that the first thing that I always noticed in a person was how smart they were. They could have been model status and athletic or overweight and out of shape (body shape does matter, to the extent that I don't think someone who's 200 lbs overweight is that smart if they don't realize how detrimental that is), but even if I only saw them, I never really was attracted or repelled by them until I heard them talk/hold a conversation.

    How smart they are is the real target of my attraction--being fit is nice, and I'm not picky about how it's built--but everything else is just decoration. So...woo! sapiosexual!
     
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    Had a life devoid of crushes, sexual feelings, passionate romance, et cetera.

    I don't really understand what it feels like to want to 'do someone'...
     
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    Talking to a friend
     
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    My fantasies have been monopolized by guys for years. Either with me as a guy with a guy, or, more frequently, with me as a girl with a guy. (Sometimes it's me as a guy with a guy with him as a girl, if that makes sense.) Wasn't sure of my orientation, though, until I developed feelings for a guy.

    I'd say that's the most confusing post I've ever made, but it's really not. Not by a longshot. :eek:
     
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    Fantasies and crushes that I have had. That is what started my on this winding road that I am still unraveling.
     
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    For me, I really just quizzed myself. Do I really want to date guys? The answer to that was a no, and so I asked myself if I wanted to date girls instead. To that I replied a hearty yes, and that was pretty much that.

    Not a whole lot of soul searching. :grin:
     
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    Definitely fantasies.... :/ And also I concluded that I am just a pure bisexual by what someone had said on here actually :slight_smile: Helped me out a lot :slight_smile: And by pure bisexual I mean none of the romantic orientation...I did a lot of soul searching and had finally accepted it and found that I can be romantically, physically, and sexually attracted to both :slight_smile: Before I thought I was only romantically attracted to guys (heteromantic), but tis not the case :grin:
    Sorry if that was a little all over the place :/
     
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    I was sure once I had had my first gay relationship and tried to date a girl again. That didn't work and it felt like it all made sense and I was no longer in any doubt whatsoever.
     
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    I just never could imagine myself being in a relationship with a man or even be intimate with one. I remember when I had a sex ed class and the teacher was explaining about a male private area and I was just terrified. I thought to myself "That is supposed to go inside me!?!? OUCH." lol I had thoughts like that even before I knew I was gay.
     
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    I'm not really sure still myself
     
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    I knew when I had feelings for a girl and wanted a relationship and everything with her. I was never sure about anything with guys.
     
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    I was never attracted to any male; I found them to be at best, potential allies and intellectual "partners," and at worst to be weak and overly-loud competitors to be brushed aside. I understood this at age 9 but still gave it my best shot to be bisexual until I was 11. Clearly, it failed. :roflmao: For me, it's mostly that I don't find masculinity (physical or behavioral) even remotely attractive.
     
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    The fact that I was looking at guys and having fantasies instead of girls like my friends.
     
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    I have been more comfortable with the female lifestyle. I have always had problems adjusting to the male persona. I was forced into the male role but always wanted to gravitate to female activities. I've known since a child that I'm a girl. <3
     
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    The first porn I watched/masturbated to was gay porn. I later tried straight and les and nothing happend :newcolor:
     
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    A gradual buildup of evidence that I couldn't argue away.